spinaroonie Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Anyone experience this? Been dating a girl for a couple months now. I'm 26 and a young professional. She's 22 and still in college. We've banged twice. Girl always refers to me as "sir" in her texts. Examples: Her (3:17 PM): Yo man… I already want dessert haha Me (6:52 PM): lol g working late again. I’ll pick you up at 10 Her (7:01 PM): Yes sir Her (6:51 PM): Fini le exam Me (7:04 PM): bon appetit. I’ll get you at 8 Her (7:13 PM): Okay sir (initiating text): Her (4:46 PM): Sir What should a guy make of this? I interpret it as a sign of submission - she's readily submitting to a man's masculine, dominant frame. Personally, I love it. Makes me feel like a boss and alpha as ****. I've also had girls I've mildly flirted with but not ****ed call me "sir". I think there's some level of attraction anytime a girl calls/texts you "sir" in a pseudo-romantic context and outside of a polite deference to authority scenario. Like she's already submitting to you. Any other guys here experience this? Is this a huge IOI? Or am I reading too much into it? Link to post Share on other sites
HughHardcastle Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Damned if I know. A girl I thought was super into me, responded to a throw away work email of mine with a "I never doubted you sir!". I think she maybe just likes to use the word "sir", and you shouldn't read too much into it. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 IF you know her well, then this is a kind term of endearment. I have friend who I've known for a long time, professionally and personally, my husband and I have gotten to know him and his wife over the years.. He on occasion will call me "miss". Now I know the circumstances are completely different, you're dating her and all, but I don't think there's any hidden message behind it.. She respects you. But, if it bugs you ask her to stop or you want to know, why not just ask why she she calls you sir? Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Well the first example can be interpreted as her replying jokingly and the second one too. But the 3rd? Not sure about that one, which makes me doubt the other two too. It could be due to her upbringing or she's teasing you. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 When she say's "sir", train your brain to hear "sire". It's what we all want deep down inside. Link to post Share on other sites
SimonMas Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Hahaha.....my kids will call me "Sir" whenever they are pissed with me! Link to post Share on other sites
Feelsgoodman Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 I'd be more concerned with her addressing you as "yo man". I've never had a woman speak like that to me. Did you, by any chance, pick her up at your local ghetto? Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 She is just joking, for heaven's sake! Link to post Share on other sites
lululucy Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 She is just joking, for heaven's sake! Yep! She isn't being submissive but if it makes you feel alpha then enjoy Link to post Share on other sites
ZimboGon Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 I call my girlfriend lady, it doesn't mean anything =P Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Maybe she's a big fan of Link to post Share on other sites
Thieves Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Yeah, I think she's just joking. Also, when reading your thread, it didn't seem too strange to me as here in the South, referring to people as sir -- whether out of politeness or romantic interest -- is pretty damn common. Just like men often calling women 'miss' or m'am. Hell, sometimes I even use it as a more sarcastic term when I want to politely annoy somebody else, but I doubt that's what she's doing. Try not to get too riled up with the whole female-submissive thing, though. Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 I call my man 'sir' in different contexts. I say it in a sexually submissive way, in a soft voice, before getting busy. I say it jokingly/sarcastically if he asks me to do something for him when I'm feeling tired, and that way sometimes includes a salute. So for me it depends on the context. In your examples it seems like she's being playful more than anything else. Link to post Share on other sites
Janesays Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Am I the only one that hates the term 'banging?' It sounds so....sexually immature. I either picture a 13 year old boy saying it.....or a big fat sleazy old man who hasn't gotten laid in years saying it. Gross. But yeah, she's just joking. Grow up. Link to post Share on other sites
Thieves Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Am I the only one that hates the term 'banging?' Right there with ya... Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Right there with ya... Me too. Gross. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 OP, you seem to grasp any opportunity to post here about how you "bang." I want you to know that this does not make you look good, even to the audience I believe you are trying to impress (other boys). She calls you "sir" because she doesn't remember your name. Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 She calls you "sir" because she doesn't remember your name. LOL! The guy is a fan of Booker T, wwf wrestler. His finishing move is the spinarooni. So what do you expect? A real man would like Stone Cold http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vBHt2GMccZU To OP, I can't interpret much of anything from a text. You'll have to tell us how she uses it in daily life. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 To OP, I can't interpret much of anything from a text. You'll have to tell us how she uses it in daily life. "Sir, can we bang?" Link to post Share on other sites
MissMoni Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 I wouldn't read into that much, OP. She probably just likes to use the word sir..I use it when I'm flirting with a guy I really like, but I also use it when talking to close male friends. So it really depends on her.. Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 lol yeah this is a productive thing to think about. Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 I would find it a huge turn on if I was dating a college girl who called me sir, especially in the bedroom. Probably because I'm an old dirty bastard. Link to post Share on other sites
Author spinaroonie Posted December 27, 2011 Author Share Posted December 27, 2011 (edited) "Sir, can we bang?" Love it! Edited December 27, 2011 by spinaroonie Link to post Share on other sites
Author spinaroonie Posted December 27, 2011 Author Share Posted December 27, 2011 (edited) Discussed with some buddies and they alluded that she probably has Daddy issues. Also discussed with a female friend and she suggested that she's flirting and showing deference so she wants to set me up in a more dominant position. She sometimes does it herself with her guy and he likes it as well. She doesn't deny having some Daddy issues though. She thinks it does mean something, and she's just being subtle and trying to make me feel good and test out how I react to that. I've found the girls with the most serious daddy issues had the strongest desire to be choked during sex. Girls without father figures or with weak fathers were usually very happy to be choked and slapped. Feminists of course love being choked. Once you start choking women, you’ll be addicted. Women love it, too. Choking is also a useful indicator of your alphaness. If women do not regularly let you choke them, your game is weak. You're giving off a weak, vagina-drying vibe. Edited December 27, 2011 by spinaroonie Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 I don't think you should bother analysing any girl that texts 'yo man' Link to post Share on other sites
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