Lemontang Posted January 20, 2012 Share Posted January 20, 2012 Been a very long time since I've felt the need to post a topic in the coping section here. In all honesty I've been doing really well, settled in with my GF, renovating my house together & we're traveling along just fine. Found out today an old ex of mine (man I never thought I'd ever call her the old ex) from 2yrs back is taking off tomorrow on a hot air balloon trip with another guy. Now this doesn't bother me directly, hell those who know the story know she was seeing plenty of guys behind my back. So makes no difference she's seeing guys post me, it's expected. Issue is the hot air balloon trip I'd half paid for as part of a 30th birthday gift with her family, and she'd put it off all this time...until now. The kicker is tomorrows anniversary when I'd planned to actually ask her to marry me 2 years to the day. Now she's a pretty vindictive person so I'd be non too surprised if it was done on purpose with the idea it'd get back to me just to have a 1up on me (with the poor sap going with her having no idea)...then again I did sell the engagement ring and buy a motorcycle with it. So yeah just having a vent. It's been awhile but I can say I don't want her back I know that for fact. It'd be a down grade for starters; Triple bachelor scientist girl who sits on various charity boards VS School drop out barfly alcoholic serial cheating liar. You do the maths and I'm pretty sure you know I made the better choice. But it just sucks that people can be so vindictive and use some poor guy in the process to make a point. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted January 20, 2012 Share Posted January 20, 2012 Well instead of being bothered, be thankful that you are away from such a vindictive person. Link to post Share on other sites
dicky_fish Posted January 20, 2012 Share Posted January 20, 2012 Well instead of being bothered, be thankful that you are away from such a vindictive person. I'd say from his post he is. Link to post Share on other sites
Exit Posted January 20, 2012 Share Posted January 20, 2012 How did you even find out about this? While it doesn't sound like it's setting you back all that much, how is this information even finding its way into your world in the first place? Bits of information about an ex from 2 years ago still trickling into your life, what purpose does it serve? I don't know if you're getting this stuff from friends, social websites, or what, but whatever the source, I would think it's best to sever this connection so you can keep moving on in peace. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lemontang Posted January 21, 2012 Author Share Posted January 21, 2012 How did you even find out about this? While it doesn't sound like it's setting you back all that much, how is this information even finding its way into your world in the first place? Bits of information about an ex from 2 years ago still trickling into your life, what purpose does it serve? I don't know if you're getting this stuff from friends, social websites, or what, but whatever the source, I would think it's best to sever this connection so you can keep moving on in peace. Easier said than done. And I feel I have moved on, when I in no way want her back (the thought churns my stomach). I think it's just a case of I never really got answers after it all finished and this just brought it up again after closing the book. I come from a town where I know a lot of people (grew up in it, can't go from one end of town to another without running into someone I know), she moved to this town to be with me and hence most of her friends I introduced her too. Heck I prolly know one or two faces in every pub I walk into...and we have a lot of pubs. I've actually asked a number of these friends to not even mention her around me, some oblige others are just absent minded. Even all the jobs she's had here in this town at least one of the work colleges has a connection with me be it social or strong business relationship and yet it's her that points out this connection to them when she finds out. So they often bring it up. Even more so she still tells them some amazing tales about me and how I kicked her out (part of the reason why they tell me as they know I'm not like this). How she's the victim keeping out the parts of course with her drinking, lies and cheating. It's as if she feels the need to discredit me to cover her own issues. I really feel for the guy though, really. But it's not my place to say, and everyone regardless of ones past deserves to start new relationships on a clean plate. I do have 10 to 1 odd's she'll be cheating on him within the 1st 18months. Just hope he wakes up sooner than I did. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 Well by the sounds of it he'll likely be screwed over by her soon. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 It annoys me how these people always make out that they're the victim and tell complete lies to everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
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