How/Where can I meet girls and what should I do to approach?

[UAH_MegaDork]

Hey all,

I've been reading through these posts and it seems like most of you are pretty well ventured in relationships. I have lived in alabama for a few years now to go to college and I've had the HARDEST time meeting new girls. I've had a few relationships but it's been people that are friends of friends or one of my sisters friends. None of them have worked out though My first and I split because she wanted someone of the same religion, and the other (msot recent) and I split because we weren't communicating well enough.

Which brings me to my question, [color=red]where do single girls hang out and how can you tell if they are interested in talking to you?[/color] I have a real problem with what to say other than "Hi, what's your name?" and where to go from there, I just kind of lock up

 

I think of myself as fairly attractive and I think I have a pretty good personality, but I just don't want to date more people that are mutual friends of people I know, and I just want to have something that will last, you know? Ladies please fill me in on what I'm missing out on!!!

 

thanks

Jon

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Originally posted by UAH_MegaDork

where do single girls hang out and how can you tell if they are interested in talking to you?[/color] I have a real problem with what to say other than "Hi, what's your name?" and where to go from there, I just kind of lock up

 

Go to coffee shops, open microphone nights at cafes, or diners. Preferably, get to these places in the evenings when you know people will be spending time relaxing. I do not like to approach people when they are busy, waiting for a bus or at their place of employment for instance. Otherwise, I will walk up to girls and start conversations. Not just girls, but people in general.

 

Instead of doing the "Hello, what is your name?" thing, just launch into a more interesting conversation. The other evening I went to the diner, and I saw a group of girls just sitting around not talking very much. I had been doing some writing, so I went over to the table and said: "Excuse me, I see that nothing is occupying your time, so would you mind critiquing this piece for me? I've just finished writing it and I could use an outside opinion."

 

They passed what I wrote around, and that started more conversation about what I wrote, how I write and what I like to write, read, and all sorts of other things. I only went up to them for a late night conversation, and that is all that I got out of it. It was quite a good conversation, however, as I was the topic the entire time

 

Just go up to people and make good conversation. You don't have to have something written down, but try to start out with a topic rather than "Hello, how are you?" I find asking questions usually leads to making people feel uncomfortable, or outright rejection: "No. You can't sit down I'm busy here."

 

Just assume the role of a salesman. You are selling your company for conversation and you will assume people want it until they specifically say no. Invite yourself over, be bold, and command the discussion at first. I'm sure different techniques work in different instances, but I always find that I have wonderful conversations with new people.