Struggling.

[AcaciaStrain]

I'm really struggling atm with my life. I'm so glad i've got my family at the minute. My girlfriend of 2 years left me for someone else, it was hard but i'm okay about that. But now my best mate has changed and i've lost him, he doesn't have time for me anymore. And both my dogs died 2 months ago. They were my childhood dogs. All this has happened in the space of 3 months.

 

My ex recently fractured her back and she wants me to support her even though she's dating this new guy... I don't know what to do. Do i put my foot down and listen to my brain or listen to my heart. I've got the grades to go uni but don't know if its the right choice, i don't even know if i'm doing to have a career in what i want to do. I'm working in retail atm and its hell. Life really sucks at present, and I'm really lonely.

[Philosoraptor]

First off you need to put your foot down. You are not a tool to be used then thrown away when you are not needed anymore.

 

Next, I'm very sorry about all of your losses but you have made it so far so I believe you can keep going until the sun starts to rise for you again.

 

What I've found works best is to take a step back and look at your situation from the outside. If you were to give that person advice what would you give them? Then I just follow that advice because it is what is best for me.

[Sugarkane]

Acaia- I can relate. I lost my dog this year, had him for a decade. He got sick and deteriorated quickly. I miss him. I also have the brains to go to uni, but I don't know which direction to go in. I've also never been contacted by my ex even though I never got any answers. Just go easy on yourself and take one step at a time.

[solobeary]

I'm really struggling atm with my life. I'm so glad i've got my family at the minute. My girlfriend of 2 years left me for someone else, it was hard but i'm okay about that. But now my best mate has changed and i've lost him, he doesn't have time for me anymore. And both my dogs died 2 months ago. They were my childhood dogs. All this has happened in the space of 3 months.

 

My ex recently fractured her back and she wants me to support her even though she's dating this new guy... I don't know what to do. Do i put my foot down and listen to my brain or listen to my heart. I've got the grades to go uni but don't know if its the right choice, i don't even know if i'm doing to have a career in what i want to do. I'm working in retail atm and its hell. Life really sucks at present, and I'm really lonely.

 

That's terrible all of those things have happened to you recently.

 

Stay away from the ex. It is not your responsibility to look after her now, she made that clear by leaving you for someone else. Put your foot down. It's hard, but it sounds like she's being very selfish and using you and you need to stay away and move on from her.

 

Uni might be a good idea if there's something that interests you there. And it's a great way of meeting new people if you join some clubs on campus (sports, degree-related or special interest). You don't have to decide what you are doing in first year, just do a science or arts degree taking the subjects that interest you for first year then decide whether you want to switch to a more specialised program in second year (it's usually pretty easy to transfer programs).