Soxfaninfl Posted December 30, 2011 Share Posted December 30, 2011 My son and I went to see the movie we bought a zoo last night, and there was a scene at the end of the movie where Matt Damon was talking about how he had met his wife to his children. I started to cry. I started to remember when I met my ex-wife. I thought I was over the crying stage at least. My 8 year old son tried to console me and told me to forget her. I'm still feeling anger and sadness especially due to the holidays and not having my son with me on Christmas eve and on Christmas morning for the first time. I did date a women for 2 1/2 months trying to move on, but I ended it because I wasn't happy a week before Christmas. Our divocre was final in September of 2011 after 11 years of marriage. We were together for 13 years total. We separated in March of 2010. She told me she didn't love me anymore and started a relationship with another man. I guess I still miss the women I fell in love with. Link to post Share on other sites
BigDumbFoot Posted December 30, 2011 Share Posted December 30, 2011 It really hasn't been that long since you got divorced. I would think you probably need at least a year or two until you're completely over her considering how long you were together with her. Also, it seems like you tried to get right back into the dating world instead of giving yourself some time to heal properly. I'm coming off of a 7 year relationship and I couldn't even begin to imagine being with anyone else. I feel like I'm still in love with my ex, so being with someone new wouldn't really do me any good. I don't think it would distract me from the pain. I think I would end up just comparing her to my ex all the time and being disappointed in myself.. Just my perspective.. It will take some time. Is there anything about yourself that you would like to improve upon but haven't really had the time to because of the relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soxfaninfl Posted December 30, 2011 Author Share Posted December 30, 2011 (edited) I want to lose more weight, and get back into really good shape. I also need to cut my spending and pay off some debt too. I was spending to much dating this girl. She lived an hour away, and I was spending too much on gas. Going out to eat alot and doing things was getting expensive. I'm living with my parents trying to recover financially from the divorce. I need to get out if debt, so I can afford an apartment comfortably. I was dating cause I was lonely, and I wanted to feel love again from a women. I do want to have more children some day, but I'm not getting any younger. I turned 36 in October, so I feel I need to find another wife soon, so I can have another family. I think I will alway love her since she was my first true love. I guess I will always long to be with her again some day and have my family back together. I never told another women that I loved her. We met right when I turned 22. I did also date a another women after my wife and I had been separated for 10 months. We dated for 2 months, but I ended that because I was still in love with my ex. I guess I still love her deep in my heart. I know I shouldn't for what she did to me, and she she's wouldn't be good for me also. Edited December 30, 2011 by Soxfaninfl Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soxfaninfl Posted January 11, 2012 Author Share Posted January 11, 2012 Why can't I just be just fine? F***! Why can't I stop missing her. Link to post Share on other sites
sugarmomma Posted January 11, 2012 Share Posted January 11, 2012 Please don't date anyone until you have healed because you are just gonna hurt people along the way. You know the saying "hurt people, hurt people". Just take your time and heal. Link to post Share on other sites
reimeivn Posted January 11, 2012 Share Posted January 11, 2012 i think you will always miss the woman she was. you will need a lot more time so dont be too hard on yourself Link to post Share on other sites
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