CaliGuy Posted January 12, 2012 Share Posted January 12, 2012 Well the funny thing is...when he broke NC, he did find me and did do it in person :S It was never a text, Facebook message (I deleted him on Facebook anyway), or email. It really was a face to face thing and I gave him a very evident cold shoulder when he did it because I wasn't ready to face him personally. Then a week later he kind of broke NC again and told my mother that something was missing in his life. But I understand, that would be the safest bet to wait and see if he tries to break it again because I have come a long way in my healing during my three and half months of NC. Blahh we will see haha. Hmmm, well I can see why you're being "hard to get" but even if he does continue to pursue, you have to start this relationship from step one all over again. If you just run right back to his arms he'll know that he can do this over and over and every time you'll take him back. Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on ME. See where I am going with this? If he really wants you for the right reasons his actions will prove that over time. Don't be in a hurry to crash and burn again. You have plenty of time Link to post Share on other sites
perfectlyflawed459 Posted January 12, 2012 Share Posted January 12, 2012 Hmmm, well I can see why you're being "hard to get" but even if he does continue to pursue, you have to start this relationship from step one all over again. If you just run right back to his arms he'll know that he can do this over and over and every time you'll take him back. Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on ME. See where I am going with this? If he really wants you for the right reasons his actions will prove that over time. Don't be in a hurry to crash and burn again. You have plenty of time Yes you are right, the last thing I planned on doing was jumping into a relationship with him despite the fact that I still love this guy. If anything, I do want us to start completely fresh and build something new. I know I have let go a lot of the anger and sadness I felt from him, so I know I am getting to a position where I can handle talking to him again which is kind of why I was thinking of finally reaching out to him. I have really focused and bettered myself during NC, so I guess I am trying to figure out the best course of action for me to take at this point. I just wonder if he took my ignoring him as me hating him, which isn't the case at all. That is kind of why I felt like I should reach out, just in case he felt this way. However I do need to remind myself that I do have plenty of time as you said Thank you for the advice! Very helpful. Link to post Share on other sites
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