Magda70 Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Sometimes ago I read here (cannot find that post any longer) that women get over exes much more easily as they have a network who supports them by repeating over and over again "he's a jerk"... Well, I totally disagree with that statement...I think that "it all depends both" for the resilience in getting over exes and for the supporting networks In my case for example, my ex slandered/s me (unfortunately this is the word) in front of his family by telling them his sentimental crisis was due before to the fact I worked far away then (when I was not any longer working far away) to my alleged depression while instead - i later discovered - there was a lot going on behind my shoulders which was more than sufficient to drive him nuts... But that's not all: when I happen to phone or text him in the office (unfortunately there are still issues to be arranged), even if he is busy, he always answers me or reply to my texes...just for telling me off because I called/text-ed him and ruined his meetings or whatever he is busy with. And also he spreads the voice to his colleagues that I am an obsessed neurotic individual (as they obviously hear the beep of the texts) I do not know you but I normally switch off me phone when I do not want to be disturbed...wouldn't you? Recenty, for example, he had his performance appraisal and I happen to call him just then. Instead of declining the conversation (of switching off the phone), he took up the phone to tell me off I disturbed him. I hanged up the phone while he screamed and shouted at me. He then called me back twice to telling me off as hanging the phone on people is unpolite (because screaming and shouting is not) and a bunch of other stuff related to the fact I would not respect his job as I called him (to which i did not react to). Then he sent me a text with a "f.u." then he sent me and email with "thanks for having ruined my performance appraisal"... I don't remember the English idiom for this but isn't this a case where they beg for attention so they can 1) boost their ego; 2) allow people to think you chase them 3) allow people to think you disturb them. This is very painful. Psycology might call this attitude passive-agressive. I am not sure about it... Have you got similar experiences? Link to post Share on other sites
kvinna Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Wow, he sounds like a loser. It's like he needs to believe that you're hanging all over him. I would stop contacting him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Magda70 Posted December 24, 2011 Author Share Posted December 24, 2011 Wow, he sounds like a loser. It's like he needs to believe that you're hanging all over him. I would stop contacting him. I have already stopped contacting him (for a few days only, actually). Theoretically, I still need to arrange two different deliveries of items. Then I do not need to contact him any longer. I don't know I am supposed not to care but I hope that not contacting him, triggers some into his mind which makes him realize of what he did...uhm...subject for a new post. Link to post Share on other sites
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