RecordProducer Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 New rule for me: When you break up, you're broken up. And I plan to tell every guy from now on about that rule. It's okay to disagree or be mad, it's okay to take a step back. But if you end it, we are done. And if I end it, I'm prepared to be done. I will NEVER do the second chance thing again. Sometimes it "works out" but I bet it rarely lasts forever. Most second chances are just postponing the inevitable.Good rule. I made that rule before and unfortunately didn't stick with it. But the rule won't prevent people from breaking up with us. Sadly, you have to have the upper hand in order to be safe from a breakup. I'm counting on her to return some day...I used to want that and now I am convinced it was just my ego crying. Now, I wonder why would anyone ever want someone who dumped them back. These are people who told us we were unwanted by them. They wanted to get rid of us and find something better. And we want them to take us back? It's not just a matter of dignity, but simply a mater of staying away from those who tell you to stay away. Nobody should be at another person's mercy. In most cases they found or will find someone worse or will stay alone forever. It often turns out we're too good for them and that's why they didn't want us: because they are broken as people and just can't deliver or accept true love from those who are capable of giving it. I think boys find it easier to shut off emotion completely and force themselves to move on...at least that's the case with my ex. In fact, he's doing such a good job of it, I'm doubting his feelings were ever real to begin with if it's THIS easy for him!This is true. They're good at sucking it up, pretending they're fine and not complaining. You won't find those men on LS. It's a matter of attitude and discipline. We were kind of getting close last year (we had always been friends, but heading towards dating) when his exwife showed back up and they tried getting back together. Then this fall we were actually dating when she returned and he went back to her. Maybe she can't stand to see him with someone else?Why do you care what she feels? HE is conspicuously still in love with her - if he dumps you every time his ex snaps her fingers. Link to post Share on other sites
lilyblue Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 Why do you care what she feels? HE is conspicuously still in love with her - if he dumps you every time his ex snaps her fingers. Oh, it's true. Takes two in every relationship though. I was just coming at it from why, if she left him during their marriage in the first place, does she keep coming back around every time he starts dating someone? Link to post Share on other sites
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