Mark1 Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 -Talked to a woman on plenty of fish -We spoke on the phone for over an our - twice -Last spoke to her on Friday -Made plans for Tuesday (tmr) at a certain time and place -Texted her today to confirm, no reply Should I go at said place/time anyways?
xpaperxcutx Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 What time did you contact her for confirmation? I would think if she was busy, the latest she can get back to you is the day of the date. Try to confirm with her tom morning, 4-5 hours before the date. If she doesn't get back to you, she's a flake but at the same time you would have more than enough time to make other plans for yourself.
westrock Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Confirming a date by text is unreliable as maybe she never received it, or maybe you never received her reply. Who knows. But at this point the date is now no longer confirmed. Best you can do is call her in the morning to re-confirm the date since you didn't get a reply back on the text. If you get her voicemail, leave a message. Don't bother going until you get a confirmation back from her that the date is still on, and if for some reason she doesn't check her voicemail and shows up and you're not there, hopefully she'll then check her voicemail to see if you left message.
Author Mark1 Posted January 17, 2012 Author Posted January 17, 2012 Well, she has been online, and no reply, so I know she hasn't been under a rock. Looks like I got stood up.
westrock Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Well, she has been online, and no reply, so I know she hasn't been under a rock. Online as in you saw her active on POF? Or online as in instant message? You're assuming she received your text and is ignoring you but maybe she just never received it or you didn't get her reply. You didn't give us any details as to what you said in the text, but maybe she did receive it and didn't think she needs to reconfirm a date that she just confirmed with you only 3 days prior. Did you try calling her? In the future, when you have set a date with someone for a certain time and place that is just a few days ahead, there's no need to reconfirm if it's still on, just assume it is on unless you hear something different from them prior to the date.
bean1 Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Just call her. Hard to believe but yes, text messages can be missed. I had a friend who 'dumped' me because she couldn't believe I never got her text (I didn't get it!!!).
monkey00 Posted January 17, 2012 Posted January 17, 2012 Just assume that it's on, and show up. It shows confidence. If she does flake oh well, she doesn't have to know you showed up and DON'T contact her. I had a coffee meeting with a girl from online last weekend, the day before I wanted to confirm that exact address of the coffee shop and texted her. This was because she had previously given me a kind of vague location in the area. She did not message me back at all. I was debating between canceling the day of because I didn't feel like commuting for an hour or just showing up. I showed up 15 mins late but needless to say she was early and was there with her coffee.
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