i really thought we had a connection

[whatwhit]

So i met this guy name Daniel on a dating site. We hit it right off the bat. And went from casually getting to know each other to full out being interested in each really fast. We started talking on Christmas eve. And we met Tuesday night. The date was great. We went from the awkward first silences of a date to acting like a full out blown couple. He mentioned his ex to me at the bar we Hung out at and i eventually got to the point of asking him if he was over her and he admitted that he wasn't 100% but that part of the convo didn't destroy our night. Throughtout the date he mentioned how he wanted me to go to this bar in sm with him. He was driving home from Waco met up with me in Austin and was heading there. And after we made out ha when he was going to drop me off he mentioned it again and I agreed to go. The end of the date was fun we went to a bar and then just back to his place. We messed around but didn't have sex. Exchanged a lot of I like you'd etc etc etc. I had to leave early in the morning and when I left i was so distracted on finding my stuff in the dark I didn't really him a proper goodbye and this is how the.convo went like this yesterday.

 

Him. Byeee Me. Sorry I didn't give you a hug I thought you wanted to sleep. I'll be over sometime after 2 or 3. If you still want me to ( we were planning on spending the day together). him. Call me I gotta run some errands and stuff when I get up. Me. K Him.gah I can't go back to sleep. I just gotta say this. I'm obviously not over some stuff. I think I'm probably to much to handle for you right now. You don't need to get involved with me. This is the first time since my ex and its kind of tearing me up for some reason Me. K? Well if you don't want to talk to me I still need to get my stuff if that's what you really want. Him. It's not that I don't want to talk to you. I just think I'm not ready. I thought I was......and you hate me. Me. I'll be over to get my stuff Him. I have to run to Austin ill bring it by your house Me. Do you want to talk about it or are you set in stone? I'm not really sure what you think you're rushing yourself into. Him. Yeh we can talk for sure. I know Im not rushing into anything. I just know I'm not over my ex. I wouldn't make a good boyfriend material right now. Just saying.

 

After that we decided how I'm going to get my stuff and then its like

 

Him. I'll meet you in sm. My home isn't the greatest place to talk since I live with 6 other people.

 

Me.did you want to talk Him.we don't have to lol....I'm just saying Me. I want to talk to you but you make it seem like you want me to leave you alone :/him: can we just give of a day or two. Like its not that big of a deal or complicated. I thought I was over my past. Tried a date and realized I'm not. We can still be friends dude (he says dude a lot lol) if anything appreciate that I'm being honest. Me.fair enough. I'm not trying to be over dramatic I'm just confused. Hopefully you can understand that. No one likes being rejected. Him. For sure! I'm not like mad or anything. I just realized I'm not ready to pursue anything with anyone enjoy being alone (which is bull****)..hey at least it took me a day and not weeks. I'm a straight shooter and don't want to lead anyone on. You're not rejected. It's me with the issues...

 

Then I get to his house give him a hug, got my things, at chilled him showing me his itunes list which is ridiculous lol..and he's like well I need to start doing things which was my cue to leave. Then he was like thanks for being so cool about this..and I was like I told you I'm pretty laid back. And I don't remember what led this him saying this but he was like I'm really attracted to you and that coould lead some things and I was like I won't let it Haha. I was supposed to go to his new years eve party and asked him if he wanted me to go still. And he wad quite and was like I just want to hang with the bros. So I got uninvited. And he was like well hang out soon...and I was like if you say sooo.

 

When I called him I was like I guess I shouldn't of stayed the night and he was like well yeah. But he could've said no. And I'm just so confused on how hr go from I really like you to everything that he said.

 

So what should i do? He's in a band and I told him I was going to go. Should I text him next Wednesday and be like hey I may be going to your show with some friends. Then go to the show and ask if he wants to hang out when the show is over when i get there. Maybe asking him if we can have a redo like a date where I don't stay the night. Or I don't know. Like when he says all those things does that mean he just doesn't like me..Idk. he mentioned prior how he told him family about me his band etc etc. Him and his gf broke up because her family won't accept his profession....and she kept going out all the time which bothered him..and she would think he cheats on the road. They broke up 8 months ago but apparently still talk and messed around until like a month or two. I just don't get how he,could be so into me up to the point of us going to sleep...to not within the.next day.

[Coil]

not to be rude, but I feel that I need to be blunt, as it seems that you do not get it.

 

I recommend that you just move on.

 

This guy is not interested in you for whatever reason. Messing around so fast was a mistake IMHO. Maybe he thought you would be a quick lay or things are moving too fast / too serious for him. He might still be banging his ex, or have a bunch of other chicks lined up.

 

He is trying to be nice and let you know that he is not interested in a relationship. He might be interested in coitus though!

 

I think the ball is in his court, let him pursue if he is interested. Don't be an overaggressive woman.

[Miss Clavel]

Have you asked him why he was on a dating site when he clearly is not interested in dating? Or not interested in dating you?

 

He is interested in screwing you. And screwing you over.

 

Delete him.