J_weik Posted May 30, 2004 Share Posted May 30, 2004 So me and this girl have been dating for 2 years. Shes 18 now, im almost 20. When we were going out, everything was great. We spent everyday together (which was a mistake) and were always all over each other. After the first year we stopped doing alot and just sat around and held each other. I started to get a little controlling (which i shouldn't have) i.e. getting mad if i didn't like what she was wearing, or getting mad if she went somewhere, or if i didnt get to see her everyday. Well anyhow, recently she just graduated highschool. The day before her last day of school, she calls me and says she wants a break. I tell her i can't do that, and she says ok then we will just break up for good. Now she has been going out every night drinking and enjoying her self. I care about her alot, and wish that we wouldnt end like this. Its been 2 weeks and she still says she doesn't want a boyfriend. I would just like to know why she all of a sudden flips out right when she graduates? And i tell her i won't call her anymore, and if she wants me out of her life, then i will be. But she insists on me calling her. A few days ago we have a little arguement and i tell her i'm done with everything and i won't call her anymore. She says "good." Then just yesterday she calls me at 7:00 and says "did you just call? A private number came up." Well if a private number came up she would have answered it. So i'd like to know, why does she play games with me? Link to post Share on other sites
charles Posted May 30, 2004 Share Posted May 30, 2004 ive seen this many times....if she wants a break you should except it and try it out for yourself, even though you dont want one. is she going to college? if she is, give it time and let her do her thing, just make sure she knows how you feel about the whole situation. sooner or later she will find out what she really wants and you will do the same. dont try to contact her all the time cause that will make the situation worse, just keep in touch and enjoy the times you two have with one another. dude, you have been together for two years, thats a long time for a high school relationship, she obviously cares about you! just give it time....and best advice.....no girl likes to be controlled!! good luck and let me know Link to post Share on other sites
Author J_weik Posted May 30, 2004 Author Share Posted May 30, 2004 Yes, it was a highschool relationship. But i'm alot more mature then people my age, i got a girl pregeant and have been a father since i was 15. I Realy realy care for her, and im sure she knows it. She says she feels realy bad, but just doesn't want it anymore. The real reason is because she is tired of sitting around in my or her room and not doing anything with her friends. Ok...Why just ditch me like that? She has a friend that i've gotten somewhat close to and she told me all the stuff my exgf said about me while we were going out. She had plans for us, and realy thought it would work. Can someone that has been in a relationship for 2 years just stop caring? And forget totally about the other person? She told me she doesn't love me as much as i love her, and my sister thinks she said that to make it easier on her self. Yes, she is going to college, but the college is 10 minutes away so she will be staying at home. She's also hanging out with the guy she lost her virginity to. Not alot, but he is at some of the parties she goes to. I can't stand this crap at all heh. Link to post Share on other sites
Author J_weik Posted May 30, 2004 Author Share Posted May 30, 2004 Someone please answer? Can someone just forget about another person if they were in a 2 year relationship? And just stop caring? I don't understand this at all. Everyone, including her mom was shocked about this, and doesn't understand. Link to post Share on other sites
Author J_weik Posted June 1, 2004 Author Share Posted June 1, 2004 Can someone just "Forget" about another if they were in a relationship for 2 yrs, and think nothing of them anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted June 1, 2004 Share Posted June 1, 2004 Can someone just "Forget" about another if they were in a relationship for 2 yrs No and think nothing of them anymore I don't know. Let her be, do no contact her anymore. She's experiencing new things and she is "happy" at the moment. When she is grown she will reflect back and see what she did. For now just do your own thing. She's playing games with you and you do not need that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author J_weik Posted June 1, 2004 Author Share Posted June 1, 2004 I know shes playing games. And i know i shouldn't call her ( i havent in 2 days) But its easier said then done. I don't have friends up here, because right when i moved up here i got with her, and didnt realy meet alot of people. So basically i sit at my house, feeling sorry for myself. I know i f'd up, bad. I wish she knew, that i know what i did was wrong. I realy care about her, and it isnt easy to let her go. When im awake i think about her, when im asleep i dream. I can't get it out of my head, nothing works. I'm so stupid some times i think about doing stupid stuff that i won't mention. Link to post Share on other sites
charles Posted June 1, 2004 Share Posted June 1, 2004 just give it time and let her come to you.....go out and try to meet new people, you have to give yourself a chance.....dont let this person get the best of you, and you if you are thinking about doing stupid stuff that you wont mention, i would strongly advice help!! you'll get through this, keep telling yourself that, try not to think about, all that you can do is try..... Link to post Share on other sites
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