Yeahsussu Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 (edited) ... and when I woke up i felt depressed when I realized I was back to reality. It´s been almost a year since our break up, and I´m a lot better now than what I was a year ago, but this dream brought up all those feelings I thought I was over. Don´t you hate that? Now i miss him so much and I feel depressed not being with him. I still think about him every day, more or less. I´m not really fully over him yet, is that crazy? Considering it´s been a year since our BU? We haven´t seen each other since we broke up, other than one 10 min Skype call and lots of texts. We live on opposite sides of the world too, so there´s no risk of bumping into each other on the weekend or something. I haven´t had anyone else since or BU, but I´m pretty sure he´s been dating some girl, but don´t know how serious it is. Anyway, god help me get over him!! Edited December 20, 2011 by Yeahsussu Link to post Share on other sites
Thieves Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Yeahsussu, like I told Melenkurion just earlier, dreams are just that: dreams. It's very natural that even after a year, you still dream of your ex and may get down sometimes because of those dreams. There's nothing uncommon about struggling with this, and so you're not alone, okay? But, you've also said that you're a lot better than you were a year ago! Which is amazing. It's great that you can see the progress you've made and know that it's possible to get better. I know it might make you feel a little helpless since dreams are often out of our control, and so it can be depressing to think no matter how much you try to move forward, just a simple dream can set you back. But the thing is? That's not always true. The dream you had can only affect you as much as you let it. As long as you keep trying to move on and improve yourself, then you're putting in as much effort as you can. And as you continue to get better, hopefully one day you'll get to a place where you may dream a little of your ex... but it won't take such a huge toll on you and your mood. That's the point that you want to get to right now, not necessarily not dreaming of him at all. Remember that post-break up, you have to take it easy on yourself... Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Honestly in my opinion the last step in healing is opening your heart to another. Until you do all of your loving feelings are only being associated with this one person which is why missing those feelings brings you back to thinking of this person. I'm not saying date before you are ready, take your time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yeahsussu Posted December 20, 2011 Author Share Posted December 20, 2011 Yeahsussu, like I told Melenkurion just earlier, dreams are just that: dreams. It's very natural that even after a year, you still dream of your ex and may get down sometimes because of those dreams. There's nothing uncommon about struggling with this, and so you're not alone, okay? But, you've also said that you're a lot better than you were a year ago! Which is amazing. It's great that you can see the progress you've made and know that it's possible to get better. I know it might make you feel a little helpless since dreams are often out of our control, and so it can be depressing to think no matter how much you try to move forward, just a simple dream can set you back. But the thing is? That's not always true. The dream you had can only affect you as much as you let it. As long as you keep trying to move on and improve yourself, then you're putting in as much effort as you can. And as you continue to get better, hopefully one day you'll get to a place where you may dream a little of your ex... but it won't take such a huge toll on you and your mood. That's the point that you want to get to right now, not necessarily not dreaming of him at all. Remember that post-break up, you have to take it easy on yourself... Thieves, thank you for your post. It´s been a bit of a weird day, thought about him much today, felt a desire to text him but I didn´t. All because of a stupid dream. Anyway, you´re right, I can only let the dream affect me as much as I allow it to. After all, it´s been almost a year, I should pull myself together.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yeahsussu Posted December 20, 2011 Author Share Posted December 20, 2011 Honestly in my opinion the last step in healing is opening your heart to another. Until you do all of your loving feelings are only being associated with this one person which is why missing those feelings brings you back to thinking of this person. I'm not saying date before you are ready, take your time. I think I´m going in the right direction. I do feel attracted to other guys now and I feel ready to find someone to love again. I just haven´t found anyone yet. This dream was messing with my head a bit and brought up all those feelings I thought I was over with. Anyways, hopefully it will feel better soon, I do have a bit more to go before I can say I´m fully healed.. Link to post Share on other sites
flow15 Posted December 20, 2011 Share Posted December 20, 2011 Hi yeahsussu, I too had a dream last night about my ex last night!! I dreamt that we were back together, and when I woke up I too felt soo depressed, and it really made me feel down all day. I was thinking about him constantly today and just wanted to contact him, but I kept telling myself, he hasn't contacted me so I shouldn't! I too feel like its taking me a long while to get over this, but at least we can see we have improved, even if its just a bit.... Don't rush to date, just be patient, the time will come and you'll know when you're ready. I don't feel ready at all, but people tell me all the time I should meet someone to help me move on... but I don't think its fair to meet someone else if I'm constantly thinking about him! Link to post Share on other sites
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