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How to cope with seeing his brother


lilyblue

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Hi,

I've posted here a lot, so I'm sure most of you know/are sick of my story. For once I actually have a question not about him.

 

About 4 years ago I met a couple in an activity group. I became fairly good friends with them, and then the guy started bringing his brother (the now ex). He was married, brought his wife sometimes, we became good friends, they divorced, we got together, he disappeared without a trace after a month and a half and I found out (not from him since he never talked to me again) that he went back to the ex-wife. I also haven't talked to any of his family since then (I was also friends with one of his sisters before I knew him). This was 4 months ago.

 

His brother and sister-in-law have a vacation house down the street from mine (very randomly, it's in the middle of nowhere) and I will surely be running into them soon. I was there the other weekend and preoccupied with the thought of an awkward encounter the whole time. I know that none of us should feel awkward - it was his brother who was the a**, but I dread the unexpected run in. I feel embarrassed that I was treated that way, his brother and him are best friends. I hung out at their place a lot last summer (before the ex and I got together) and it's just going to be weird now, to know they're there (I can see their car from my house). I wonder if I should send him (the brother) a short email saying I hope the family is doing well and see him around soon - to kind of break the ice, or just continue to feel anxious every time I'm there and be on edge about possibly running into them, it makes me anxious to think about it right now. Or some other option?

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