mOW wants to meet me at a New Year's eve party.

[Severely Unamused]

Always hurts to learn something like this.

Well, at least somebody gets a happy/bittersweet ending (of course, apparently nothing ever ends.). Depends on what side of the coin you're on.

 

There's no need for the "I'm sorry to hear that" stuff. I'm not. What's done is done.

 

Anyway, hopefully your NYE wasn't as dramatic as mine.

[Elizabeth Southerns]

I don't know about needing reinforcement.

 

She didn't really seem to care about what anyone else thought of her. Definitely didn't care about what I thought of her. Wonder if she was like that before she got married.

 

On the off-chance that my stbxH is still in contact with her, I've just pissed away a lot of money on his therapy.

 

My stbxH was continuing the affair. So, I'm guessing that he was lying to his therapist. mOW separated a few months ago.

 

On the plus side, I planned for this.

 

Not cool. Sorry you had to suffer that double insult, SA.

[Severely Unamused]

A lot of other people have it worse.

 

The only thing that gets me now is that I've come to question when he started seeing me as a human money pile and nothing more. Maybe that's why he married me?

 

To new beginnings...

For everyone.

[Kidd]

I know you don't want to hear this and I really admire your strength but...

 

What a d1ckhead he is! And to think that I wanted you to reconcile. People suck. Cynicism wins again, huh, SU? Sorry to hear it.

[Severely Unamused]

What a d1ckhead he is!

A bit depressing that sOW was more honest than he was.

 

Kidd, I kept up with your story and I admire your dedication and loyalty to your wife (There was some stuff that I didn't think so highly of. But you probably know what they are and I won't mention them). There comes a point where you really have to focus more of your attention on yourself and less of your attention on your wife. For your own sanity.

 

Seriously, learn from my mistakes. I made plenty of them. There isn't a larger knucklehead than I am.

[whichwayisup]

Make him pay you back that money you forked out for this therapy..And more.

[Severely Unamused]

Make him pay you back that money you forked out for this therapy..And more.

 

How am I going to "make" him pay me back?

 

Send some boys over to straighten him out or something?

[LilMissMovinOn]

My stbxH was continuing the affair. So, I'm guessing that he was lying to his therapist. mOW separated a few months ago.

 

On the plus side, I planned for this.

 

I had a feeling this was going to be it. Glad u prepared for it. Do u & s2bxH hav children I wonder & if so, how are they coping?

 

Also, I think I read that u were the higher income earner? If so, statistically speaking men M to W with higher incomes hav greater tendency to stray. Who cares why. I'm just sorry u hav to go thru all this.

 

Wishing u all the very best.

[LilMissMovinOn]

There isn't a larger knucklehead than I am.

 

Oh yes there is...sitting broken here in the corner..

 

& yr NOT a knuckle head! u sound like very mature together person...

[bentnotbroken]

How am I going to "make" him pay me back?

 

Send some boys over to straighten him out or something?

 

I got an uncle named Skeeter.

[whichwayisup]

How am I going to "make" him pay me back?

 

Send some boys over to straighten him out or something?

 

Make as in 'ask' 'demand' .. he owes you! Frick, it's the LEAST he can do.

 

I'll come kick his ass if he doesn't!

[18Years2Late]

I'm sorry SU...but at least u know...u said you'd want to know that but I'm sure it sucks just as much...

 

I'm confused though...was stbxh aware that she was telling all? If so, what a coward!!! I'm mean if he's all in with the "plan" why wouldn't he just come clean with u? Why would he send his b!tch to do his dirty work and at a NYE Party none the less? Is it because he likes lying at his therapy sessions??? These a$$clowns kill me.

 

Anyway...chin up...you're strong, and smart, and beautiful, and you'll be just fine...

[Severely Unamused]

Do u & s2bxH hav children I wonder & if so, how are they coping?

 

We have a son. He's been very supportive to both his parents and vice versa.

 

Yeah, I am the higher income earner.

 

Make as in 'ask' 'demand' .. he owes you! Frick, it's the LEAST he can do.

 

Judging by his past behaviour, that ain't happening.

 

I wonder how well you'd do in a fight, which.

 

I'm confused though...was stbxh aware that she was telling all? If so, what a coward!!! I'm mean if he's all in with the "plan" why wouldn't he just come clean with u? Why would he send his b!tch to do his dirty work and at a NYE Party none the less? Is it because he likes lying at his therapy sessions?

 

I'm in no mood to decipher his puzzle of a mind. The man is mentally ill, hence the therapy. One thing I can appreciate about his b!tch was that she was kind enough to tell me (of course, she waited a few months. And she benefits from being honest too.). She thought that his actions were a bit much. Don't think many OW would've done that.

 

Anyway, I'll be spending most of the day with my son. Hope you all have a good day as well.

Edited January 9, 2012 by Severely Unamused
I'm a dum dum.

[Severely Unamused]

& yr NOT a knuckle head! u sound like very mature together person

 

Actually, I'm incredibly cocky.

[woinlove]

We have a son. He's been very supportive to both his parents and vice versa.

 

Yeah, I am the higher income earner.

 

 

 

Judging by his past behaviour, that ain't happening.

 

I wonder how well you'd do in a fight, which.

 

 

 

I'm in no mood to decipher his puzzle of a mind. The man is mentally ill, hence the therapy. One thing I can appreciate about his b!tch was that she was kind enough to tell me (of course, she waited a few months. And she benefits from being honest too.). She thought that his actions were a bit much. Don't think many OW would've done that.

 

Anyway, I'll be spending most of the day with my son. Hope you all have a good day as well.

 

Yes, regardless of her motivations, it is good to know the truth, particularly when some of your resources are involved (money, emotions, whatever). I doubt her motivation was much in the spirit of kindness or why arrange this for a NYE party -- isn't the phone is a satisfactory medium to learn from the OW that your H is still leading a double life and sooner is definitely better than later. But, her motivations don't really matter to anyone but herself. The end result is the same and I'm glad you know the truth.

[Severely Unamused]

Yes, regardless of her motivations, it is good to know the truth, particularly when some of your resources are involved (money, emotions, whatever). I doubt her motivation was much in the spirit of kindness or why arrange this for a NYE party -- isn't the phone is a satisfactory medium to learn from the OW that your H is still leading a double life and sooner is definitely better than later. But, her motivations don't really matter to anyone but herself. The end result is the same and I'm glad you know the truth.

 

That's right wo. The truth was something I really needed.

 

sOW said that she told me on NYE because it was symbolic of new beginnings. I dunno. I'll roll with it. She's a very colourful lady so it's probably true.

 

There's a huge weight off my shoulders now that sOW will be stepping in. So, I guess everything worked out for everybody. Except for the couple of thousand dollars I wasted (Which sort of frustrates me because I donate most of my income to charity and that was about two months worth. Not happy about that at all.).