Hello Again Update

[MissBee]

I agree.

 

Now, since you aren't really looking for any advice, I don't have much to say. Although, in my case, I never really have anything useful to say.

 

So, I guess that you will spend some time with Mr Gigolo, and we'll all see what develops in the future.

 

Looking forward to the update!

[MyApology]

I agree.

 

Now, since you aren't really looking for any advice, I don't have much to say. Although, in my case, I never really have anything useful to say.

 

So, I guess that you will spend some time with Mr Gigolo, and we'll all see what develops in the future.

 

Well there is a whole other section on LS called 'friends and lovers' where there are 1000s of posts from posters in FB situations and FWB and NSA sex combos....so guess am not the first to post when in such a situaton.

[MissBee]

Well there is a whole other section on LS called 'friends and lovers' where there are 1000s of posts from posters in FB situations and FWB and NSA sex combos....so guess am not the first to post when in such a situaton.

 

Most of them are misguided and lying to themselves as well....

[Severely Unamused]

Well there is a whole other section on LS called 'friends and lovers' where there are 1000s of posts from posters in FB situations and FWB and NSA sex combos....so guess am not the first to post when in such a situaton.

 

Yes. You probably won't be the last either.

 

Most of them are misguided and lying to themselves as well....

 

Are they? LS really is a ball of dysfunction.

[RecordProducer]

Honey, can't you see that you're setting yourself up for another heartbreak? Why wouldn't you want a real relationship with a man? Nothing wrong with casual sex, but for you it's becoming a pattern to start with self-persuasion of casualty - just to grow into pain. And you want to replace one casual relationship with another immediately.

 

Where are YOU in this whole thing? You're a human being with feelings and quirks and yes, a vagina and sexuality. You have a character. And you have a name. Stop being a walking "Apology." You deserve to be loved for everything you are, not just for the fun you can provide. You deserve to have a partner by your side, when good and bad things happen in your life and you deserve the joy of caring for one another in a deeper sense.

 

Please take a moment to re-read some of your statements and reflect on your emotional needs. Feel free to completely discard every word you read, just keep a tiny crumb of my message somewhere in your mind.

 

BUT this is definitely a man who will take one's mind off a MM

So he comes on stage as a replacement for MM. Wouldn't be a problem at all if he were a regular new BF.

Not hopping, did I really have a man in MM? No.

Your comfort for not having MM is that you never had him, which is partially true. But do you realize that you can actualy have a man? And even if he hurts you, you will always have the treasure of once having that man. And then another may come. But at least you will be truthful to yourself. You keep lying to yourself that you just need casual fun when how you feel, act, and end up is IN LOVE.

 

all anybody writes about is how badly they are treated, getting dumped, how can they chase or do things to get a man back. I am not up to that, have little tolerance or patience to play games.

I have even had men who were friends end up acting like asses.

Do not need that in my life.

I just want to enjoy myself and not have to deal with liars.

So, you have commitment issues due to lack of trust. We all have issues, but we need to know our own so we can embrace them and tell them how to behave - instead of our issues telling us how to behave.

 

I actually found what I was looking for, he is offering emotional and physical fireworks all the while it has been clearly defined that this is to be light and fun. Although he has made it clear for me not to mess with other men at the moment.

Isn't this exactly how you felt before you started dating ex-MM? You're going for the same profile of relationship again.

 

I do, however, like an emotional connection with lust, not just a emotionless FB.

This is love. Thisis how true loves start: people feel emotionally connected and they have a lot of fun and lust. And they fall in love. And a year later, they start talking marriage. But women who engage in affairs make the mistake of thinking it's just going to be this + that, A + B,... but it never is because you were looking for the right thing with the wrong man from the very start.

 

You want a relationship, baby! Do not fool yourself.

 

He only gets involved with one woman at a time. . . . also the perks of going out to dinners, everything a relationship should be without the rollercoaster of highs and lows.

Yup. This is a relationship.This is how they start. Edited December 27, 2011 by RecordProducer

[Owl]

I figure that the "don't feed them" policy usually works the best in these situations.

[bentnotbroken]

I posted the same thing on another thread.

 

Not sure why someone would post a photo that looks like it came from a site for gay men, and then announce to the OW board that they are going to have sex with a man that they've only texted, and met in person only once in passing.

 

What do I know, though. Maybe some people went to the wassail bowl more than they should have this holiday weekend.

 

 

Not wassail, but rum balls.

[MyApology]

Not wassail, but rum balls.

 

Love them rum balls! Thank you for your positive and enlighting advice.

[MyApology]

I posted the same thing on another thread.

 

Not sure why someone would post a photo that looks like it came from a site for gay men, and then announce to the OW board that they are going to have sex with a man that they've only texted, and met in person only once in passing.

 

What do I know, though. Maybe some people went to the wassail bowl more than they should have this holiday weekend.

 

Wow, you guys seem like a nice little bunch. I have not slept with him yet and have known him quite awhile. I read more posts on people having one date and sleeping with them off the bat and do not see them judged as harshly as I am. It seems like the excuse, 'his d*ck just fell into my p*ssy,' I am not easy, oops it happened again, is an okay and acceptable excuse lol on LS:)

Gay pic? Meow. Sorry, i did heavily wash out the photo, he actually did it as a favor for a friend/photographer, pics are actually non vulgar, and were beautifully shot. No erect, nasty shots. He is one of few whose little head is absolutely eye candy when at rest:)))))

Edited December 27, 2011 by MyApology

[Mme. Chaucer]

Cool story, brah.

[MyApology]

Honey, can't you see that you're setting yourself up for another heartbreak? Why wouldn't you want a real relationship with a man? Nothing wrong with casual sex, but for you it's becoming a pattern to start with self-persuasion of casualty - just to grow into pain. And you want to replace one casual relationship with another immediately.

 

Where are YOU in this whole thing? You're a human being with feelings and quirks and yes, a vagina and sexuality. You have a character. And you have a name. Stop being a walking "Apology." You deserve to be loved for everything you are, not just for the fun you can provide. You deserve to have a partner by your side, when good and bad things happen in your life and you deserve the joy of caring for one another in a deeper sense.

 

Please take a moment to re-read some of your statements and reflect on your emotional needs. Feel free to completely discard every word you read, just keep a tiny crumb of my message somewhere in your mind.

 

So he comes on stage as a replacement for MM. Wouldn't be a problem at all if he were a regular new BF.

Your comfort for not having MM is that you never had him, which is partially true. But do you realize that you can actualy have a man? And even if he hurts you, you will always have the treasure of once having that man. And then another may come. But at least you will be truthful to yourself. You keep lying to yourself that you just need casual fun when how you feel, act, and end up is IN LOVE.

 

So, you have commitment issues due to lack of trust. We all have issues, but we need to know our own so we can embrace them and tell them how to behave - instead of our issues telling us how to behave.

Isn't this exactly how you felt before you started dating ex-MM? You're going for the same profile of relationship again.

 

This is love. Thisis how true loves start: people feel emotionally connected and they have a lot of fun and lust. And they fall in love. And a year later, they start talking marriage. But women who engage in affairs make the mistake of thinking it's just going to be this + that, A + B,... but it never is because you were looking for the right thing with the wrong man from the very start.

 

You want a relationship, baby! Do not fool yourself.

Yup. This is a relationship.This is how they start.

 

Believe it or not, I have experienced deep love a long time ago, the fact is, no one holds a candle to him, he was one in a.....well scratch that thought, no one is like him.

Thank you for your non judgmental thoughts, refreshing:)

I believe the attraction must stem from the fact he is sooooo seductive, not many men like that, and it seeming so natural, oooozing from him. Yes, the late night texts, 'I want you, I need you,' are seducing.

I do not bed hop, and it does take time for me to warm up to another physically. In saying this, you are right in that I have much to think about. Thanks:)

[MyApology]

I hope it has an equally exciting ending as beginning.

 

I forgot, somebody please remind me... did her xMM have legs?

 

Why do you post, if you have zero capability of putting together a thoughtful or insightful viewpoint? Is this bitter.com...ha ha.

[MyApology]

What? Why so defensive? I said I hoped your story had an equally exciting ending as beginning. How ungrateful you are.

 

There must be a vacancy under the South Park bridge.

 

Still spewing negativity I see, there was not even a glimmer of defense in my post, just facts. Grateful? How narcissistic to even joke one owes you anything, when all you do it spit out hatefulness, and put others down. Nice guy? girl?

[whichwayisup]

Although he is texting me alot...now texting and calling, it is late. Hmmm...hope he does not get attached. It is like I am going from a non texter to one who is bombing me with them.

 

Believe him when he told you that he isn't one to fall for or want to be in ANY relationship or get married. Seems his texts and him chasing you is making you think that he is falling for you??? what he is doing is playing his "game" and making sure you're interested. Not malciously, but so he gets what he wants, which is you on your back. Sorry to be so blunt. This guy IS a player, not your typical a-hole user player, but he still is a player. I do hope you were joking about him possibly falling for you! Trust me, he ain't gonna get attached to you that way.. If anything, it'll be you falling for him and he'll head for the hills when he senses this, as all those types of players do..Typical behaviour of them.

[MyApology]

Believe him when he told you that he isn't one to fall for or want to be in ANY relationship or get married. Seems his texts and him chasing you is making you think that he is falling for you??? what he is doing is playing his "game" and making sure you're interested. Not malciously, but so he gets what he wants, which is you on your back. Sorry to be so blunt. This guy IS a player, not your typical a-hole user player, but he still is a player. I do hope you were joking about him possibly falling for you! Trust me, he ain't gonna get attached to you that way.. If anything, it'll be you falling for him and he'll head for the hills when he senses this, as all those types of players do..Typical behaviour of them.

 

Thanks, I know this, he is just a tad clingy with the texting, more like persistent, a better word vampirish...lol. The needing, the wanting:) Have to give it to him, his pursuit and persistence is fun. He must get away with it because he is hot, I believe if a way less desirable man did this, he would have a restraining order.....

[MissBee]

Wow, you guys seem like a nice little bunch. I have not slept with him yet and have known him quite awhile. I read more posts on people having one date and sleeping with them off the bat and do not see them judged as harshly as I am. It seems like the excuse, 'his d*ck just fell into my p*ssy,' I am not easy, oops it happened again, is an okay and acceptable excuse lol on LS:)

Gay pic? Meow. Sorry, i did heavily wash out the photo, he actually did it as a favor for a friend/photographer, pics are actually non vulgar, and were beautifully shot. No erect, nasty shots. He is one of few whose little head is absolutely eye candy when at rest:)))))

 

Wtf?! Daisssy???

[MyApology]

Wtf?! Daisssy???

 

Well it is true, the penis is not always a beautiful site on every man, especially at rest...

I am however having second thoughts now on candyman, but it at least has made me forget about MM. I believe it is best to have a candid talk with MM, and leave it at, was an okay time, best to drop the situation completely, and pretend it never existed and go about our merry ways without any lingering feelings.

He is just going to go on, find another, sucker them in with his sad story of how miserable he is, and his marriage...cough, is over. Lucky them, choking now....

At least, it had been somewhat interesting, although it now feels unremarkable, boring, and undesirable.

[MissBee]

Daisy did say she'd be back for Christmas with an update.

 

 

Candyman? Sounds alll too Daisy-like

 

Oh wellll there you have it

[MyApology]

Candyman? Sounds alll too Daisy-like

 

Oh wellll there you have it

 

Okay MissBee, could you go hen peck and heckle somewhere else. NOW, I am being branded as another poster. Really, if you have nothing insightful to post on my threads or find them offensive, just refrain from posting. I am sure a moderator could decipher my ISP from another posters, and maybe hand it gently to you, that you have no gift of intuition.

I am asking nicely that you stop posting on my threads if you cannot behave with good manners and grace. Thank you:)

[RecordProducer]

Believe it or not, I have experienced deep love a long time ago, the fact is, no one holds a candle to him, he was one in a.....well scratch that thought, no one is like him.

Thank you for your non judgmental thoughts, refreshing:)

I believe the attraction must stem from the fact he is sooooo seductive, not many men like that, and it seeming so natural, oooozing from him. Yes, the late night texts, 'I want you, I need you,' are seducing.

I do not bed hop, and it does take time for me to warm up to another physically. In saying this, you are right in that I have much to think about. Thanks:)

I feel like what we're telling you here (unfortunately some folks care more about being judgmental, although I don't see what you've done to to make their blood boil so much) is not touching you at all.

 

Don't be afraid to go for the deep love again. It's beautiful even when it hurts. These men like MM and Mr. Gigolo, they're good for sex, but they're like a hot dog you buy on your way to work. These men don't belong in your thoughts; you should use them and discard them. The things they're telling you have no meaning whatsoever. I can tell you the same things if I want to have sex with you. Sweet words, dinners, intense sex... it's all just sex: (1) bullsh*t, (2) payment for sex and then (3) sex. That's how those men see you.

 

I don't believe you for one minute that all you care about is sexual pleasure. If that were true, you wouldn't have had feelings for MM and wouldn't praise Mr. Gigolo so much. You accept "love" that they show you with their words and their penises. You could have so much more than that if you forget about these broken men who have nothing to offer.

[bentnotbroken]

Love them rum balls! Thank you for your positive and enlighting advice.

Anytime.

 

MissBee

Wtf?! Daisssy???

 

Yup.

[daisy love]

Not even! My sweet man looks way better and anyway, I wouldn't be caught dead with a loser like that. Gimme some credit will ya? Even I know that dudes like that only go after girls with low self esteem and even lower standards. Losers like that never approach gals like me with confidence, because they know they wouldn't have a ice cube's chance in hell. :sick:BARF!

 

We're doing real good, though! So glad you ppl are still thinkin' of me!!

 

MUAH!

[MissBee]

LMAO

 

Well then......

[MissBee]

I feel like what we're telling you here (unfortunately some folks care more about being judgmental, although I don't see what you've done to to make their blood boil so much) is not touching you at all.

 

Don't be afraid to go for the deep love again. It's beautiful even when it hurts. These men like MM and Mr. Gigolo, they're good for sex, but they're like a hot dog you buy on your way to work. These men don't belong in your thoughts; you should use them and discard them. The things they're telling you have no meaning whatsoever. I can tell you the same things if I want to have sex with you. Sweet words, dinners, intense sex... it's all just sex: (1) bullsh*t, (2) payment for sex and then (3) sex. That's how those men see you.

 

I don't believe you for one minute that all you care about is sexual pleasure. If that were true, you wouldn't have had feelings for MM and wouldn't praise Mr. Gigolo so much. You accept "love" that they show you with their words and their penises. You could have so much more than that if you forget about these broken men who have nothing to offer.

 

Great post. I agree!

[MyApology]

Not even! My sweet man looks way better and anyway, I wouldn't be caught dead with a loser like that. Gimme some credit will ya? Even I know that dudes like that only go after girls with low self esteem and even lower standards. Losers like that never approach gals like me with confidence, because they know they wouldn't have a ice cube's chance in hell. :sick:BARF!

 

We're doing real good, though! So glad you ppl are still thinkin' of me!!

 

MUAH!

 

Ha ha! This is too funny! Is this real? Now, I have a complete disillusioned borderline/histrionic, headcase posting on my thread. Thanks to whomever call and beckoned MissDaisy onboard.

Low self esteem and low standards? Yes...okay, my low self esteem and standards has afforded me a lifestyle of comfort and luxury...???

Anyways all people go through periods of low self awareness, maybe not so much esteem, McDaisy, and remember the golden rule, there are always going to be much better looking individuals then yourself, that goes for everyone, the thing is, is your personality seems skewed, the problem....quality intelligent men have a radar for your personality type....and know how to take you for a loop through the laundry and do not stick around with a ring in hand or even a need for a LTR.