louise_23 Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 so my friend of about a year has a new boyfriend. being friends, i told her about 2 one night stands i had recently that i deeply regretted. i dont tell everyone, just her and one other close friend. its not something i make a habit of but im going through a rough patch at the minute, though i know its no excuse. soi was out with her last night, with her new boyfriend, and some others. shes been seeing this guy a week, i should add. in a lull in conversation she decided, to my humiliation, to discuss my one night stands. turns out her new boyfriend works at the same place as one of them, which led to him asking his name. she knew his first name as she'd asked me before, so she told him. he then said whats his second name....and she then said "oh she doesnt know that" and laughed. she then announced the full name of the other guy. i was a bit drunk and laughed it off like i wasnt bothered...however today i feel very annoyed. i dont feel impressed that she put me down in order to impress this guy, however if i make a big deal out of it, it will become a big deal to her, and i imagine she'll probably me more inclined to tell more people. what would you do?? would you be angry? Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted January 21, 2012 Share Posted January 21, 2012 I used to have a "friend" who would do this to me. After a while I realized that she felt insecure about herself and would put me down in front of others to make herself look better and feel better. If I were you I would tell her that what she said made you feel hurt. Whether or not she cares about hurting your feelings will show you what type of friend she really is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author louise_23 Posted January 21, 2012 Author Share Posted January 21, 2012 I used to have a "friend" who would do this to me. After a while I realized that she felt insecure about herself and would put me down in front of others to make herself look better and feel better. If I were you I would tell her that what she said made you feel hurt. Whether or not she cares about hurting your feelings will show you what type of friend she really is. i had a vent to the other friend about it this afternoon. im too passive aggressive for my own good, and though i should make my feelings clear, ill probably just avoid her for a bit. im sure it'll become obvious im pissed off, one word text responses, and ive cancelled going to two things i know she will be at this weekend. the other friend has cancelled on her too. apprehensive to find out the truth as to whether she cares if she's upset me or not, think thats why im avoiding it. had enough ****ty friendships to last me a lifetime. if you're going to treat your friends like **** one week into a relationship you deserve everything thats coming to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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