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Me: 22 She: 19

I met the girl online and talked with her for 2-3 days and she mentioned one day that it was her last day that she can meet up with me because her dad was coming home (protective dad supposedly). It was finals week and I did not want to lose focus but I did not want to lose her either after getting her really interested. She knew I was sacrificing study time to meet her and stuff.

Being the spontaneous person that I am, I ended up meeting her. We talked, hanged out, no awkward situations, pretty fast physical contact between each other and I was immensely comfortable with her. Date lasted for a little over 3 hours and everything was flowing and spontaneous as we went from 1 activity to the next.

 

On the way , before I drop her off to go home, I told her I really like her and was interested and wasn't going to play any games and that I was very comfortable with her. (Enough to even sing along with music in the car). So I told her what does she want to do? How far is she willing to go that night. She said shes down to make out. We did that a bit and it was great, she followed my kissing as I lead very well.

 

After that, I told her I really wanted to eat her out because it's one of my favorite things. She said that would be good but she was on her period! So that didn't happen. Anyways, we got as far as me sucking on her nipples and her giving me oral, not long enough for me to blast though because it started to reach 1am and I had finals the next day at 10am LOL!

 

 

After this happened I text her telling her thanks for a great date and night and I am very comfortable with her and I want to see her again. She informed me BEFORE going on the date that it will be difficult for me to meet her after that day because of holidays and family being home so she has to spend time with family or can't go out.

 

So I keep in contact with the phone and texts. She deleted her dating profile after we went on the date. She said something about her being on there too much when I mentioned it. The problem is, she never initiates the texts! I went 2 days without texting her just to see the reaction, and nothing! But when I do text, she responds accordingly every time. I haven't text her for 1 day. But before that 1 day, I wanted her to send a picture of herself. She didn't totally say no, but it took 1 day for her to eventually send a picture of herself to me after I initiated by sending my picture first. I mean the fact she responds like this by actually sending the pic means she's still interested right?

 

PS: I ask for her to give a date for when we can meet again and she says she doesn't know yet.

 

 

tl;dr First date, Great date, great night. Made out, got oral, sucked boobs. No sex/pussy because of period (that time of the month). Following the days after, she never initiates texts. I start the conversations, she replies often, but doesn't move conversation's forward and I have to keep it going. She hasn't initiate or text first... What's the deal?

 

 

IMPORTANT NEW UPDATE:

As I said before, she deleted her profile. And when I mentioned that I noticed she delete her profile, she told me that ya she deleted it because she was on the dating site too much.

 

Just right now, when I was doing a search for some girls on the dating site, I ran across her again with a different profile name. She re wrote information in her profile with less information, less words than her previous profile.

 

 

Man this girl is damn confusing. Why would she tell me she delete her profile because she was on it too much and then ended up creating another profile with a different name?

In addition, she responds to me and also sent a picture when I ask. What the **** is going on?

 

Should I confront her about this situation and say something? Or should I ignore it and just keep continuing the texts and conversations? We've only been on 1 date, keep in mind. I don't want to be out of line by saying something about her deleting the acc and creating another one, while she told me something else.

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Dang no one has any suggestions to my problem? I haven't text her for 2 days now to see what's going to happen.

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Me: 22 She: 19

I met the girl online and talked with her for 2-3 days and she mentioned one day that it was her last day that she can meet up with me because her dad was coming home (protective dad supposedly). It was finals week and I did not want to lose focus but I did not want to lose her either after getting her really interested. She knew I was sacrificing study time to meet her and stuff.

Being the spontaneous person that I am, I ended up meeting her. We talked, hanged out, no awkward situations, pretty fast physical contact between each other and I was immensely comfortable with her. Date lasted for a little over 3 hours and everything was flowing and spontaneous as we went from 1 activity to the next.

 

On the way , before I drop her off to go home, I told her I really like her and was interested and wasn't going to play any games and that I was very comfortable with her. (Enough to even sing along with music in the car). So I told her what does she want to do? How far is she willing to go that night. She said shes down to make out. We did that a bit and it was great, she followed my kissing as I lead very well.

 

After that, I told her I really wanted to eat her out because it's one of my favorite things. She said that would be good but she was on her period! So that didn't happen. Anyways, we got as far as me sucking on her nipples and her giving me oral, not long enough for me to blast though because it started to reach 1am and I had finals the next day at 10am LOL!

 

 

After this happened I text her telling her thanks for a great date and night and I am very comfortable with her and I want to see her again. She informed me BEFORE going on the date that it will be difficult for me to meet her after that day because of holidays and family being home so she has to spend time with family or can't go out.

 

So I keep in contact with the phone and texts. She deleted her dating profile after we went on the date. She said something about her being on there too much when I mentioned it. The problem is, she never initiates the texts! I went 2 days without texting her just to see the reaction, and nothing! But when I do text, she responds accordingly every time. I haven't text her for 1 day. But before that 1 day, I wanted her to send a picture of herself. She didn't totally say no, but it took 1 day for her to eventually send a picture of herself to me after I initiated by sending my picture first. I mean the fact she responds like this by actually sending the pic means she's still interested right?

 

PS: I ask for her to give a date for when we can meet again and she says she doesn't know yet.

 

 

tl;dr First date, Great date, great night. Made out, got oral, sucked boobs. No sex/pussy because of period (that time of the month). Following the days after, she never initiates texts. I start the conversations, she replies often, but doesn't move conversation's forward and I have to keep it going. She hasn't initiate or text first... What's the deal?

 

 

IMPORTANT NEW UPDATE:

As I said before, she deleted her profile. And when I mentioned that I noticed she delete her profile, she told me that ya she deleted it because she was on the dating site too much.

 

Just right now, when I was doing a search for some girls on the dating site, I ran across her again with a different profile name. She re wrote information in her profile with less information, less words than her previous profile.

 

 

Man this girl is damn confusing. Why would she tell me she delete her profile because she was on it too much and then ended up creating another profile with a different name?

In addition, she responds to me and also sent a picture when I ask. What the **** is going on?

 

Should I confront her about this situation and say something? Or should I ignore it and just keep continuing the texts and conversations? We've only been on 1 date, keep in mind. I don't want to be out of line by saying something about her deleting the acc and creating another one, while she told me something else.

You say you DIDN'T have sex? Well oral sex is sex, honey. She may have thought things went way too fast and now feels funny about it. I can relate to her in a way. A week or so ago I went on a first date with a guy and drank too much and ended up sleeping with him. I felt like complete sh*t the next day because I had not intended to do it. I felt like a whore. I didn't even really want to talk to the guy again, to be honest. He ended up texting me later that evening and I told him I felt badly about drinking and sleeping with him. He was fine with it. Said he didn't judge me, blah, blah, blah. Since then, he's text me a few times. HE always initiates the contact. I don't because I just don't feel comfortable. A few days ago he stopped texting me because I think he realizes I'm just not interested and I feel badly about what went down.

 

This could be the case with this girl. She could feel a bit uncomfortable about going as far as she did with you on a first date. Or perhaps she just doesn't chase guys. She lets you contact her.

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You say you DIDN'T have sex? Well oral sex is sex, honey. She may have thought things went way too fast and now feels funny about it. I can relate to her in a way. A week or so ago I went on a first date with a guy and drank too much and ended up sleeping with him. I felt like complete sh*t the next day because I had not intended to do it. I felt like a whore. I didn't even really want to talk to the guy again, to be honest. He ended up texting me later that evening and I told him I felt badly about drinking and sleeping with him. He was fine with it. Said he didn't judge me, blah, blah, blah. Since then, he's text me a few times. HE always initiates the contact. I don't because I just don't feel comfortable. A few days ago he stopped texting me because I think he realizes I'm just not interested and I feel badly about what went down.

 

This could be the case with this girl. She could feel a bit uncomfortable about going as far as she did with you on a first date. Or perhaps she just doesn't chase guys. She lets you contact her.

 

Thank you for a female perspective!

 

The reason I say there was no sex because it wasn't even full oral haha. It was like a lick and like 2 sucks or 3,then we moved on to something else, I didn't even cum.

 

Having said that, we were both sober and fully aware. I even told her if she isn't comfortable with anything to let me know and I wasn't forcing it or anything. Even after saying that, we still got as far as we did.

 

I hope she doesn't feel uncomfortable about the situation. I mean we hanged out for 3 hours, the first time meeting each other and it was immensely comfortable for me being with her which is a good sign we are compatible.

 

Now even if a girl doesn't chase a guy. If that girl was interested enough in the guy, wouldn't the power of being interested in the guy overwhelm the fact that she doesn't chase and thus lead her to initiating text?

 

Thank you for your perspective Shannon. I had not realize that she might be uncomfortable with the situation and is probably testing my interest level.

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3 hours and already starting to have sex? I'd say she is probably freaked out that she did such a thing and is embarrassed about her behaviour... maybe she's doing some self reflecting. The fact that she deleted her profile from being on there too much might suggest that.

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Thank you for a female perspective!

 

The reason I say there was no sex because it wasn't even full oral haha. It was like a lick and like 2 sucks or 3,then we moved on to something else, I didn't even cum.

 

Having said that, we were both sober and fully aware. I even told her if she isn't comfortable with anything to let me know and I wasn't forcing it or anything. Even after saying that, we still got as far as we did.

 

I hope she doesn't feel uncomfortable about the situation. I mean we hanged out for 3 hours, the first time meeting each other and it was immensely comfortable for me being with her which is a good sign we are compatible.

 

Now even if a girl doesn't chase a guy. If that girl was interested enough in the guy, wouldn't the power of being interested in the guy overwhelm the fact that she doesn't chase and thus lead her to initiating text?

 

Thank you for your perspective Shannon. I had not realize that she might be uncomfortable with the situation and is probably testing my interest level.

Well from how she preformed oral on you, it sounds like she wasn't really into it. Not to be mean, but what kind of BJ is that? My guess is she feels a bit weird about the situation.

 

As far as the interest thing, she may just want you to pursue HER. Even if she is super interested in you, she may not want to chase you. I personally don't chase guys even if I really like them. I wait for them to contact me usually.

 

Maybe you should ask her if she felt weirded out by what went down on your first date. See what she says.:)

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3 hours and already starting to have sex? I'd say she is probably freaked out that she did such a thing and is embarrassed about her behaviour... maybe she's doing some self reflecting. The fact that she deleted her profile from being on there too much might suggest that.

 

She deleted the profile and told me she did it because she was on the site too much... HOWEVER i found out yesterday she created a new profile with a new username, and re wrote her profile.

 

Now that confuses me.... I don't know how to approach her with this.

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Just right now, when I was doing a search for some girls on the dating site, I ran across her again with a different profile name. She re wrote information in her profile with less information, less words than her previous profile.

 

Bad news, bad bet. Move on to the next option. There's no non-gamey reason at all a woman would do this on an OLD site, and a high chance of bad traits. If you are getting them very physical on the first date you are doing things right. In the future, though, no texting to women met early on. Call and ask out and limit your contact to face to face as much as humanly possible. Good luck, sounds like you are doing well and will find a quality one soon.

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3 hours and already starting to have sex? I'd say she is probably freaked out that she did such a thing and is embarrassed about her behaviour... maybe she's doing some self reflecting. The fact that she deleted her profile from being on there too much might suggest that.

Yep. I said the same thing. She feels really uncomfortable even though at the time she seemed cool with it. It sometimes takes a bit to realize we made a mistake. I bet that's what it is. Now after she thought about things, she feels weird. I did too when it happened to me.

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Honestly,

 

I think she's embarassed she did those things with you after 3 hours. Very embarassed. And she has a new profile perhaps trying to "start over". She's avoiding you because she thinks (rightly or wrongly, I don't know what you think) that you view her as "easy" and only want sex. She knows that she's unlikely to establish any real relationship with you after that incident and is avoiding you now :o

 

ShannonMI, I agree too. Very typical mistake by many young women (been there too!). If she was interested she would not be avoiding you, it's that simple. She is not looking for no strings sex, despite her behaviour (I guess she hasn't learned to pace herself OR perhaps felt pressured into doing something she later regretted), and therefore is running away.

 

To me (a woman) and to the other women reading this, it's pretty obvious. As a man, you are probably not interpreting it that way (that's fine! don't blame you!) but .... yeah. That's pretty much what this is.

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Bad news, bad bet. Move on to the next option. There's no non-gamey reason at all a woman would do this on an OLD site, and a high chance of bad traits. If you are getting them very physical on the first date you are doing things right. In the future, though, no texting to women met early on. Call and ask out and limit your contact to face to face as much as humanly possible. Good luck, sounds like you are doing well and will find a quality one soon.

Getting her to blow him on the first date is doing it right? OK. How about taking things slow and getting to know someone before having sex?:rolleyes:

 

If the OP continues to get girls to do these things on first dates, he won't find a "quality" one. I consider myself a quality girl, but made a mistake which I regret. I made it very clear to the guy the next day that I felt horrible and I had made a big mistake. Not all girls think f*cking or sucking dick on a first date is bad though. Girls that are cool with it, you need to steer clear from. It means they are easy and probably f*ck a lot without discretion. No good.

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And yeah OP there is really no etiquette rule for this one - if a girl is willing to blow you 3 hours after meeting you, then she's not going to follow any of the typical rules. So, expect flaky at best, crazy at the worst. If a man asked to eat me out after 3 hours of meeting him, I would just :lmao: and get out of the car & run away. If she doesn't, well, you get what you get!

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Bad news, bad bet. Move on to the next option. There's no non-gamey reason at all a woman would do this on an OLD site, and a high chance of bad traits. If you are getting them very physical on the first date you are doing things right. In the future, though, no texting to women met early on. Call and ask out and limit your contact to face to face as much as humanly possible. Good luck, sounds like you are doing well and will find a quality one soon.

 

I hope I'm doing something right man. I'm 22 and still haven't been in a relationship longer than 1 month.

 

I've been on that dating site for like 8 months now and this was the first date I got on there. (I stopped going on the site for like 2-3 months) It was a GREAT first date in my opinion, but everything else after is confusing as ****.

 

My reasoning for texting early on is because how far we went on our date and the comfort level was high, that's why I texted early. I'll contemplate texting 1 or 2 days after a comfortable first date next time I do get one.

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I hope I'm doing something right man. I'm 22 and still haven't been in a relationship longer than 1 month.

 

I've been on that dating site for like 8 months now and this was the first date I got on there. (I stopped going on the site for like 2-3 months) It was a GREAT first date in my opinion, but everything else after is confusing as ****.

 

My reasoning for texting early on is because how far we went on our date and the comfort level was high, that's why I texted early. I'll contemplate texting 1 or 2 days after a comfortable first date next time I do get one.

It was NOT a great date. Maybe it was for you because you got your dick licked for a few minutes. Don't EVER ask a girl if you can eat her out or if she'd like to blow you on a first date. That is the best advice I can give you. This is why the girl is not contacting you now. She feels very uncomfortable about how fast things went. Learn from this and DO NOT do it again.

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What are you looking for? Are you looking for an actual girlfriend? Any potential girlfriend would be very taken aback by sexual aggressiveness that you displayed on a first date. Don't expect anything but a one night stand or friend with benefit if you do that. If that's all you want, well then yes you are doing something right, but if you want more, you need to really slow down. She has no reason to believe you want anything more than sex.

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Getting her to blow him on the first date is doing it right? OK. How about taking things slow and getting to know someone before having sex?

 

Early sex is a reality today. Whether sex actually happens or not, he is doing the right things by getting her in the mood for it, as it signals he is positioning himself as desirable. Much better than the "cheek turning" kiss at the end of a date which signals she isn't interested sexually. Regardless of "getting to know" and all that, the FIRST step in a successful date for a man is confirming that she finds him physically, sexually attractive enough. Things go nowhere until that is established. LS women need to try to see things from the other side more. Men don't typically get the kind of positive physical feedback and compliments that women get without making it happen.

 

Double profiles on the dating site though? Bad bad sign, trust me, move on.

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Well, that depends on what the OP wants. If a man asked me such a question after 3 hours, I would expect that he is looking for cheap sex and I would be insulted. I would walk away from that "date". Young naive girls may perceive that as some sort of compliment but to other women, that is a crude thing to say and insulting. So, go ahead and establish your "sexual signals" but be careful what kind of fish you catch with that net. :sick:

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It was NOT a great date. Maybe it was for you because you got your dick licked for a few minutes. Don't EVER ask a girl if you can eat her out or if she'd like to blow you on a first date. That is the best advice I can give you. This is why the girl is not contacting you now. She feels very uncomfortable about how fast things went. Learn from this and DO NOT do it again.

 

Sorry, I did not only mean that the date was GREAT because we got a bit sexual. I didn't even cum haha so that might actually be more negative than positive.

 

The date was great because it lasted for 3 hours with no uncomfortability, everything during the date was spontaneous, the only thing planned was where we were going to meet. Everything else for the 3 hours was spontaneous, the date just flowed from place, to place as we went on with the night.

 

The reason we didn't go farther, FULL Oral and stuff.... is because it was like 12 am at night and I had finals for college at 10am! I was already late and told her before we went on the date that I won't be able to stay out long, that I needed to study, but I ended up staying out longer than I had hoped because it was a good night. So when things started to get more sexual, she mentioned "Don't you have to study for finals". Once she said that, I paused for a second and kind of got lost, told her ya but I didn't expect to be so comfortable with 'you' and conceded that ya I need to get home to study. She seemed a bit reluctant to give me oral and reminded me that I had a time limit, but I already told her before this all started that if she isn't comfortable, let me know.

 

I am beginning to feel bad for going that far now... Stupid friends, should have never listened to them. Definitely going to make it a rule for myself to limit only KISSING on first dates now... things definitely don't mess up if I leave it like that. :confused::confused:

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Early sex is a reality today. Whether sex actually happens or not, he is doing the right things by getting her in the mood for it, as it signals he is positioning himself as desirable. Much better than the "cheek turning" kiss at the end of a date which signals she isn't interested sexually. Regardless of "getting to know" and all that, the FIRST step in a successful date for a man is confirming that she finds him physically, sexually attractive enough. Things go nowhere until that is established. LS women need to try to see things from the other side more. Men don't typically get the kind of positive physical feedback and compliments that women get without making it happen.

 

Double profiles on the dating site though? Bad bad sign, trust me, move on.

OMG you can't be serious. The first step should be getting to know someone. To see if you have things in common and things such as that. Not "does this girl want to suck my cock and how soon can I get her to do it"? That happens later when you establish a postitive rapport with a woman. And you can find out if a woman is physically/sexually attracted to you in other ways. Like her body language or if she's flirty or not. Not by getting her to drop her panties on the first date. Gross:sick::rolleyes:

 

OP is not doing things right and I hope he doesn't take your advice or he won't find a quality girl. And most chicks will high tail it like the one he just did this to.

 

Take it from me, OP. I'm a woman who knows what women want when it comes to dating. We don't want a guy that pushes us toward sex and we don't want to f*ck on the first date. At least us nice chicks don't. If you want a whore then follow Dasein's advice.

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Sorry, I did not only mean that the date was GREAT because we got a bit sexual. I didn't even cum haha so that might actually be more negative than positive.

 

The date was great because it lasted for 3 hours with no uncomfortability, everything during the date was spontaneous, the only thing planned was where we were going to meet. Everything else for the 3 hours was spontaneous, the date just flowed from place, to place as we went on with the night.

 

The reason we didn't go farther, FULL Oral and stuff.... is because it was like 12 am at night and I had finals for college at 10am! I was already late and told her before we went on the date that I won't be able to stay out long, that I needed to study, but I ended up staying out longer than I had hoped because it was a good night. So when things started to get more sexual, she mentioned "Don't you have to study for finals". Once she said that, I paused for a second and kind of got lost, told her ya but I didn't expect to be so comfortable with 'you' and conceded that ya I need to get home to study. She seemed a bit reluctant to give me oral and reminded me that I had a time limit, but I already told her before this all started that if she isn't comfortable, let me know.

 

I am beginning to feel bad for going that far now... Stupid friends, should have never listened to them. Definitely going to make it a rule for myself to limit only KISSING on first dates now... things definitely don't mess up if I leave it like that. :confused::confused:

Well now you know not to go crazy sexual on a first date. Kissing is fine. Just kissing also leaves the girl wanting more. Now she's not really interested because she got to know you REAL well in like 3 hours. Not good. Just learn from this. You'll be fine.;)

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Early sex is a reality today. Whether sex actually happens or not, he is doing the right things by getting her in the mood for it, as it signals he is positioning himself as desirable. Much better than the "cheek turning" kiss at the end of a date which signals she isn't interested sexually. Regardless of "getting to know" and all that, the FIRST step in a successful date for a man is confirming that she finds him physically, sexually attractive enough. Things go nowhere until that is established. LS women need to try to see things from the other side more. Men don't typically get the kind of positive physical feedback and compliments that women get without making it happen.

 

Double profiles on the dating site though? Bad bad sign, trust me, move on.

 

You are completely right. Us men don't get the compliments women get without actually trying or making it happen like you said.

 

Being in my position is better than the "cheek turn" position. My problem is that, I should have probably controlled my self and paced it a little more slow.

 

Either way, I am not going to lose this girl easily, so I will try as best I can before I know that we can't get a relationship going.

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First, they talked for three days and got to know each other that way. Not something I would suggest for OLD generally, but lots do it so no harm. Then OP says they got physical during the three hour date. OP then ASKS her what she is comfortable with later in the car and SHE wants to make out, so they do. One thing leads to another, yet you ladies seem to want to make it all one-sided as if he gave her some crude proposition. That isn't the reality OP describes in the post, and I suggest you are coloring OP's date with your own experiences a bit too much. For all we know, the girl could have been just as into it as OP was, nothing suggests he was rude or strongarmed her into anything. It's jumping to conclusions that she is insulted or not interested because she is responsive. OP merely wonders why she never initiates. I can't answer that with the info given, but can say that the dual profile thing is very bad and signals possibilities from a BF/husband being in the picture (if a man did the dual profile thing, that would be the first thing female posters here would think), or that she has emotional problems. Neither good.

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Well now you know not to go crazy sexual on a first date. Kissing is fine. Just kissing also leaves the girl wanting more. Now she's not really interested because she got to know you REAL well in like 3 hours. Not good. Just learn from this. You'll be fine.;)

 

When I do get a second date with her. I will only limit it to kissing and probably touching. She will probably notice that, having seen how far we went on the first date and be very intrigued that I didn't try to go farther than kissing.

 

It will be F*CKEN tempting trying to hold in my desires, but the wait will make it even more intense once we actually have sex.

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First, they talked for three days and got to know each other that way. Not something I would suggest for OLD generally, but lots do it so no harm. Then OP says they got physical during the three hour date. OP then ASKS her what she is comfortable with later in the car and SHE wants to make out, so they do. One thing leads to another, yet you ladies seem to want to make it all one-sided as if he gave her some crude proposition. That isn't the reality OP describes in the post, and I suggest you are coloring OP's date with your own experiences a bit too much. For all we know, the girl could have been just as into it as OP was, nothing suggests he was rude or strongarmed her into anything. It's jumping to conclusions that she is insulted or not interested because she is responsive. OP merely wonders why she never initiates. I can't answer that with the info given, but can say that the dual profile thing is very bad and signals possibilities from a BF/husband being in the picture (if a man did the dual profile thing, that would be the first thing female posters here would think), or that she has emotional problems. Neither good.

I'm not saying OP forced this girl into anything. She definitely went along with it, but now she regrets doing what she did. He's wondering why she isn't interested in him now and why she never initiates anything. It's because she feels badly about sucking his dick. I would bet on it. Because according to him the rest of the date went very well.

 

Conversing over the phone or texting is getting to know someone, but a first date should not include sexual things unless you are looking for a FWB type of thing. A first date should be a time to CONTINUE to get to know someone. You are meeting face to face for the first time. Take sh*t slow. There is no need to jump into something sexual.

 

The double profile is a sure sign that she wants to move on from what happened. She wants a fresh start and made a new profile to do that. I bet the next time she goes on a first date, she won't be giving any blow jobs.

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First, they talked for three days and got to know each other that way. Not something I would suggest for OLD generally, but lots do it so no harm. Then OP says they got physical during the three hour date. OP then ASKS her what she is comfortable with later in the car and SHE wants to make out, so they do. One thing leads to another, yet you ladies seem to want to make it all one-sided as if he gave her some crude proposition. That isn't the reality OP describes in the post, and I suggest you are coloring OP's date with your own experiences a bit too much. For all we know, the girl could have been just as into it as OP was, nothing suggests he was rude or strongarmed her into anything. It's jumping to conclusions that she is insulted or not interested because she is responsive. OP merely wonders why she never initiates. I can't answer that with the info given, but can say that the dual profile thing is very bad and signals possibilities from a BF/husband being in the picture (if a man did the dual profile thing, that would be the first thing female posters here would think), or that she has emotional problems. Neither good.

 

I was definitely not rude and asked about her comfort level and how far she was willing to go. Not the usual smooth cliche type stuff you see on T.V or something, but I felt a connection during the date and went for it. Sorry ladies, but it seems he got it right here. Man you are good... except, what the ladies are saying is that she probably felt bad afterwards for going as far as she did, which is probably true. I just hope she doesn't because I'm a nice guy that wants a relationship, not a quickie. I just see it as if 2 people are attracted and there is comfortable connection, whats wrong with moving fast on first dates?

 

Either way, I think the ladies are correct in saying that going that far on a first date is probably more bad than good. Maybe leaving it at kissing and building up tension might be a better way next time.

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