My girlfriend cheated -- I hate/ love her. So confused.

[hurtingphotog]

My ex and I have been broken up for a few weeks now -- not long. But I am still love sick. We dated for 10 months, then, a month ago, as we kissed in her car, a young man confronted us saying, "ha! I caught you."

 

She had been cheating on me for 4 months of our relationship. She lied for many weeks after that confrontation to try to "sugar coat" the affair. Just recently, I found out the whole truth that she had slept with him numerous times. When she revealed this info, I understandably became extremely angry with her. Until that point, I had remained friends with her, trying to get her help -- because I deeply love her.

 

She was my first, and I have an amazingly strong emotional attachment to her. She claims to love me to, and she apologizes daily and begs me to give her another chance after she gets help. She realizes that right now, she is sick, needs help, and doesn't need to be in a relationship -- even with me. I'm fine with that. I want her to be happy. And I believe whole-heartedly in the power of forgiveness, but I don't ever want to feel this pain again.

 

The problem I am having is that I feel that she and I can be happy together, but I have no real trust for her. She has been going to counseling, and support groups, but I am still so angry with her for treating me like this. I love her like no other though. What do I do from here? I'm really confused right now. I do not want this hurt again, but I want her. Why?

 

I'm sorry for the scattered writing. This is difficult. The story is much larger than this -- in many ways, so if any questions arise, feel free to ask. Thanks for your opinions.

[ex_pookie]

I completely understand. My boyfriend swore it would never happen again. While I was pregnant with our second child though, he did it again. And now a year later, his same attitude has arisen. The same arguments the same reactions... he's doing it again. And it is painful, I know. I know you love her, but seriously, if I could go back, I would not have given him another chance to hurt me. Love and Trust are very fragile things. For someone to take that from you and crush it once, your flags should go up. If u have kids with her then things may be a wee bit more complicated, but my understanding is u don't. So run while u can. I know it will be extremely difficult, but think of the hurt that may arise in the future. I didn't believe the old saying once a cheater always a cheater either, and look where it got me! Take care, friend, and hang in there, I feel for you!