How do I not be single this time next year?

[PlumPrincess]

So you seen how I look, if I met you, talked to you for a few minutes, and came across as pleasant and slightly humorous, then asked you out, would you accept? Assuming of course that you were single at the time and had not seen my posts here. It would be our first interaction.

I might. It depends on how interesting I found our little chat and in what kind of mood I was at that time.

 

I'm just an OK dancer. I don't get to practice outside of class because I don't have a partner and learning in clubs isn't really possible.

You go out without a partner and get your practice by dancing with lots of different people. That's how women learn how to follow and men how to lead. Having a partner is good for learning the patterns, but it's not the ideal thing when you want to learn how to lead.

 

You are right that I don't like dancing with girls who are bad. But most women are decent enough to be led, though the best ones can anticipate what I want to do.

You should consider changing your school if you think a good follower is supposed to anticipate your next move. You lead and she follows. If she anticipates, then she is clearly not a good dancer. I know lots of guys who hate it when women try to predict their next move. That's not her job. The woman's job is to follow what the men leads. If I were you, I would get a second opinion on how good you really are. Maybe the bad female dancers are not that bad and you are not giving them clear signals, that's why they don't know what is expected of them.

[jobaba]

You can't hide your attitude. I already told you.

 

Heh, I really wish I could walk around with a hidden camera team and record how I interact with people.

 

It's just too bad I haven't met anybody from LS who could describe how I come across in person.

 

I disagree with the "you can't hide your bitterness" thing.

 

Recently, I've been in one of my bitterest periods, having faced a major rejection. It probably comes through in my posts. Despite that, if real life, I've still been able to hook a woman ... and bad.

[somedude81]

That's tough fam. Honestly though, I wouldn't have let her in my house . Sometimes, it really isn't about what you're doing, it's about her. And at that point you have to decide what to do, and how you will handle that particular scenario. I would opt out.

But she was so cute, fun and we got along great. Plus she had amazing breasts

 

Either way, we haven't talked in two months and odds are we will never again

[ThaWholigan]

But she was so cute, fun and we got along great. Plus she had amazing breasts

 

Either way, we haven't talked in two months and odds are we will never again

 

Don't let the breasts cloud your judgement .

 

The only major crush I ever had was on a petite light-skinned girl with AMAZING breasts (at a guess, they were EE, had to be). She was cute, fun, I got a long with her, she was creative, and just a little bit eccentric, just how I like 'em. 5 foot 4, she had the long curly hair and everything. She also was quite ambitious too, and I feel that we had similar ideas on what we wanted to achieve out of life. I was so into her, but didn't know what to do. Even after we had the sexy time conversations on the phone and then I slept in a bed with her and never did anything, I just lay there, holding her while trying to hide my boner like an idiot. She was a little miffed the next morning.

 

That was a little over 3 years ago. I have seen her about 3 times since then. We haven't spoken much recently either. She lives not far from my cousin, so I always have to scoot past her house quickly so she does not see me, as I am a little embarrassed, even though we were friends for a long while, but it was always apparent that I like her. For a while she reciprocated at varying points, but I always messed it up by being naive.

 

I always think fondly of her, and I still think about her even today, but I don't think I will ever have a chance with her again, so I just get on with it. But I learned a lot from that very limited experience, and how to talk to girls a little better.

[Ross MwcFan]

Don't let the breasts cloud your judgement .

 

The only major crush I ever had was on a petite light-skinned girl with AMAZING breasts (at a guess, they were EE, had to be). She was cute, fun, I got a long with her, she was creative, and just a little bit eccentric, just how I like 'em. 5 foot 4, she had the long curly hair and everything. She also was quite ambitious too, and I feel that we had similar ideas on what we wanted to achieve out of life. I was so into her, but didn't know what to do. Even after we had the sexy time conversations on the phone and then I slept in a bed with her and never did anything, I just lay there, holding her while trying to hide my boner like an idiot. She was a little miffed the next morning.

 

That was a little over 3 years ago. I have seen her about 3 times since then. We haven't spoken much recently either. She lives not far from my cousin, so I always have to scoot past her house quickly so she does not see me, as I am a little embarrassed, even though we were friends for a long while, but it was always apparent that I like her. For a while she reciprocated at varying points, but I always messed it up by being naive.

 

I always think fondly of her, and I still think about her even today, but I don't think I will ever have a chance with her again, so I just get on with it. But I learned a lot from that very limited experience, and how to talk to girls a little better.

 

You're so so lucky, I wish I could get to do that.

[somedude81]

Don't let the breasts cloud your judgement .

 

The only major crush I ever had was on a petite light-skinned girl with AMAZING breasts (at a guess, they were EE, had to be). She was cute, fun, I got a long with her, she was creative, and just a little bit eccentric, just how I like 'em. 5 foot 4, she had the long curly hair and everything. She also was quite ambitious too, and I feel that we had similar ideas on what we wanted to achieve out of life. I was so into her, but didn't know what to do. Even after we had the sexy time conversations on the phone and then I slept in a bed with her and never did anything, I just lay there, holding her while trying to hide my boner like an idiot. She was a little miffed the next morning.

 

That was a little over 3 years ago. I have seen her about 3 times since then. We haven't spoken much recently either. She lives not far from my cousin, so I always have to scoot past her house quickly so she does not see me, as I am a little embarrassed, even though we were friends for a long while, but it was always apparent that I like her. For a while she reciprocated at varying points, but I always messed it up by being naive.

 

I would have killed for an opportunity like that with "my" girl. She just never displayed anything other than wanting to be my friend.

 

Ugh, the only girl I've ever been in bed with was the fat girl I "dated" for two weeks. Thank god we didn't have sex

[Ross MwcFan]

 

I would have killed for an opportunity like that with "my" girl. She just never displayed anything other than wanting to be my friend.

 

Ugh, the only girl I've ever been in bed with was the fat girl I "dated" for two weeks. Thank god we didn't have sex

 

You're really lucky too. I've never been in bed with any girl.

 

Being in bed with a girl is something I've always dreamt about.

 

How do you guys get to do this?

Edited January 6, 2012 by Ross MwcFan

[ThaWholigan]

 

I would have killed for an opportunity like that with "my" girl. She just never displayed anything other than wanting to be my friend.

 

Ugh, the only girl I've ever been in bed with was the fat girl I "dated" for two weeks. Thank god we didn't have sex

 

From the sound of things, she wasn't much enthusiastic about being your friend it seems (sorry if that sounds harsh). She wouldn't even let you hug her and you were meant to be friends. That's very odd behavior, I hug female acquaintances all the time without them. I kinda like some fat girls though, so I would probably date one.

 

The 2 most exciting things that happened that night was that she groped my ass, and I woke up that morning with my hand cupped around one of her enormous breasts. It might sound great but when she awoke and announced to her dad that I was leaving, the walk home that morning was a weird feeling, then I was upset when I arrived home as I realized that I really could have made a move on her and didn't.

 

You're so so lucky, I wish I could get to do that.

 

I don't really consider myself lucky, I kinda fell into that situation by accident. I'm sure very soon you will be able to do that, I wish you well my friend.

[ThaWholigan]

You're really lucky too. I've never been in bed with any girl.

 

Being in bed with a girl is something I've always dreamt about.

 

How do you guys get to do this?

 

I did it by being forward with the girl. This is why I understand now that PUA works. I never knew PUA existed at the time, but a year ago, I read about "escalating" and I understand that this is what I did for a month up till that night. There's lots of stuff on that on the internet. For you, I would start with learning basic social things, take a trip to Waterstone and look in the self help section. There are lots of books, and you can practice some things on the hired help.

[jobaba]

You're really lucky too. I've never been in bed with any girl.

 

Being in bed with a girl is something I've always dreamt about.

 

How do you guys get to do this?

 

It takes a lot of hard work and fortitude and rejection.

 

Look at it like a job search in a down economy. You may have to send out 60 resumes before you get an interview.

 

You may not want every job you apply to, but you apply to them anyway if they're close. What you want is an interview. Even if you get an interview for a job you didn't particularly want, it might be appealing once you talk to the people there.

 

Similarly, for guys like us, we have to wade through lots of rejections to get a date. The date is the interview and the woman, just like the company, probably has many other options. So you've got to be at your best. Maybe every 4 to 5 interviews you'll get an offer.

 

Grueling process actually...

[Ross MwcFan]

From the sound of things, she wasn't much enthusiastic about being your friend it seems (sorry if that sounds harsh). She wouldn't even let you hug her and you were meant to be friends. That's very odd behavior, I hug female acquaintances all the time without them. I kinda like some fat girls though, so I would probably date one.

 

The 2 most exciting things that happened that night was that she groped my ass, and I woke up that morning with my hand cupped around one of her enormous breasts. It might sound great but when she awoke and announced to her dad that I was leaving, the walk home that morning was a weird feeling, then I was upset when I arrived home as I realized that I really could have made a move on her and didn't.

 

 

 

I don't really consider myself lucky, I kinda fell into that situation by accident. I'm sure very soon you will be able to do that, I wish you well my friend.

 

Thanks mate, but I seriously doubt it will ever happen. I'm 36, and I've never been anywhere near close (as far as someone offline is concerned).

[Dust]

Maybe the right situation for where that would've been appropriate never happened. You can't expect him to just randomly lunge at a friend who is at his house, or grab her hand.

 

The right situation for that is the girl comming to your place alone enough said. Next you're going to have me believe that if just the two of them went on a camping trip maybe the right situation never came up...

 

Heh, I really wish I could walk around with a hidden camera team and record how I interact with people.

 

It's just too bad I haven't met anybody from LS who could describe how I come across in person.

 

You don't need a hidden camera. There is this thing called real life. Go out there and live it. You'll be the best judge of what you need to change. If you feel the need to have random people judge you there are plenty of people out there in the real world who could watch you.

 

It's the weekend try to get out of the house and socialize a little!

 

I already know your problem, YOU DON'T TRY. You just come on here and say stuff like "How" "Why" "Already did that" (when you did it like once a long time ago instead of sticking with it) That's like if we told you how to get in shape and you were like "I already went to the gym once a year ago it didn't work..."

 

C'mon man give us some updates of you getting out there and living life. Don't make so much about getting a gf. Yes talk, flirt, and try to date girls. But don't worry about getting a gf or being rejected. Just do! You'll teach yourself by living life.

 

 

LOL, that girl wouldn't even let me give her a hug.

 

If I tried to kiss her when she was at my place she would have yelled at me, maybe punched me then, refuse to ever see me again.

 

Oh c'mon that would be hot if she tried to beat the crap out of you for going in for a kiss. Most likely she would have just kissed back! You can't let a turned down hug stop you. Hugs arn't even something you should have been going for if you hand't done other things. A lot of people are odd about hugs.

 

Okay, so not to defend SD *too* much here, but sometimes when a girl comes over to "watch movies" or "play games" that's really all it is. I was at a girl's house for movies once and went in to make a move and got shot down. That is definitely up there in my top 5 awkward moments. I have had a girl over with no expectations or anything else beyond just games/movies at other points too.

 

Yeah and had a girl over at my place to "watch tv" and we ended up screwing the night away. No one said its a sure thing, I mean the girl wasn't a hooker. But he should have atleast tried. You tried and got hot down, good for you.

 

She had issues; which I was starting to forget.

 

It's amazing how I was starting to focus on only the things I did and believe that the reason we didn't get together was all about things I did or didn't do. But no, she had a whole bunch of things going on that were messing things up.

 

Hell, she told me that she wished she had been born a guy instead. It's no real shock that she didn't want to date me, or anybody. And no, she wasn't gay.

 

She was perfect for you. Don't you always wish you had it easy like girls? So this girl makes a comment about wanting to be a guy. A match made in heaven...

 

But she was so cute, fun and we got along great. Plus she had amazing breasts

 

Either way, we haven't talked in two months and odds are we will never again

 

Dude had you tried you might have already sucked on those amazing breasts. You could have been tittie fcking her tonight.

 

When she was at your place you could have gently put your hands on her breasts and massaged them if she didn't stop you... You would have probably atleast got to touch them before she got mad... See should have tried!

 

I always think fondly of her, and I still think about her even today, but I don't think I will ever have a chance with her again, so I just get on with it. But I learned a lot from that very limited experience, and how to talk to girls a little better.

 

Yes the window of oportunity with a girl doesn't stay open forever... but you could just give it a shot anyways if you still like her.

 

Also you really should have made some moves when you two were laying in bed. Just take that knowledge going foward for the next time you get cudly in bed with a girl. At least make out with them and touch them.

 

You're so so lucky, I wish I could get to do that.

 

You could get that. In fact you turned down that. You just have to flip that switch in your head. Easier said then done I know. But you could just do it tonight if you wanted it to be your reality.

 

 

I would have killed for an opportunity like that with "my" girl. She just never displayed anything other than wanting to be my friend.

 

Ugh, the only girl I've ever been in bed with was the fat girl I "dated" for two weeks. Thank god we didn't have sex

 

Yeah you would have killed yet you don't have the balls to face a slap from your girl when shes back at your place. I really doubt you've ever even been in a real fight... not that it is any thing to brag about just saying. Show your damn passion when it counts not on here. The way you are now a naked woman could fall into your lap and you wouldn't know what to do with her.

 

You're really lucky too. I've never been in bed with any girl.

 

Being in bed with a girl is something I've always dreamt about.

 

How do you guys get to do this?

 

Don't be a somedude. We can't tell you how to get in bed with a girl. You know what to do, and if you don't you know the path that will get you there. Getting a girl in bed isn't that hard. You got this man.

 

I did it by being forward with the girl. This is why I understand now that PUA works. I never knew PUA existed at the time, but a year ago, I read about "escalating" and I understand that this is what I did for a month up till that night. There's lots of stuff on that on the internet. For you, I would start with learning basic social things, take a trip to Waterstone and look in the self help section. There are lots of books, and you can practice some things on the hired help.

 

PUA material is just standard information geared toward making money off clueless guys. I mean confidence, social status, escalating its all common knowledge. Just think of the baseball analogy of rounding the bases that has been around forever. The bases may have changed but the clear goal is to go as far as you can with a girl. Telling guys to approach girls is great, Telling them to be witty and fun is great, giving them PUA scripts and tactics is very lame.

 

So yes PUA stuff is entertaining and a lot of it is just common sense. The thing is you can't take it to seriously and you really can't spend money on it!!!

[ThaWholigan]

Yes the window of oportunity with a girl doesn't stay open forever... but you could just give it a shot anyways if you still like her.

 

Also you really should have made some moves when you two were laying in bed. Just take that knowledge going foward for the next time you get cudly in bed with a girl. At least make out with them and touch them.

 

I know, I definitely should have done something that night. It was all set up for something to begin. I'm guessing that was why she woke up a little bit vex and virtually kicked me out . I will probably give her a call some time soon, I need to talk to her anyway (she's one of the best singers around where I live IMO, so I need to give her some good music - subliminal ).

 

PUA material is just standard information geared toward making money off clueless guys. I mean confidence, social status, escalating its all common knowledge. Just think of the baseball analogy of rounding the bases that has been around forever. The bases may have changed but the clear goal is to go as far as you can with a girl. Telling guys to approach girls is great, Telling them to be witty and fun is great, giving them PUA scripts and tactics is very lame.

 

So yes PUA stuff is entertaining and a lot of it is just common sense. The thing is you can't take it to seriously and you really can't spend money on it!!!

 

Oh yeah, I don't take a lot of it too seriously, I'm not about to become a PUA or anything stupid like that. It is mostly common sense, but figure that lots of guys don't learn this or are not confident enough to learn it. Just building up to that point really. I got my confidence from being on stage, and it's no coincidence that since I haven't performed in a long while, I have been at my lowest in recent times. I missed rapping on stage, playing piano on stage, and even playing bass even though I wasn't that good at it at the time. That was my zone, where I got bold.

 

I hate the scripted stuff though, and pick up lines. I don't neg either (an older woman who knew of PUA told me recently that I was "too good-looking" to pull off negging ). To date, I have downloaded PUA but never spent money on any of it. I plan to make my own way in dating, and I feel I've got the tools to do it.

[iris219]

In answer to your question to plum princess, I assume she meant this:

 

It's not attractive that you rely on women for happiness. I had to end a long term relationship with someone like this. It puts a lot of pressure on the other person to know they are responsible for another's happiness. These people are generally needy, demanding, clingy, and childish, without meaning to be. Because their happiness demands on another person they guard that source of happiness and cling to it like a child to his mother's leg. There are few things less attractive than someone who can't be happy on their own.

 

YOU are responsible for your own happiness. You have to learn to be happy on your own, sitting alone at your desk. Genuine happiness and positivity radiates from certain people. Those are the people who make friends and date easily.

[ThaWholigan]

In answer to your question to plum princess, I assume she meant this:

 

It's not attractive that you rely on women for happiness. I had to end a long term relationship with someone like this. It puts a lot of pressure on the other person to know they are responsible for another's happiness. These people are generally needy, demanding, clingy, and childish, without meaning to be. Because their happiness demands on another person they guard that source of happiness and cling to it like a child to his mother's leg. There are few things less attractive than someone who can't be happy on their own.

 

YOU are responsible for your own happiness. You have to learn to be happy on your own, sitting alone at your desk. Genuine happiness and positivity radiates from certain people. Those are the people who make friends and date easily.

 

I agree with all this. What I have lacked in social skills, I have made up for by my positivity and optimism about things in general. That is how I have been able to have such a large, if somewhat loose, social circle. That and the fact that I can play an instrument, which also makes me happy.

 

Positive people generally tend to attract others.

[2.50 a gallon]

You guys are you own worst enemies. The only one stopping you, is you

 

You can't dance. Learn!

 

So what if there are 3 times the guys as gals, watch the footwork of the guys who are the better dancers. Then go home and practice, when there is nobody else around.

 

I learned to dance by watching American Bandstand. Shows my age huh. I watched then I practised.

 

Music is part of a woman's soul. There are some songs, such as Gloria Gayner's "I Will Survive" (again shows my age) that they have to get up and shake it. Just to let the world know that they are alive and loving it.

 

I was a good dancer, never a great dancer, but during the disco days I could get laid every night I went out dancing. Think about it, night time, some drinking and we are shaking our booties to a sexy beat. From what I have seen, salsa dancing should be even better.

 

Watch and learn

 

Can you cook? Learn! Teach yourself how to cook some gourmet meals. And even some simpler ones, like chicken and dumplings. Can you make a quiche to serve them breakfast in the morning? Learn

 

Make yourself interesting. How about tropical fish. My buddy had a big goldfish eating Oscar. They would watch once during a feeding and never come back.

 

He made fun of my tank which had neons, danio's, etc. It was a large tank, I had it low, about 4 inches off of the carpet. Some pillows, some wine, soft music, soft lighting and just talk while we watched the fish swim. Many a time they kissed me first

 

As far as yourself being physically attractive, a good many women, see beyond our looks. Are you confident? Are you a fun guy? Are you interesting? Can you be trusted? Are all factors that out weigh your looks.

 

So you think you are unattractive. I have a friend who is short and skinny and has a Gorbachev spot, totally surrounding his right eye. You should see the hottie that he married, and the number of tears that fell when he chose her over them

 

"she had awesome breasts" - Too late you blew your chance, by staring at her boobs. Most women that I know hate it when a man talks to her boobs. Look them in the eye when you talk to them

Edited January 7, 2012 by 2.50 a gallon

[jobaba]

You guys are you own worst enemies. The only one stopping you, is you

 

You can't dance. Learn!

 

So what if there are 3 times the guys as gals, watch the footwork of the guys who are the better dancers. Then go home and practice, when there is nobody else around.

 

I learned to dance by watching American Bandstand. Shows my age huh. I watched then I practised.

 

Music is part of a woman's soul. There are some songs, such as Gloria Gayner's "I Will Survive" (again shows my age) that they have to get up and shake it. Just to let the world know that they are alive and loving it.

 

I was a good dancer, never a great dancer, but during the disco days I could get laid every night I went out dancing. Think about it, night time, some drinking and we are shaking our booties to a sexy beat. From what I have seen, salsa dancing should be even better.

 

Watch and learn

 

Can you cook? Learn! Teach yourself how to cook some gourmet meals. And even some simpler ones, like chicken and dumplings. Can you make a quiche to serve them breakfast in the morning? Learn

 

Make yourself interesting. How about tropical fish. My buddy had a big goldfish eating Oscar. They would watch once during a feeding and never come back.

 

He made fun of my tank which had neons, danio's, etc. It was a large tank, I had it low, about 4 inches off of the carpet. Some pillows, some wine, soft music, soft lighting and just talk while we watched the fish swim. Many a time they kissed me first

 

As far as yourself being physically attractive, a good many women, see beyond our looks. Are you confident? Are you a fun guy? Are you interesting? Can you be trusted? Are all factors that out weigh your looks.

 

So you think you are unattractive. I have a friend who is short and skinny and has a Gorbachev spot, totally surrounding his right eye. You should see the hottie that he married, and the number of tears that fell when he chose her over them

 

"she had awesome breasts" - Too late you blew your chance, by staring at her boobs. Most women that I know hate it when a man talks to her boobs. Look them in the eye when you talk to them

 

It's all good stuff, but this stuff is more for keeping a woman or hooking her harder after you've already kissed her.

 

Not much of the above can get a woman initially attracted to you. I'm a REALLY good guitar player and it has not gotten me any women. However, it has impressed them after I've already gotten them, for what that's worth.

 

Maybe back in your day, women were more logical about attraction.

 

I meant that in the best possible way too.

[Imageiko]

So you think I'm flirting just fine, asking out girls at exactly the right time and know precisely when to make moves?

 

You are trying to run before you learn to walk. You have to start with yourself first before you try and attract another person and start worrying about what to say and what moves to make...

[Dust]

In answer to your question to plum princess, I assume she meant this:

 

It's not attractive that you rely on women for happiness. I had to end a long term relationship with someone like this. It puts a lot of pressure on the other person to know they are responsible for another's happiness. These people are generally needy, demanding, clingy, and childish, without meaning to be. Because their happiness demands on another person they guard that source of happiness and cling to it like a child to his mother's leg. There are few things less attractive than someone who can't be happy on their own.

 

YOU are responsible for your own happiness. You have to learn to be happy on your own, sitting alone at your desk. Genuine happiness and positivity radiates from certain people. Those are the people who make friends and date easily.

 

If Somedude81 took this to heart all his problems would be gone... because the problems are all in his head. He blames people for not creating his happyness. In the end you have to create your own happyness.

[somedude81]

I might. It depends on how interesting I found our little chat and in what kind of mood I was at that time.

Heh, that's better than a straight up no.

You go out without a partner and get your practice by dancing with lots of different people. That's how women learn how to follow and men how to lead. Having a partner is good for learning the patterns, but it's not the ideal thing when you want to learn how to lead.

Going to a Salsa club is basically only being able to dance with a girl once every four songs. I've always had a terrible time. Class was so much funner.

You should consider changing your school if you think a good follower is supposed to anticipate your next move. You lead and she follows. If she anticipates, then she is clearly not a good dancer. I know lots of guys who hate it when women try to predict their next move. That's not her job. The woman's job is to follow what the men leads. If I were you, I would get a second opinion on how good you really are. Maybe the bad female dancers are not that bad and you are not giving them clear signals, that's why they don't know what is expected of them.

Maybe anticipating wasn't the best term. More like being able to read what move I'm doing and not screw it up. It's very easy to tell when a woman is easy to lead.

 

In answer to your question to plum princess, I assume she meant this:

 

It's not attractive that you rely on women for happiness. I had to end a long term relationship with someone like this. It puts a lot of pressure on the other person to know they are responsible for another's happiness. These people are generally needy, demanding, clingy, and childish, without meaning to be. Because their happiness demands on another person they guard that source of happiness and cling to it like a child to his mother's leg. There are few things less attractive than someone who can't be happy on their own.

I understand that it's not attractive to be needy. That is why I try to keep it to myself. But yes, I have slipped up a few times.

 

One thing though, is that I would never tell a girl that I depend on her for my happiness. I know I have to give her space and not let her think I'm desperate or whatever.

YOU are responsible for your own happiness. You have to learn to be happy on your own, sitting alone at your desk. Genuine happiness and positivity radiates from certain people. Those are the people who make friends and date easily.

I'm already 30 years old, I know I cannot be happy while being completely alone. Hopefully that doesn't mean that I'm never going to have a chance.

 

You are trying to run before you learn to walk. You have to start with yourself first before you try and attract another person and start worrying about what to say and what moves to make...

Huh?

 

Don't you think that if I know what to say and what moves to make, I might actually get lucky?

 

Either way, it's stupid to not try and improve myself in those areas.

[Dust]

I just thought of something very important somedude... This goes with out saying but when you get in a serious relationship with a girl... YOU MUST NEVER EVER let her find out about Somedude81. If you want to keep posting her thats fine. But start a new user name and don't tell any one here you're somedude81. The last thing you need is for a relationship to be going well and for her to see all these posts... the last thing. I'm not saying you're wrong or should be ashamed of any of this. I'm just saying never let her know. Never.

[somedude81]

I just thought of something very important somedude... This goes with out saying but when you get in a serious relationship with a girl... YOU MUST NEVER EVER let her find out about Somedude81. If you want to keep posting her thats fine. But start a new user name and don't tell any one here you're somedude81. The last thing you need is for a relationship to be going well and for her to see all these posts... the last thing. I'm not saying you're wrong or should be ashamed of any of this. I'm just saying never let her know. Never.

What if I start dating a woman I met here and she knows how I am?

 

Though no, I would not tell a girl that I post here or what my username is.

 

BTW, why would I want to make a new account.

 

Actually I might, how about, somedude81GotLaid

[cerridwen]

What if I start dating a woman I met here and she knows how I am?

 

Is that going to happen? :bunny:

WHO IS IT?! Do we all know her?!

Is she from the Midwest?!

[Dust]

What if I start dating a woman I met here and she knows how I am?

 

Though no, I would not tell a girl that I post here or what my username is.

 

BTW, why would I want to make a new account.

 

Actually I might, how about, somedude81GotLaid

 

Well then my friend you have yourself a very special girl and you need to promise to really cherish her!

 

You better pm me you dirty dog if you have something brewing with a girl here...

[somedude81]

Is that going to happen? :bunny:

WHO IS IT?! Do we all know her?!

Is she from the Midwest?!

ROFL! No way that's going to happen

 

It was all purely hypothetical.

 

Though I'm not saying it's impossible for it to happen with a woman.

 

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Probably a really stupid thing to do but I sent D an email.

 

I said that I understood why she did what she did because I put a lot of pressure on her and most likely made her feel uncomfortable. That she was always patient and understanding with me, and that I basically made her feel that she had no other choice. I closed with wishing that if we see each other on campus, I can say hi to her instead of pretending to ignore each other.

 

I at least hope she reads it. A reply would be highly surprising.

 

It kills me how much I'm still stuck on her. It's been two months since I last saw her and I'm usually completely over most girls by now. But for some reason the pain hasn't lessened. I don't know what's going on.