mike588 Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 Hey all....remember me? lol. Well it happened...alittle over a week after leaving this site I get a "Friends" request from my ex. on Facebook. One week after she dumped me I de-friended her on F.B. now I get this. I haven't responded or added her back as a friend and I know what I should do....Not to. Just a reminder... 5 months ago I was dumped... 4 3/4 months strict N.C. Thoughts....comments? Link to post Share on other sites
Jono85 Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 there's the breadcrumbs u were wanting (if that's even considered breadcrumbs). do u want to be just her friend?? do u want her creeping ur facebook and knowing what's going on in ur life without having to put in the work of caring for you like she once did? i'd ignore it probs, but then again, i haven't even gotten such small breadcrumbs from mine. so maybe easier said than done. but bottom line is, u were once lovers...screw facebook friends after she leaves u for her ex! why befriend that 'hoe'? Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 What do you want from her Mike, honestly? Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 Mike i cant help you mate, i just get shot down every post, ill be leaving ls too. Its just a bully site If you dont agree with the majority you get run out. Good luck, keep your heart safe Link to post Share on other sites
Author mike588 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 there's the breadcrumbs u were wanting (if that's even considered breadcrumbs). do u want to be just her friend?? do u want her creeping ur facebook and knowing what's going on in ur life without having to put in the work of caring for you like she once did? i'd ignore it probs, but then again, i haven't even gotten such small breadcrumbs from mine. so maybe easier said than done. but bottom line is, u were once lovers...screw facebook friends after she leaves u for her ex! why befriend that 'hoe'? Yep that's what I'm thinking...just ignore it/her..I'm not a big facebook person...neither was she. As far as her "caring for me" like she once did...well we've established that she did care...but wasn't in love with me. Damn it!!!! Just when I finally...totally let go I get this. No...at this time I'm not ready to be her friend if ever. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mike588 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 Mike i cant help you mate, i just get shot down every post, ill be leaving ls too. Its just a bully site If you dont agree with the majority you get run out. Good luck, keep your heart safe Ohhhhh I've been shot down too....shot down in flames at times,lol.I don't plan on living here again but I did find it very helpful....If I were to be a regular again I'd say don't leave...I've liked...respected your advise/opinions. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mike588 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 What do you want from her Mike, honestly? Right now to leave me the hell alone....don't mess with my healing progress...I've come so far...maybe when I'M ready we can talk. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 I wouldn't accept her as a friend , it is tempting but she is just curious . You have come so far and I don't want you to slip back x Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 Ohhhhh I've been shot down too....shot down in flames at times,lol.I don't plan on living here again but I did find it very helpful....If I were to be a regular again I'd say don't leave...I've liked...respected your advise/opinions. Good luck to you. I believe thats because you understood gigs, am i correct you were a gigs guy? i advised on it a while ago, she'll make a good friend but nothing more. Link to post Share on other sites
MarMarMar Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 Mike I guess the biggest questions for me are: How do you feel about it? What do you what if you're honest with yourself? Mike i cant help you mate, i just get shot down every post, ill be leaving ls too. Its just a bully site If you dont agree with the majority you get run out. Good luck, keep your heart safe Smokey, stop creating drama where there is none. You and Wilsonx have been shooting down anyone's opinion for weeks in crude and hurtful ways if they don't agree with you. You're getting what you give because people are tired of being put down when everyone is just here for help and discussions and advice. And don't tell me you're not, making a whole thread about other users to pick fights and all ways you put down other user's opinions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mike588 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 I wouldn't accept her as a friend , it is tempting but she is just curious . You have come so far and I don't want you to slip back x Great advise.....Oh how it sparks my curiousity about how they are doing? Did it fail again as she expected it to in that last email. What a joke! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mike588 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 I believe thats because you understood gigs, am i correct you were a gigs guy? i advised on it a while ago, she'll make a good friend but nothing more. I'm so tempted to.....excuse me ladies....bang her a few times then dump her!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author mike588 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 I believe thats because you understood gigs, am i correct you were a gigs guy? i advised on it a while ago, she'll make a good friend but nothing more. I was foolishly her rebound guy. GIGS ???? Then she dumped me for her ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 I'm so tempted to.....excuse me ladies....bang her a few times then dump her!! Haha . But would you be able to not get your feeling invovled . Imagine her in your arms and talking like you did before .Then she goes back to her boyfriend and rejects you . I would be so tempted to add my ex just to show him how much fun I am having now Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 Mike I guess the biggest questions for me are: How do you feel about it? What do you what if you're honest with yourself? Smokey, stop creating drama where there is none. You and Wilsonx have been shooting down anyone's opinion for weeks in crude and hurtful ways if they don't agree with you. You're getting what you give because people are tired of being put down when everyone is just here for help and discussions and advice. And don't tell me you're not, making a whole thread about other users to pick fights and all ways you put down other user's opinions. Where did i make a whole thread about other users to pick fights and put down others. I made those threads to sunny and ege joe to actually try and get an understanding of them, i looked at the posts and said "wait smokey" actually ask these people about there experience of it and understanding rather than assuming and jumping the gun. Go read that thread i didnt pick a fight or call them down i asked them to share with me so i could understand there thinking. Nothing more and after i read there response i havent picked one fight or called them down have i? On that thread or any other. I see others peoples opinions and make an effort to understand. Link to post Share on other sites
MarMarMar Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 I was foolishly her rebound guy. GIGS ???? Then she dumped me for her ex. Hmm don't know much about rebounds, but do you think maybe things with her ex didn't go well? Or maybe she thinks enough time has passed that you won't be hurt by her actions anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
smokey bear Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 I'm so tempted to.....excuse me ladies....bang her a few times then dump her!! Its possible but could you deal with it? Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 Great advise.....Oh how it sparks my curiousity about how they are doing? Did it fail again as she expected it to in that last email. What a joke! Let me add her, Ill pretend I was a Australian exchange student and met her when we were young . Then I can give you the goss and maybe seduce her boyfriend with my exotic Australian ways. Link to post Share on other sites
MarMarMar Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 Where did i make a whole thread about other users to pick fights and put down others. I made those threads to sunny and ege joe to actually try and get an understanding of them, i looked at the posts and said "wait smokey" actually ask these people about there experience of it and understanding rather than assuming and jumping the gun. Go read that thread i didnt pick a fight or call them down i asked them to share with me so i could understand there thinking. Nothing more and after i read there response i havent picked one fight or called them down have i? On that thread or any other. I see others peoples opinions and make an effort to understand. It honestly didn't look that way. It looked like you were using an entire thread to undermine them because of your wording. And because now you have been going around saying everyone is a bully when you have adopted an attitude like one. I used to like your advice but now if people disagree with you you're quick to dismiss and tell them they just don't understand. I thought these forums where for advice, support, and healthy debates for the sake of knowledge and problem solving. It certainly doesn't feel like that now because whenever someone doesn't agree with the GIGS thing which seems to be the answer to everything these days they're immediately shot down by you and Wilsonx. For example I don't think my breakup was a GIGS breakup but apparently you two know better even though you've never met me or my ex and know only the few things I've provided. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mike588 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 Hmm don't know much about rebounds, but do you think maybe things with her ex didn't go well? Or maybe she thinks enough time has passed that you won't be hurt by her actions anymore? You know..I don't know and really don't care......God it feels good to feel this way.....Finally!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
MarMarMar Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 You know..I don't know and really don't care......God it feels good to feel this way.....Finally!!!!!!!!!! Great! I'm glad you're there then! Now I guess is from a neutral standpoint, pros vs cons what would be the point of having her as a friend on facebook? My guess is there would be no point. Maybe she'll just need to learn to let sleeping dogs lay. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mike588 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 Haha . But would you be able to not get your feeling invovled . Imagine her in your arms and talking like you did before .Then she goes back to her boyfriend and rejects you . I would be so tempted to add my ex just to show him how much fun I am having now Yeah I hear ya and know what you mean...Once she wraps those arms.....and especially those long legs lol.....lol...around me I may have a change or heart......the other head would do all the thinking. Hee hee Link to post Share on other sites
Author mike588 Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 Great! I'm glad you're there then! Now I guess is from a neutral standpoint, pros vs cons what would be the point of having her as a friend on facebook? My guess is there would be no point. Maybe she'll just need to learn to let sleeping dogs lay. Neither one of us were big Face Book people...updating things..pictures etc. but that is how we found each other after many...many years. I can only assume she wants to see my reaction from her request then go from there??? Link to post Share on other sites
M2155 Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 Mike, what do you want? If you're over it and don't mind sharing that part of you or exposing yourself to whatever she posts, then go ahead. If neither of you are big "facebookers" and you are over it, then it probably isn't a big deal. I have an ex I accepted the request then hid his feed (mainly because he's annoying but for the sake of goodwill and I could care less, I did it). There are people who friend request just to know how to reach you or kill their curiosity and there are people who friend request because they really want to be friends. If it's the latter, you'll get a follow up after the friend request. If you're still affected then ignore it. But sounds like you either want to or could at least reply that you don't want to be FBFs. If it were me I'd accept. If you read my post, I had contact with the ex too and will be cordial (I was never against cordial) but I will still avoid looking at his page because I just don't want to know too much. Just don't go backwards Link to post Share on other sites
ken_25 Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 hey mike, well we knew something would happen right? Could just be the beginning. Don't accept her request, stay silent and keep on moving forward. Try not to over analyze anything, it'll be hard not to start wondering why she wants to add you, so shift your focus elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
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