lilyblue Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 I need to date. Where is the easiest place to meet men that isn't a bar/club, that I can do by myself since all of my friends are married, and that isn't online (I'm already on match)? Suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 The beach. Coed sports. Cooking classes. The gym. Seminars for professionals. Sporting events. Hardware stores. Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 I need to date. Where is the easiest place to meet men that isn't a bar/club, that I can do by myself since all of my friends are married, and that isn't online (I'm already on match)? Suggestions? If they're good friends, they'll try and hook you up with their friends even though they're married. This might get dicey if you live in a real boony area. Otherwise Cerridewen gave a good list of activities where you can meet people. Volunteering is also good. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 My exW was flabbergasted by how many single, well-off guys were to be found at the vintage car shows I took her to. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 LOL is this thread for real? There are quality guys everywhere who are looking to date. Just think of an activity you like to do, and there they are. As long as it isn't too girly, unless you like gay men. Link to post Share on other sites
Jane2011 Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 Some guy tried to talk to me in the waiting room of a car dealership today (the service center area where I was having my car's oil changed). It was nice being talked to, and I thought he was kind of cute, but not enough so to really pique my interest. Other than that, I've been hanging out at coffee shops a lot in the past two weeks. (I'm getting back into writing, so I've been taking my lap top and writing up a storm.) Nobody's piqued my interest all that much yet, but I figure it's just a matter of time before someone and I start doing the eye contact thing. I hope. Last guy I was with I met on okCupid and it ended up being great/horrible at the same time. So I'm a little wary of that, even though it's a perfectly good way to meet men... Anyway, just put yourself in as many places as possible. I went to a yoga class on Sunday. (That may seem like a mostly women thing, but it's really not). I'm just going to all kinds of things (within reason), trying to make something happen. (I really want a boyfriend). Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 comicon. Lot's of single men there. guaranteed. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 You can meet a great guy anywhere. Smile and make eye contact and chances are the guy will approach you. If a guy that you find attractive chats you up and asks for your number give it to him. Men are everywhere it's easy, good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilyblue Posted January 17, 2012 Author Share Posted January 17, 2012 Ah, it sounds so easy. I don't think I'm ugly or off-putting, but I have NEVER had luck meeting men. A man asked for my number a couple of weeks ago, this was the first time I can remember this happening in so long. He was attractive, we seemed to have a lot in common. He texted me to ask me out and the next day (before we went out still) sent me a drama text about how he really liked me and my friend and he thought feelings might get hurt blah blah. It seems like all the men think that meeting men should be easy. But what if I'm generally ignored? Link to post Share on other sites
Jane2011 Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 I know. It's true that men are everywhere. But context is important. Too often, nothing happens even when there are tons of men in the room because nobody's making a move. People are often engrossed in their studying, talking to the friends they came with, eating, or whatever, and nothing ever happens. Honestly, I've never met someone "just out." It's always been classmates at school, co-workers, someone through a friend or acquaintance, or else on Internet dating sites. You have to actually be around a person and get a feel for what they're like to actually develop attraction or even just a light liking of them. It doesn't happen so often when people are just "out" because everyone's just looking quickly at other people but are, for all intents and purposes, just ships passing in the night. Maybe speed dating? I've done that, too. Twice now, actually (spaced out by a few years). No dice, but I think it's something worth trying several times. As with anything, it often takes several times before you score. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted January 17, 2012 Share Posted January 17, 2012 I know. It's true that men are everywhere. But context is important. Too often, nothing happens even when there are tons of men in the room because nobody's making a move. People are often engrossed in their studying, talking to the friends they came with, eating, or whatever, and nothing ever happens. Honestly, I've never met someone "just out." It's always been classmates at school, co-workers, someone through a friend or acquaintance, or else on Internet dating sites. You have to actually be around a person and get a feel for what they're like to actually develop attraction or even just a light liking of them. It doesn't happen so often when people are just "out" because everyone's just looking quickly at other people but are, for all intents and purposes, just ships passing in the night. Maybe speed dating? I've done that, too. Twice now, actually (spaced out by a few years). No dice, but I think it's something worth trying several times. As with anything, it often takes several times before you score. It's not always that easy but smiling at the cute guy at the store, gas station (wherever) never hurts. I do think that especially for women it's all about looking happy and approachable. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilyblue Posted January 17, 2012 Author Share Posted January 17, 2012 I know. It's true that men are everywhere. But context is important. Too often, nothing happens even when there are tons of men in the room because nobody's making a move. People are often engrossed in their studying, talking to the friends they came with, eating, or whatever, and nothing ever happens. Honestly, I've never met someone "just out." It's always been classmates at school, co-workers, someone through a friend or acquaintance, or else on Internet dating sites. You have to actually be around a person and get a feel for what they're like to actually develop attraction or even just a light liking of them. It doesn't happen so often when people are just "out" because everyone's just looking quickly at other people but are, for all intents and purposes, just ships passing in the night. Maybe speed dating? I've done that, too. Twice now, actually (spaced out by a few years). No dice, but I think it's something worth trying several times. As with anything, it often takes several times before you score. Yep, exactly. And been there, done that for speed dating Twice for me too. I think I went out with one guy a couple of times, but overall not a really promising experience. Link to post Share on other sites
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