white_angelbreath Posted June 2, 2004 Share Posted June 2, 2004 Do you sometimes believe that in waiting for your "mate" there is a real active waiting involved? I mean, that you prepare yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. while waiting for that special someone to arrive in your life? I have that feeling right now. I haven't met that special person actually but it seems that I am giving myself time (time for myself to do my own stuff) because I know if I am going to meet this person my whole life will change. Link to post Share on other sites
Bobbie Posted June 2, 2004 Share Posted June 2, 2004 I remember having the same thoughts years ago after an agonising wait to get pregnant, then when I was ( which I recognised within a few hours, my hormones went nuts ) I remember thinking this is it, now my life changes forever and it was as though the weeks for the baby to be born were lived in slow-motion with everything seeming extra-vivid. I give my relationships high priority but I don't want a relationship to be my whole life again, just an enhancing part of it. I guess I've done with the 24/7 marriage and children thing... Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted June 3, 2004 Share Posted June 3, 2004 Originally posted by white_angelbreath ...that you prepare yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. while waiting for that special someone to arrive in your life? .......giving myself time (time for myself to do my own stuff) because I know if I am going to meet this person my whole life will change. i'm kinda going through that right now too, after a weird breakup..... just enjoying my time without a partner and life is interesting again and activities just keeps flowing..... Originally posted by Bobbie I give my relationships high priority but I don't want a relationship to be my whole life again, just an enhancing part of it. Bobbie kinda took the words out of my mouth.... relationship is just one part of our lives...... one part crumbles, we have the other areas still going...... i'm quoting what my friend said the other day, "If you meet someone, dont jump straight in, take time to enjoy his company". i find that true.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author white_angelbreath Posted June 6, 2004 Author Share Posted June 6, 2004 I also feel the same as you do, liluil. I feel I am waiting for someone (which I have no idea who and if it is a boyfriend-to-be, I am not ready to commit). But I still don't get it why I feel this way. Sometimes I want to get over this feeling because makes me anxious and uneasy waiting for someone who is no one. It's weird, though. But one the other hand, I kinda feel relieved and enjoying the waiting part. At least there is mystery that I have to uncover what I am waiting for and makes the waiting part a bit exciting and interesting. However, for all the reasons and feelings mixing within me trying to figure this one out, I have no idea the what it is. Probably I am just feeling it after the terrible and hanging break-up with my boyfriend. Probably, it's just one of those effects that one may feel after a break-up. It is true that life begins to be interesting to me also and activities come and go after the break-up. I have experienced the process of it from breaking up, coping up, crying, praying, making myself busy all the time, reading a lot of self-help books, writing in my journal about the break-up and coping with my new found life without a boyfriend again, writing to my girlfriends, writing to this forum, hanging out with my girlfriends, and reflecting a lot about my life. Come to think of it, I did have a wonderful life after all. I survived the break-up and now I am improving myself to keeep myself whole again and happy (even without a boyfriend). Sometimes it's just weird that I am having this waiting "thing" going on within me. Even more weirder is that I have weird dreams from the day I broke up until now. I still remember those that are very striking to me. Sometimes I analyze them if they really did happen to my life. Probably they did but I am not exactly sure of it. Link to post Share on other sites
packersgirl Posted June 7, 2004 Share Posted June 7, 2004 I have felt those exact same things before. I'm a single woman, and have been for just over three years. About two years ago I felt as if I were being prepared for "the one". Although I still feel as if my life is progressing in preparation for him, I also feel as if it has slowed down a bit, quite possibly because I've found him. I have been through an emotional roller coaster ride these past three years. My emotions have been tossed and flipped and stomped on... I got to experience a broken heart without a committed relationship and the time consuming healing that comes with it, not to mention crushes and all that good stuff. But with all that, I have finally come to a place where I know what I am looking for in a man, and I won't settle. Active waiting is such an adventure. Looking back on my three years of it, even though it was a rough road, I wouldn't change a single part of it, for anything. Link to post Share on other sites
LyricalZ Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 Hi White_AngelBreath, Thanks for the query. I too waited for The One... and wonder now, if he has come and gone... But I knew he was coming, just a 'knowing' from meeting in dream beforehand etc (crazy huh?!).. But we met, learnt the valuable lessons and parted...Still he drastically effected me and changed my life.... So I add to your query - what IF the one you wait for comes and goes in a blink of an eye?...Would that b worth it?... It is nice and worth the wait, and in my case extremely unnerving because I don't feel I will meet The One again... My only advice and I may not express it well - would b this: Love the one you're with or Enjoy the one that comes - each day... Dare not cancel out the one you may come to know as not being of the image in ur mind of "The Awaited One"... Changes in thought occur all the time, u may find yourself one day saying "Thank God I did not go with my initial judgement of Him/Her".. Through out my time in meeting and losing my "Awaited One" I have learnt this: I no longer look for "The One" in others and eagerly seek it... Rather, I lay my life to the hands of fate and time - and allow God to present "The One" to me... He will come... Lose the intellect and the need and go with the heart and give your all, Z. Link to post Share on other sites
Author white_angelbreath Posted June 10, 2004 Author Share Posted June 10, 2004 I agree with you LyricalZ, but although before it bothers me about this "waiting part" and I keep on asking myself why I have this feeling, what are the causes why I have this feeling, etc. until now I still don't have the answers to all these questions. At first, having this feeling gives me anxiety and fear of what to come. But then as days goes by, my apprehension of the bad things to come that might result because of this feeling lessens. Maybe this is just it. I have to live with this "weird feeling". So I tried and I did. I still have this feeling of "waiting for someone" but I don't let it ruin my day by taking my time to analyze it or think about it or do anything about it. I just let it be. It is not a matter of intellect. I am not thinking that I would like myself to wait for this someone. I don't think it is that. It's more of feeling it. I don't know about you but I just feel it. Link to post Share on other sites
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