tinkstwin Posted May 31, 2004 Share Posted May 31, 2004 Theres this guy at my work Ill call Tom. Hes a junior in hs about to be a senior, im a senior. We've worked together for a few months and I never really thought about him liking me even though he used to flirt by untieing my apron just so i would have to tie it again. But not until today hes been acting different. Like he said "so whatcha doing tonight?' jokiking around kinda dirty. they he was like so what about the movies? and i would igonore him and laugh it off. later i was like " so what about tonight tom jk" and he was like "im not ill pay for everything too" he would also say "my parents are gone tonight but joking around i think. later he even tried to ask me about going out but stturted and felt stupid and was like " you know what im trying to say" and before i left he was like "call me" and i told him "no, u call me!" im just confused i never thought he would act this way toward me. What do you think it means? do you think he likes me or is just a booty call or what? Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted May 31, 2004 Share Posted May 31, 2004 From what this guy has said, he might just be interested in getting into your pants. Make sure that the both of you are under age 18, or over age 18. I know this guy probably would not go to the police, but if you are 18 or older and he is younger than 18 any intimacy is illegal. The major thing you need to realize is: You work with this guy. Do you really want to get involved with someone that you work with? You have to see him nearly every day when you go back to work. If things go well, things will get weird. If things go badly, things will go worse and your job will suffer from it. I do not understand why people try to get involved with those they work with. I have never, ever seen this work out before. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveHerMadly Posted June 1, 2004 Share Posted June 1, 2004 I do not understand why people try to get involved with those they work with. I have never, ever seen this work out before. Actually, workplace relationships are alot more common than you think and aren't always fodder for LoveShack. Many of these relationships do work out (unfortunately for me, mine is currently blowing up in my face..) There are 4 couples who met at my workplace that are now happily married. It can work out, it's just that the ones you read about in here have had disasterous endings. A recent survey done by Cal State University found 25% of those polled met their current partner in the workplace. It makes alot of sense if you think about it, people are tired of the bar scene, and it is alot easier to find someone with similar interests at work. You already have something in common just by being in the same place everyday. It is really no different than meeting someone at school. Remember how easy it was to meet someone in High School or College? Think about it... Link to post Share on other sites
ContraryMary Posted June 1, 2004 Share Posted June 1, 2004 Totally agree with you, LoveHerMadly. I just got out of a 4 year relationship with someone I met at work, but I'm still not willing to say I regret it or that it's the worst thing to do. You have to meet people somewhere - why not work? It's true that things can get sticky or uncomfortable if you still have to see the person when things don't work out. But if you're an adult about it when it's over, you can still work in close proximity. To tinkstwin - this guy is a junior and from remembering my high school experiences and those of others, I'd say he's looking for a booty call. If you're interested in more than sex, don't give into it, cause you may invest emotions in someone who only wants you for sex, and end up getting hurt. If you're feeling gutsy, just say "Are you trying to booty call me?" and see what his response to that is. That's what I'd do. But I'm less orthodox than most. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tinkstwin Posted June 2, 2004 Author Share Posted June 2, 2004 well thanks for the help. so basically your saying any guy that is in hs and is in a relationship is in it for sex? My best friend and her boyfriend met when they were juniors and theyve been together for 2 1/2 yrs.. But i guess everyone is different Link to post Share on other sites
ContraryMary Posted June 2, 2004 Share Posted June 2, 2004 Not all high school guys are in it for sex, no. I based my answer on what you said about his behavior. If he really liked you as a person and wasn't thinking of a booty call, I doubt he'd be mentioning dirty ideas and hinting around about his parents not being home. If he's interested in you as a person, he should be thinking about trying to get to know your mind first before he thinks about what he can do with you while his parents are away. But yes, everyone is different. Link to post Share on other sites
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