CopingGal Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 I've been thinking about Valentine's Day and I'm kind of excited about it. I am going to buy myself a card and a present. I will ask my roommate to have dinner with me so we can celebrate. My roommate once told me Valentine's Day is not just for lovers. It's for people you care about. So I'm looking forward to it and I am trying to figure out what to buy myself. I love clocks and music boxes so I may buy myself one of those. Actually I'm very excited about it. I am so glad I read the self help books. It's nice to be looking forward to it rather than dreading it. Link to post Share on other sites
TheJiltedGeneration Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 aww thats kind of a interesting way to adapt to what usually boils down to subsisting in keeping bad memories/feelings out the mix. gave me a idea of perhaps saving up some money and buying myself something big for myself on v.day (opp............. just realized the pun sowwie T_T) also what self help books do you read, cause I could really use some atm >.>. Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 This thread is very comforting to read, thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CopingGal Posted January 21, 2012 Author Share Posted January 21, 2012 (edited) aww thats kind of a interesting way to adapt to what usually boils down to subsisting in keeping bad memories/feelings out the mix. gave me a idea of perhaps saving up some money and buying myself something big for myself on v.day (opp............. just realized the pun sowwie T_T) also what self help books do you read, cause I could really use some atm >.>. Hi. I read two books. One of the books was mentioned on LS a few times. These books are gender specific. "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken" by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt. The other book was so helpful that I took lots of notes from it and I read it often, esp. after a crying fit. It's called "Loving Me" by Claudette Sims. That book was written for Black women, but I think anyone can really benefit from it. A friend of mine is Caucasian. She read it and said that she found it helpful. I went through the exercises in the book. It gives you a lot to think about...including what you want in your next relationship, what you are willing to put up with and what you are not willing to put up with and why. I like that because it gives me something to look forward to. But more importantly the information is great. It focuses on being happy with yourself and making your life great for yourself. It's called a Breakup....has more exercises than Loving Me has, although not as powerful. There's also a few pages dedicated toward men in the back of the book. My roommate told me he wish that book had a whole version for men. Have a nice day. Edited January 21, 2012 by CopingGal Link to post Share on other sites
sunflower11 Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 You know..I've been thinking about that too I'm actually not dreading the day, but looking forward to it. After all, isn't love for ourselves the most important kind of love there is? SHouldn't it be celebrated on valentine's day as well? I plan on spending it with my sister and having a chick flick and pizza kind of night! Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 You know..I've been thinking about that too I'm actually not dreading the day, but looking forward to it. After all, isn't love for ourselves the most important kind of love there is? SHouldn't it be celebrated on valentine's day as well? I plan on spending it with my sister and having a chick flick and pizza kind of night!Can I come?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author CopingGal Posted January 21, 2012 Author Share Posted January 21, 2012 You know..I've been thinking about that too I'm actually not dreading the day, but looking forward to it. After all, isn't love for ourselves the most important kind of love there is? SHouldn't it be celebrated on valentine's day as well? I plan on spending it with my sister and having a chick flick and pizza kind of night! Yum, that sounds nice! Link to post Share on other sites
Author CopingGal Posted January 21, 2012 Author Share Posted January 21, 2012 If you have money but don't have anyone to spend that day with, I suggest getting a massage, and doing other nice things for yourself. Ice cream and cake while watching a funny movie sound like fun too. Mrs. Doubtfire is funny. Renting Three Stooges movies may be fun too. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamila Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 Valentine's Day could be indeed seen as a way of celebrating love in general. Good idea ! I remember the sad valentine I spend with my ex some years ago... In the morning he had texted me 'Happy valentine's day my valentine '. The afternoon, he had bought me a nice stuffed bear with 'I love you's' and all. The evening when I got home I checked my FB and stumbled upon his messages with others about how Valentine's Day had become ultra commercial and all.... Then don't buy me stuff idiot .... Link to post Share on other sites
Author CopingGal Posted January 22, 2012 Author Share Posted January 22, 2012 I think I am going to buy myself a cross pendant. When I had one before, I would hold onto it from strength. I'm not a religious person. I am agnostic. But I have a STRONG hope that God does exist. Wearing the pendant is an expression of my hope. It gives me strength. In times of trouble I held onto it. I'm not sure what happened to it but I want another one. I think that is the V day present I will buy for myself. Link to post Share on other sites
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