daisydukes Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 My ex and I have been broken up for a week and a half now after I found him cheating but I am still mauling over why he lied to me. My friend texted me a photo of my boyfriend and another woman kissing. I said where did you get this? She said I saw them at the bar together kissing and holding hands. I was furious so I texted my boyfriend the photo and said is this true? He texted me back and said you knew it was over a month ago when I said we should see other people and you know it. I said that is funny a month ago we you held me into your arms and said you loved me and wanted to hopefully get married someday. I also said remember just the other day you came over my apartment and you kissed me all over and I kissed you all over so how you possibly say right now you said a month ago it was over? I also said unless I have short term memory I clearly do not ever remember you saying you wanted to see other people and if you wanted to see other people and it was over why would you say you loved me and get married explain that one? He never texted me back only until 2 hours later saying how he much he cared about me and hoped we can stay friends. I am still banging my head against the wall ( not literally) thinking how can he lie to me like that? Link to post Share on other sites
shayla Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 My ex did the same thing. For some people, lying is easy, it's part of their lifestyle. I never understood how it could be easy for him either. I just don't have it in me to look into someone's eyes, tell them I love them and all that, knowing I had someone else that I was saying the same things to....that's what I mean by lifestyle. For some people, lying is probably as normal as breathing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author daisydukes Posted December 23, 2011 Author Share Posted December 23, 2011 The worst part? He was in a relationship the whole time with this other woman a month ago and now they are official and everything. A month ago he wanted to marry me and the whole time he was in a relationship with her? That part is mind boggling! He never even had the decency to tell me it was over I had to find out the hard way when my friend texted me a photo of them kissing. I imagine if I had never even found out he would still continue to lead me on meanwhile still in a relationship with her and keeping me on the side. I suppose when he got caught he thought oh no how am I going to get out of this one? I know I will say I wanted to see other people a month ago make her look like she is totally clueless and doesn't remember a thing because some women can totally buy that but guess what I am not like other women and I always remember what people say and I never space out and pretend to not hear them that isn't me. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 Obviously, he never said before and you never said that you two should see other people. He's only saying that now, and pretending there was some mutual agreement, to get off the hook. Amazing how he thought you would buy that. I guess he figured it would make him look better to you if you could somehow consider that it was mutually agreeable that he is seeing someone else. Good riddance to that bum. Some guys will say anything to get into a woman's pants and keep them on the string. Lots of men out there that like to bring up the M word because they think that's the way to keep a woman strung along, even though they have no intention of marrying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author daisydukes Posted December 23, 2011 Author Share Posted December 23, 2011 I keep on thinking of I had never found out how long would of he strung me along? Probably months possibly even years and meanwhile I would be the other woman and having no clue what he is doing behind my back. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 I always wonder what's going in someone's head when they create a new version of what had really happened. Do they lie on purpose or did they convince themselves somehow that their version must be true? In any case, it's a very serious character flaw. Being guilty and not only being unable to accept the blame, but to shift it to someone else by trying to manipulate them with lies. It's really disgusting. It just reminded me of someone and now remembering the lies he had told me, I wonder why I spent years pining for this *******. Link to post Share on other sites
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