HurtinginVA Posted June 1, 2004 Share Posted June 1, 2004 Its been awhile since Ive visited the pages of LS. Last time I was here, I was trying to deal with reconciling with an unfaithful husband. Well, that didnt work. Lets sum it up real quick: He cant stop cheating. We live about 90 miles apart now. I have sole physical custody of my son. We are divorcing. Im about a month into complete and total physical/emotional seperation from him. Now, here's my dilemma. I met someone. I met someone, who is also seperated, because his wife couldnt seem to remain faithful to him. They are also about a month (1 week more than us) into their seperation. Me and Mr. X have pretty much rushed into things. Im not stupid, so Ill admit that things have gone VERY fast. Are we just rebounding on each other? Id like to hope not, Mr. X is everything my husband was and wasnt, if that makes any sense. I truly wish I had met this person before I met my soon to be ex. But that is not the case, unfortunatly. I have a child and so does he. Our ex's are frighteningly similiar. (Not wanting responsbility of children, marriage, finances etc etc) The potential for a very good LTR is there, but I dont want to screw it up, and make him a "rebound" kind of guy. Or vice versa. *sigh* What to do? Any questions, just ask, if more details are needed to provide me with a good, objective, outside opinion. Thanks guys. Link to post Share on other sites
kurtsl0an Posted June 1, 2004 Share Posted June 1, 2004 IMO you're both just rebounding....but if you're having fun, who cares? go with it. you're not really looking for another LTR already, are you? is mr. x? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted June 1, 2004 Share Posted June 1, 2004 You are both in the midst of your seperations & haven't divorced your respective partners as yet. These partners are still very much a part of your lives. I find it difficult to comprehend that at this point you both have the clarity of mind & freedom of spirit to embark on another relationship. It is possible that once you both have finalised your divorces & let go of your spouses you discover that what you really need is some "down time". Currently you both have in common the fact that you're getting over & leaving cheating spouses. What happens when that commonality is no longer with you? It's kind of like friends in the work place. You get along great, enjoy each others company, but when you stop working there you find that in fact you have little in common. The potential for a very good LTR is there, but I dont want to screw it up, and make him a "rebound" kind of guy. Or vice versa. If you can't be without each other then take it very slow & give yourselves plenty of time apart until your divorces are final. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted June 1, 2004 Share Posted June 1, 2004 Hi, Hurting Sorry things didn't work out for you Mr. X is everything my husband was and wasnt He might seem that way now, but that's because you don't know him well. If you think back on the days when you first met your husband, I'll bet you told everyone - and thought - that he was everything you ever wanted. That's pretty common at the beginning of a relationship, because you see all the good stuff and usually like it a lot. I agree with the others - go slow. It may work out - could be that life has arranged for you two to meet - but you need time to decide whether he really is a good candidate for a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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