Partner is drinking too much?

[marty]

Hi,

 

I'm in need of advise.

 

I've been with my partner for 4 years , and love her dearly. In every other aspect of our lives, things are great.

 

She has always liked a glass of red. And to think of it, I've not known a day where she hasn't drunk at least one glass. Most evenings it's 2-3 glasses. This doesn't usually mean any change of character etc, but every so often she seems to lay into the bottle a little more heavily.

 

We've had discussions before about it. I don't get angry with her, but i let her know that i'm worried for her health , and that she can talk to me if there's something on her mind, or worried about anything etc. I've asked if she's not happy being with me , but she says never been happier.

 

She's a mental health nurse so , i guess , she's far more qualified than me about potential problems.

 

However, here i am again, on the couch alone. 2 nights in a row she's had more than bottle each night. Slightly slurring ,drowsy eyed etc, and off to bed early.

 

Like i say, in other respects things are good, but this is slowly eroding our relationship. Surely drinking everyday isn't normal??

 

I'm not sure what to do for the best.

 

Any advise??

[2sunny]

End it so you can find a gal that's not dependent on altering herself every evening.

 

I can tell you from experience - since she's never gone without it for an extended time - you don't really know the real, unaltered version of her.

 

Trauma... Usually the trigger for escalating the drinking. Lack of healthy ways to deal with the pain from trauma - easier to cover up her feelings by numbing with alcohol.

 

You can't fix it for her... It doesn't work that way.