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Is it possible to turn lesbian?


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I know its not very likely, but is it possible for a straight girl to turn gay? I really want to. Women are sweeter, more sensual, better looking, more faithfull and more understanding, yet I still find myself falling for men...

 

I hate it, is there a way for me to turn into a lesbian?

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Shoot for bisexuality since you're into men. Have you tried to get physical with a woman? It's one thing to find them emotionally attractive but a whole other thing to get down with one.

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Shoot for bisexuality since you're into men. Have you tried to get physical with a woman? It's one thing to find them emotionally attractive but a whole other thing to get down with one.

 

Never tried it, do you recommend it? I'm beginning to like the idea of that

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Never tried it, do you recommend it? I'm beginning to like the idea of that

 

I don't see anything wrong with experimenting if it's what interests you. Go on a date. Explain you're bi-curious and see what comes next. You'll either feel it or you won't. Then you'll have your answer.

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reguardless of your sexuality there are good in bad in everyone. If you want to explore being with a woman do so. However there are women out their that are just as dirty and lying and cheatful as men.

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reguardless of your sexuality there are good in bad in everyone. If you want to explore being with a woman do so. However there are women out their that are just as dirty and lying and cheatful as men.

 

Thats true, you make a good point. Allthough I think men cheat way more than women do... I'm just so tired of men, I'm sorry. I know there are good men out there, but I don't know where.. I gotte admit being with my ex BF for 2 years has left me feeling ugly and worthless.. I was kinda hoping women wouldnt make you feel that way:p

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Thats true, you make a good point. Allthough I think men cheat way more than women do... I'm just so tired of men, I'm sorry. I know there are good men out there, but I don't know where.. I gotte admit being with my ex BF for 2 years has left me feeling ugly and worthless.. I was kinda hoping women wouldnt make you feel that way:p

 

It doesn't matter if the next person is male or female, you still have to deal with how you're feeling from the relationship. How long have you been broken up?

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It doesn't matter if the next person is male or female, you still have to deal with how you're feeling from the relationship. How long have you been broken up?

 

About a month, but it feels like a lot longer, since we hardly ever saw each other in the end. I think it's going to take a while for me to feel good about myself again.

 

I'm a mess right now.. I dont get myself anymore.. I'm a very positive person and i think everything will be okay.. But I'm just so insecure right now

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I'm going to ammend my original answer then. In light of all this new information. Forget experimenting. Forget dating at all right now. You're hurt and trying to find validation from others is going to hurt worse. Your self esteem is low which makes you vulnerable to mistakes. Why not take a break and get yourself strong again? Aren't you young? Don't start this pattern of finding your worth through guys or relationships. It can lead to a world of hurt.

 

So, forget about "turning lesbian" and take care of yourself instead.

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I'm going to ammend my original answer then. In light of all this new information. Forget experimenting. Forget dating at all right now. You're hurt and trying to find validation from others is going to hurt worse. Your self esteem is low which makes you vulnerable to mistakes. Why not take a break and get yourself strong again? Aren't you young? Don't start this pattern of finding your worth through guys or relationships. It can lead to a world of hurt.

 

So, forget about "turning lesbian" and take care of yourself instead.

 

You're right, I'll be honest: thats scarry.. It's hard for me to be 'alone'. Sometimes I think it's a great thing being alone, but other times I feel so lonely.. I dont really know how to be alone, got any advice?

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The short answer is; no, you can't turn, change, "catch" homosexuality :laugh:

The long answer starts with the question?, "are you" to some degree? It sounds like you may be attracted to both sexes. If your comfortable entering an intimate relationship with another woman than why haven't you?

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The short answer is; no, you can't turn, change, "catch" homosexuality :laugh:

The long answer starts with the question?, "are you" to some degree? It sounds like you may be attracted to both sexes. If your comfortable entering an intimate relationship with another woman than why haven't you?

 

I dont think I'm attracted to woman, I was being objective:p I dont know, I just wish I were lesbian but Im afraid I'm not. Therefor the question is it possible to turn myself into a lesbian

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I dont think I'm attracted to woman, I was being objective:p I dont know, I just wish I were lesbian but Im afraid I'm not. Therefor the question is it possible to turn myself into a lesbian

 

:laugh:I was a mental health care worker for years & I can honestly say that no one ever came to me, personally, with that request:laugh: But as I said in my initial response; "no", a persons sexual preference is something that is a unique part of ones persona & even if one is taught to fake it, it has devastating consequences. At least from the side of trying to convince someone who is homosexual that they are straight. I had a friend that use to say that if he where a woman he'd be a lesbian:D and I understand that.

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If you don't fix the issues that make you attracted to men like your ex you will just end up with the female version of him. Switching genders will not fix those issues.

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If people turned gay because they were mistreated or got burned by the opposite sex we'd all be gay and the human species would die out.

 

Your issue isn't with your sexual preference or identity, your issue is that you pick bad men and then let them mistreat you. Since your issue is internal even if you were to turn doughnut-bumper, you would end up getting burned by scummy women that mistreat you too.

 

Women are absolutely NOT, repeat NOT! nicer, more faithfull or more moral or eithical than men!!!! They are better at acting friendly and nicey-nice so you may think that initially but once you start getting involved in romantic/sexual relationships with them you will quickly learn that you ain't seen nothing yet:eek:

 

Sure, women are prettier and softer and sexier than men and if you want to rub up and down on a couple to try it out go for it! But don't fool yourself into thinking that women are intrinsically "better" than men cause they certainly ain't.

 

But if you really want to find a meaningfull, healthy, mutually supportive and happy relationship, you are going to have to find a honest, decent person and you are going to have to be able to stand up for yourself and make yourself be treated with dignity and respect.

 

...And in order to have a happy and healthy relationship with either a man or a woman you are going to have to do those things anyway regardless of your partner's gender so you'd best start working on those things right now.

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