Setback :(

[Buttercup84]

Been over for 7 months now and nc since October . Some of you know my story . I had two weeks off over Christmas and it just set me back , as I had too much time and not much money . I've been thinking too much , and it feels so fresh and I miss him so much , it's getting too much sometimes .

 

My thearapist says he emotionally abused me , yet I don't believe it . He had such good sides , and I feel so rejected and like he thought I was repulsive as he hardly wanted sex in the end , many times rejecting me to play video games .

 

Sorry for being such a drama queen , just needed to put that out there .

[Chs]

We all have these setbacks i think.

A month ago from today i was perfectly happy, enjoyed focusing on my workout and friends, it was vacation time and i texted the ex saying have a nice vacation and felt really at peace with not being with her anymore.

Now i learned she is seeing some other guy and according to her sister they are much better together than we were where. This hurt me ALOT, and im still hurting even after a week.

 

But you know, you just have to take this as a life experience. The relationship was good, to both of you! But it won't last forever, im sure you didn't think that either? And some people deal with breaking up differently. Some of us are just too emotional for our own good and resort to online forums and feeling sad, where others are really strong and quick at moving on.

Even if he is happy with someone else or just generally over you, try to find peace in the fact that he did love you once and getting past it will only make you stronger and able to be even happier in your next relationship.

[Mcnulty]

Buttercup, can i just say, you're very ttractive in your photo AND you're Australian!!! 2 things going for you straight away!!!

 

I know exactly what you mean...christmas was horrible and emotionally draining...hey, it's over thasnk god and a new year beckons. We have to look on the positives...we have to...what other choice is there?

 

I was emotionally abused for the last 18 months...I still love her and i hate loving her still. I'm walking around agter 3 months scared I'm going to bump into her and her new guy...it's gonna happen, but wach day I get through is a day closer to healing I think, sooo when i do see them, I will be a little stronger and resillient than I was say, if I saw them today.

 

Keep your head high miss, you will be finme eventually, I promise.

[sleepykitten]

Hi Buttercup-It was the same for me, before christmas for 6 weeks i was actually happy, no contact and felt like i was making progress. Then Christmas, and i didnt hear from him and i texted, he didnt answer for days then he did which opened up an emotional can of worms and i felt like i was transported right back to day one, it feels so raw again and new and like you its been over 7 months! I really thought by now i would be in a much better place but it feels so hard. All i can do is nc again, but the road seems neverending.

[CopingGal]

Buttercup, I was emotionally/psychologically abused. Christmas was a little hard for me. When that bastard texted me Dec. 28th and told me he hopes all my dreams come true, it really set me back. It made me very angry...you treat me like crap and then tell me you want my dreams to come true?

 

Ugh. I focused on other things. Seriously, if you have too much time on your hands, consider doing volunteer work...if you like kids maybe you can volunteer to be a teacher assistant or to work in a daycare center.