the power of walk away

[chados]

the minute someone leave you and say that this is not working out, thats when you automatically want them back. even if you dont love them, you want them back... for some reason people always want what they cant have.. we will not tolerate that someone walks away from us just like that.

 

very often people who walks away wants to come back because the one they left is now walking in the opposite direction. they are not standing still, they are walking themselves. "moving on"

 

this isnt just a something that exist in a relationship.. lets say youre at a supermarket and youre talking to a lonely person who just wants to have a chat..telling a kid that he's gonna have a great future in football.. or just tell a funny joke to a cute girl/boy... the minute you walk away they want more..

 

ill give you one example.. last night i went to a bar, i dont know if someone here remember my post about my date. well to make the story short. she gave me a lot of compliments, more then anyone else has ever done. but she said something, "i tend to hurt people". well people here on loveshack told me to stay away. this is a read flag.. and well i did. i told her that i wouldnt get hurt if she didnt wanted to see me, because she didnt. and then i said, i think its for the best to not go on this date.

 

 

last night when i saw her standing at the bar, i simply said hi how are you, then nothing more.. she walked away. i wasnt bothered about it at all. thing is ive never expected her to call me again. me and my friend had some food on a restaurant when the bar closed, and she came in.. after 5 minutes she was talking to me.. she asked me what i was doing, she told me about some guy that where driving her crazy.

 

so she left, i grabbed a cab.. after driving 10 minutes she called me... she told me she wanted to follow me to my place.. it was nothing sexual, she just wanted to drink some wine, listen to music and talk to me.. i dont know where this is going, but i know how this happened, it happened because.. i didnt show her that i wanted her, and i just walked away from her, respected her decision to be single and walked away.

 

same thing with another girl, she actually just texted me.. she hasnt been texting me for weeks, been very cold against me. but then i stopped, she called me up on new years eve and now she's back again..

[Kamila]

It's the push and pull thing.

 

People are interested when you're not interested. There is the challenge.

 

But that flame should be ignited. I do believe after some time people lose interest because they think they don't stand a chance.

 

So there's still a power play.

 

Maybe that's what's happening with no contact. After awhile the flame disappears and all ends.

[chados]

yes you dont want to overdo anything. when youre talking to someone , and walk away when youve become interesting. they will look for you. if youre showing to much interest in them, they walk away themselves.