TheSingleGuy Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 The question is right there. Who experiences more rejection in dating, men or women? And why? Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Men are usually the instigators so they face more opportunity for rejection. Simple numbers game when it comes to approaching a member of the opposite sex. Link to post Share on other sites
lululucy Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Unattractive men and unattractive women. Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Men are usually the instigators so they face more opportunity for rejection. Simple numbers game when it comes to approaching a member of the opposite sex. This Before a relationship I have been rejected more, but once a relationship has started, I have done the dumping more than I have been dumped. Link to post Share on other sites
93TheHitStick Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Men. If a girl is brave enough to ask a guy out he will give her a chance. Guys have to ask the girls out. So of course they face way more rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Unattractive men and unattractive women. ^This. Men get rejection when women turn down their advances. Women get rejected when men ignore her signals and dont make advances Link to post Share on other sites
Jessica45 Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 First Date - I think men get rejected most often. They do the majority of initiating so that just makes sense. Second+ Dates - I think women get rejected most often. Too many women date men who aren't looking for a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
grkBoy Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 I see men mainly getting rejected when they pursue women and get rejected when they ask for a number or ask her out. I see women mainly get rejected when it's been a few dates, or even weeks/months/years...she lowered her guard, gave her heart, and he decided he simply wanted to stay "single and bangin". Both genders face it differently. Only thing us men get lucky on is we're not investing too much of ourselves before we get rejected. Imagine how it feels to be with someone for a long time, sleep with that person many times, etc...only to find out she was never really interested in the "long haul". So when you think you found "the one", she ends up leaving you for someone else. That or she makes you believe she likes you, has you take her out many times, wine, dine, etc...then dumps you to chase someone hotter? I know men have seen that, but women see it far more often. I think men get rejected more in dating, but I believe women get rejected harder. We men have the luxury in many cases of not investing emotion into it all before the reject. Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Imagine how it feels to be with someone for a long time, sleep with that person many times, etc...only to find out she was never really interested in the "long haul". the more accurate scenario for men would be she makes you believe she likes you, has you take her out many times, wine, dine, etc...and doesn't put out I think men get rejected more in dating, but I believe women get rejected harder. We men have the luxury in many cases of not investing emotion into it all before the reject. this is true. men just want to pump and dump and can hurt a woman much harder. Link to post Share on other sites
fivefive Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Men without a doubt. I feel that it is the man's responsibility to make the moves necessary to start a relationship. In my experience, it's rare to find a girl that will ask a man to go on a date or will approach a man at a social setting. Women are the choosers and men are the ones usually getting rejected or accepted. Link to post Share on other sites
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Rejection is a human experience, not a man vs woman experience. Men and women sometimes just get rejected in different ways since the dynamics are different. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Some women think rejection is, a guy not going up to her when she looks at him and flicks her hair, whether the guy notices her or not. So definitely women get rejected more, since they can get rejected by hundreds of men a day. Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 I think men get rejected more in dating, but I believe women get rejected harder. We men have the luxury in many cases of not investing emotion into it all before the reject. It's more of a issue of when it happens. Men get rejected more often early on like others said...but women get rejected more once they've given their heart to a guy. It is a pick your poison, rejected a lot early on with little to no investment, or rejected less often, but once you've invested a lot more. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Men. If a girl is brave enough to ask a guy out he will give her a chance. That's not true. Except for the guys I met online, I always got turned down. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Apples and oranges. Women would get rejected more often if more men knew what kind of woman they're looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
you_can_not_see_me Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 is this a joke! men get rejected more period! being let down later on does not count as rejection! its not being on the same page, which happens just as frequently to men as it does not women. so don't sugar coat this clear cut situation. even though men get rejected more, like 10 times more. I still don't feel sorry for myself. cause even though I have to put up with rejection, I can try my luck with girls I think are hot and not wait for others. girl I think is hot rejects me, ok, onto next girl I think is hot! the wait is only as long as I make it be. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Men get rejection when women turn down their advances. Women get rejected when men ignore her signals and dont make advances qft qft qft qft Link to post Share on other sites
lululucy Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 I think grkBoy has a good point -- by the time a woman is rejected, she has usually put a lot of herself into the relationship. Rejection of your whole personality/self is a lot harder to stomach than rejection at the bar when you try to buy someone a drink. It's a lot more debilitating. On just initial contact, kaylan has a point for sure. We women expect you to notice when we're making signals and when they're ignored, we take it as personal rejection despite later learning (as happened to me -several-times) that the guy was very, very interested. Oh what a few beers brings out. Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 I think grkBoy has a good point -- by the time a woman is rejected, she has usually put a lot of herself into the relationship. Rejection of your whole personality/self is a lot harder to stomach than rejection at the bar when you try to buy someone a drink. It's a lot more debilitating. Dont forget first dates for men with that satement...my biggest percentage of rejection has come not trying to get a number, but after a first date and never hearing back from them, which is requires a small bit of investment and a rejection of what you have invested, though its not as bad as been in a relationship and being rejected Link to post Share on other sites
Oxy Moronovich Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 Dont forget first dates for men with that satement...my biggest percentage of rejection has come not trying to get a number, but after a first date and never hearing back from them, which is requires a small bit of investment and a rejection of what you have invested, though its not as bad as been in a relationship and being rejected True. It's also a rejection when she gives out her number but doesn't answer when you call. Link to post Share on other sites
kaylan Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 And its rejection when shes giving me flirty eyes and body language signals and I choose to not walk over. Its also a rejection when she dances next to me for a few songs, but I chose not dance with her. And its also a rejection when shes always really flirty with me at work or in class but I never ask her out. Works both ways. I just think most guys here never get the chance to reject women or are oblivious when a girl is actually into them. Link to post Share on other sites
Casablanca Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 And its rejection when shes giving me flirty eyes and body language signals and I choose to not walk over. Its also a rejection when she dances next to me for a few songs, but I chose not dance with her. And its also a rejection when shes always really flirty with me at work or in class but I never ask her out. Works both ways. I just think most guys here never get the chance to reject women or are oblivious when a girl is actually into them. Well they need to for lack of a better phrase "grow a pair" and walk over and ask the guy out. There is nothing wrong with a girl actually asking a guy out. Throwing those signs dont mean anything. If a girl is really interested she should take the initiative and make the first move. I know plenty of girls who just like going dancing, and will dance with whomever is around with no intention of giving their number out. If a girl doesn't actually make the first move, then she has rejected herself and it isnt the other way around Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 lol definitely men. I feel like this thread is rhetorical. Most women neeeevvveeerrr put themselves out there. Link to post Share on other sites
Fondue Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 And its rejection when shes giving me flirty eyes and body language signals and I choose to not walk over. Its also a rejection when she dances next to me for a few songs, but I chose not dance with her. And its also a rejection when shes always really flirty with me at work or in class but I never ask her out. Works both ways. I just think most guys here never get the chance to reject women or are oblivious when a girl is actually into them. Running under the assumption that any man is able to read your "signals" is a bit much. Most of us don't read into people and wonder, "hmmm, was she inviting me over to talk to her, or did I misinterpret that?" Even better, "was that even a signal? Or is this just nothing?" When a woman dances next to me, I never ever interpreted that as a sign of interest. She just happened to enjoy the music around me, nothing else. They say, "if a girl chooses to stand next to you and buy a drink near you, she wants you to talk to her." I always saw it as, "well, I guess there was an open spot next to me to squeeze in and get that drink. There are many more examples of this, but most of us men simply don't think of this actions as much more meaningless things. There have been many women that were hanging out with me, and were like, "OMG, HOW CAN YOU IGNORE THAT GIRL LIKE THAT?" I'm always like, "what girl?" This whole "you should be able to read my signals" crap is getting out of hand. A woman would feel a lot less "rejected" if she comes up to the dude and says "hi." I am sure she would get a positive response more often than just "being ignored." Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 The question is right there. Who experiences more rejection in dating, men or women? And why? Individuals with unrealistic expectations (male or female) face the most rejection. There is also the question of what you mean by a rejection. I asked women I barely knew out all the time and a hundred of those rejections hurt less than losing a real relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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