jmy33 Posted January 13, 2012 Share Posted January 13, 2012 So my ex's birthday is coming up very soon and I am not at all over her. I want to wish her a Happy Birthday (through a text messgae), but I dont want to break NC and be set back again. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
PoppyLove89 Posted January 13, 2012 Share Posted January 13, 2012 How long have you been broken up and how long NC? Obviously it's entirely up to you but I personally wouldn't do it unless you're just being polite because I wouldn't want to feel gutted all over again if she doesn't respond or you just get a simple 'thanks'. What are you hoping will come of this? Link to post Share on other sites
perfectlyflawed459 Posted January 13, 2012 Share Posted January 13, 2012 Yes I would not recommend doing it unless you are doing it soley out of the goodness of your heart. Like absolutely do not do it if you are expecting something big to come from it or some sort of reply because it could be a huge let down and prolong your healing. Ask yourself, if nothing happened and she only said thanks, or didn't even reply at all, would that set you back? If yes, then I advise against this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jmy33 Posted January 13, 2012 Author Share Posted January 13, 2012 Broke up about 4 months ago now, and NC for 2 weeks. I do want to be polite, and I don't want to be set back from speaking with her or not getting a response. I'm not trying to get her back or anything, as much as I want to, but that ship has sailed and I know that. Link to post Share on other sites
PoppyLove89 Posted January 13, 2012 Share Posted January 13, 2012 It's entirely up to you. We can only advise here But if you do text her, keep it short 'Happy Birthday! Hope you have an awesome day' and that's it. At the same time, by texting her, she'll know you're still thinking of her and she'll know she can still yank your chain if she needs to reel you back in. Remember, she used to start texting you and stop cold for no reason so she clearly likes the attention! Be careful. Link to post Share on other sites
reimeivn Posted January 13, 2012 Share Posted January 13, 2012 I think you do not need to be polite. I think that it is similar to the facebook situation. Do you care if people post on your facebook for your birthday? I know I dont that much. There are too many of them and hardly any of them ever post anything on my facebook but that day. I think if she has left, she is perfectly content with being without you. She do not care if you wish her happy birthday or not, I am very sorry for being honest and mean at the same time. I think she knows that you care about deeply though, and you do not need to do anything to show that. My mom said I should not feel embarrassed to pour my heart out to people, but I say sometimes it is a waste. Please take yourself out to dinner instead Link to post Share on other sites
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