I feel dumb?

[passions]

For over half a year I've talked to a guy, pretty much every day, the same hours. It's like we can't stop talking to eachother, and he tells me that he thinks about me all the time.

In the beginning we met up as friends, we were both single then but we didn't do any dating. Didn't really feel any attraction either, but there could be special reasons for that, I had just suffered major heartbreak and stuff. He then met someone and they've been seeing eachother for half a year on and off. I have been single for the past half year, probably because I really enjoy talking to this guy and it's taken me this long to figure out, for sure that it's him that I'm interested in and no one else.

But.. as he's been my best friend I've done the mistake of telling him all about my dating history, details and infatuations, he don't believe me when I tell him that I like him. Feels like I got some proving to do which is fine really, I'm up for that, what's not so fine is the fact that he's still seeing this girl and he told me that "I can see myself sitting infront of an empty chat window in a year, wondering how I could behave like this with both ** and ** " ?? What???

Do I stick around and be all nice and friendly and interested (I haven't been treating him that *nice* way before, I haven't focused on getting to know him as I haven't seen him in that very important special light - he loves it when I show interest and loves to talk about things in his life, as if he don't talk to anyone else!) or flee? I don't know. He's a really good friend, I'm totally willing to gamble that though, but it's no cool seriously flirting with someone's bf - we've only been half-joking in a friendly way about our liking eachother before. He's about 29 and I'm a bit younger. I feel dumb, stuck in a nonexistent connection.

[NoMagicBullet]

Yeah, flirting with someone's boyfriend is not cool. I don't think you have to totally flee, though, unless either you or he have feelings such that you can't cope with even low contact. If possible, maybe try to keep things friendly but at a distance? Maybe go longer periods of not talking to each other, and not flirting at all when you do? Try to reach a mutual agrrement on what level of contact you both can handle. I think the only thing you can do right now is remain platonic friends and give it time to see what happens. If he and his current girlfriend get serious, then that's definitely time to depart. If they don't work out, then you might be able to see what happens bewteen the two of you, as long as you don't completely cut each other out of your lives.