Time does heal all wounds, even an old "vet" like me (interesting story enclosed)

[Lil1]

I ended the relationship with my ex who still maintains contact with my family, I guess that's partly why it has been easier for me to move on. We hurt each other a lot and after a year of being stuck in the same pattern I finally had enough and decided to end it. He still wanted to work things out but I no longer saw him in the same light and my feelings for him fundamentally changed. He will always hold a place in my heart but I don't see a future together.

 

In my last relationship, I was also the one who ended things because my ex decided to move to another state, and I cannot do LDRs. They just don't work for me. I tried, but failed miserably. Too much is lost in translation. It's very difficult to communicate via text.email.phone and we had way too many unnecessary arguments as a result. It also didn't help that we were both madly jealous with eachother (I think because there was a lot of passion between us and the thought of other people trying to 'scoop' us up was unbearable). After I broke up with him I missed him so much that I was ready to move to be with him, but by that time it was too late.

 

So there you have it CG. My failed relationships in a nutshell. Now I feel like I'm just jaded and I don't have faith in lasting love.

[CaliGuy]

I ended the relationship with my ex who still maintains contact with my family, I guess that's partly why it has been easier for me to move on. We hurt each other a lot and after a year of being stuck in the same pattern I finally had enough and decided to end it. He still wanted to work things out but I no longer saw him in the same light and my feelings for him fundamentally changed. He will always hold a place in my heart but I don't see a future together.

 

Ah that was the same as my ex except that she wasn't sure what she wanted she was only sure that (at the time at least) she didn't want me. She did some really bad things to do especially when my mom died that, even though I forgive her, forgetting is much, much harder.

 

In my last relationship, I was also the one who ended things because my ex decided to move to another state, and I cannot do LDRs. They just don't work for me. I tried, but failed miserably. Too much is lost in translation. It's very difficult to communicate via text.email.phone and we had way too many unnecessary arguments as a result. It also didn't help that we were both madly jealous with eachother (I think because there was a lot of passion between us and the thought of other people trying to 'scoop' us up was unbearable). After I broke up with him I missed him so much that I was ready to move to be with him, but by that time it was too late.

 

So there you have it CG. My failed relationships in a nutshell. Now I feel like I'm just jaded and I don't have faith in lasting love.

 

At least you were the one to break things off for your own, valid reasons. Not sure why the guy would move to another state if he thinks he has the perfect person. If I was in his shoes I would have figured out a way to stay where I was. It's not where you are but WHO you are with that matters.

 

Maybe his tune will change and he'll come roaring back to you. I don't understand why he'd leave the Bay Area though. It's really nice there even if it is cold/rainy a lot. (Keep that SOCAL water coming! LOL).