I just found out my girlfriend is in another relationship now what?

[Randybrandt]

I knew I had my suspicions when she kept acting weird but I got my proof today after a mate of mine who happens to be friends with her on facebook and he said Kylie is in a relationship with Marques. Now what? I have my proof she never really officially dumped me but yet she is already in a relationship? I feel disgusted. What should I do? Leave things alone or make her life a living nightmare?

[smudge21]

Sorry, I'm confused - is she still your girlfriend or now your ex?

 

If she's your girlfriend and sleeping with someone else, then dump her, let her know you know the truth and walk out. Be the bigger person and move on quickly. However, if she's your ex and has met someone new then sadly there's nothing much you can do. Yeah, it sucks, but these things happen all the time. No point in wanting to hurt someone else as that will only end up making you look like the bad guy to everyone else and you'll end up feeling terrible. No reaction is sometimes the most powerful reaction.

 

It all depends on the circumstances.

[nofool4u]

I knew I had my suspicions when she kept acting weird but I got my proof today after a mate of mine who happens to be friends with her on facebook and he said Kylie is in a relationship with Marques. Now what? I have my proof she never really officially dumped me but yet she is already in a relationship? I feel disgusted. What should I do? Leave things alone or make her life a living nightmare?

 

 

Neither, you tell her up front she is a cheating piece of crap and tell her she is history.

[diskostu]

**** her. take pics. show the other dude.

[Randybrandt]

You want to her the beauty of this whole situation? I confronted her on skype saying my mate saw your status and he told me everything about your relationship and she said Randy you are so delusional! I told you a month ago we should be mates and it went in one ear and out the other as usual. I couldn't believe my eyes! I said I never said that and also said you were the one who was with me the other day talking about marriage and suddenly I am the delusional one? She never did message me back. Shocker.... She knew she was wrong.

[diskostu]

you should tell the guy she's in a relationship. he deserves to know he's with a cheating whore.

[Randybrandt]

He will find out eventually and when she comes back crying saying it's over I will say guess what sweetheart I do not care you are a lying **** and I am glad he found out what a awful person you are.

[diskostu]

how do you know? don't be butt hurt because this girl played you. tell the bf that his gf is cheating on him. it's the right thing to do.

[Chi townD]

If the other guy finds out..He probably won't care. Your girls is a steady piece of a$$ for him. Grant it, the relationship probably won't go too far with this knowledge....but I'm guessing he won't care.

[Dust]

I would just drop it and move on if I were you? I mean how were you going to make her life hell.... Tell her mean things that make her cry? Do mean things like send naked pictures of her or share other embaressing secrets with people she knows?

 

All those things and other mean stuff you could do to her would just end up tainting yourself. The best revenge you can get is to live well and not think about her. When you're over this you'll have the good memories and the bad ones won't seem so painful.

[goldengirl11]

I'm actually going through a tough time at the moment and am missing my ex who appeared to play me you could say when we were seeing each other, although didn't have 'the talk' yet but the last time had sex, when later that month he started seeing someone else. I feel utterly regretful that I couldn't make the couple of/few times he suggested to pop over (yet he was too tired/busy etc when I asked him) and feel that if I had perhaps it wouldn't have developed so much by then with the other person. Btw, he was about a 40 minute drive away from me (he drived but I didn't).

 

He has randomly kept tabs on me thru the year via e-mail, but vanished in mid Sept assuming they were together again. Not long after he asked me to resend some pics from earlier in the year. I feel used even though most of the time he hasn't been present. I've been in nc for 3 and a half weeks now and am determined to not contact him over Xmas as want him to. I deleted my no earlier this yr when got hurt when he proved that I was just an option, so just have his e-mail address. Hopefully the new yr will bring me a man who is both faithful and deserving of me, rather than hoping that he'll come back and miss me.

 

We were old colleagues when we were both with someone else. He got back in touch after 4 years when we were both single so feel he has had his chance. I don't feel that we had bonded sexually yet though as last time I wasn't relaxed enough to enjoy sex as he couldn't penetrate me properly but we did other stuff which was fine. I still felt rubbish though and wanted to check if there was anyone else when he was leaving and if there wasn't if it could be just us whilst we saw how things went, particularly as he was at college I thought, but I didn't want to rush it and he seemed sincere that we'd meet again soon, then someone else came into the picture and it didn't happen!

 

I'm trying my best to move on, but it is v difficult. My last boyfriend before him also treated me badly, although perhaps that was my fault as he too didn't want to commit himself. Would be grateful for any sympathetic replies, this situation is really hard... thinking back to last Xmas Eve and going to my sister's over weekend when no doubt my younger sister-in-law will be parading her boyfriend! Fortunately I have moved now though, which has helped to create some new memories and won't be haunted by old memories I suppose.

Edited December 24, 2011 by goldengirl11