petal28 Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 I would consider myself an attractive and smart gal however i have noticed that when i speak to certain guys in passing who are either friends or co-workers, they put up physical barriers most often in the form of crossing their arms on their chests. I would love to hear the opinions of guys on this forum as to why guys do that. Even if i were not considered smart or attractive, what would make a guy create a physical barrier from a girl. I know that i used to do the same when i was younger when i didn't know much about body language and wasn't confident in myself but these days i make an effort not to cross my arms across my chest when speaking to anyone even if i don't feel that confident. I would like to hear from any guys about possible reasons as to why they would do this when speaking to a girl. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 They probably just do it. It has nothing to do with being a girl. Very likely they do it with other guys as well. And I say, guys are very often not aware how they come across and they do not spend too much time thinking about that kind of things. If these were women, I'd be more concerned about it. Link to post Share on other sites
kaleidoscope Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 I'm a guy. I can only speak for myself that if it a girl I'm not attracted to and just a coworker I'm not thinking about anything and I'm probably just trying to be comfortable. On the other hand, if it was a super super attractive girl I am trying to figure out how to look cool. But I don't cross my arms. Maybe for like 10 seconds if I'm standing a lot but eventually I'll bring them down. Link to post Share on other sites
Author petal28 Posted December 31, 2011 Author Share Posted December 31, 2011 Can anyone else please contribute? Link to post Share on other sites
BigDumbFoot Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Hi. I find that when I talk to girls that I find attractive I tend to be a bit more reserved or shy acting. Sometimes this involves crossing my arms or acting a little standoffish. I usually try to smile still and give eye contact when I can, but I'm just a naturally shy dude, as I'm sure a lot of guys are, even if they don't seem it. Hope that helps. Link to post Share on other sites
volvo99 Posted February 21, 2012 Share Posted February 21, 2012 Attractive women = intimidating women. And, as such, men deep down want to be bullied and bossed by such women. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted February 21, 2012 Share Posted February 21, 2012 Most men dont know about subtle body language, or pay attention to it. So when they are crossing their arms, it doesnt mean anything. They probably cross their arms when they have nothing to lean on in that particular spot, but dont want to put their hands in their pockets, or hang them by their sides. It also mean that if you are giving them subtle body language cues, they dont see those either. So if you want them to have some kind of attraction to you, you have to be more overt. Link to post Share on other sites
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