goldengirl11 Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 I admit that I've been hoping mine will come back (especially with Feb approaching), tho perhaps I shouldn't call him that. He may have thought of himself as a friends with benefits seeing as he started dating someone else (as painful to me as it was) whilst we were still involved. We've had on and off contact since, tho we haven't actually seen each other for a year. At the moment feel that he's got me where he wants me. E-mailed him a happy new year (even tho didn't think he deserved it) to which he replied with the same and asked what I was up to, but when I asked him vice versa he didn't respond other than about being on a fitness plan. Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 Let's face these people would have to work really hard to get back into our good books . But they never do. It's always easier to take the easy way out. You could be waiting forever. I wouldn't even give my ex The time of day I know what you mean. Btw, are you on TMF? Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 Following from my second to last post, don't think will hear anything else tho, unless he gets bored I imagine. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 What's TMF? Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 What's TMF? The Motley Fool forums. I don't go on there anymore but remember there was someone on there with the same name! Link to post Share on other sites
shortee143 Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 i keep telling people, "i dont want him back" hoping I'll start to believe it. I would love for him to want me back- just for my own satisfaction. However I want the old him, not this new version. I know darn well sayin no would be the hardest thing....but in the end the best. But I still think I'd take him back...only for it to end terribly again! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 If you take an ex back you remove the chance to find out what your future without them would have been... ~~ One day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else.. ~~ Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 If you take an ex back you remove the chance to find out what your future without them would have been... ~~ One day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else.. ~~That's an inspiring thought! Arty, how's your family life? Are you happy with your SO? How old is your son now and how is he doing? At this point, I would not take my ex back. After some discussion with our fellow member Downtown, I realized I could never be happy with my ex. So, I'll watch him jump from one woman onto another and torture other women - not me anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 That's an inspiring thought! Arty, how's your family life? Are you happy with your SO? How old is your son now and how is he doing? Thanks RP... Family life is the best.. couldn't be better and the little guy turns 4 in March. He has the best personality and the best humor.. he is funny like his Dad I'm very happy with my SO.. things are not perfect but if they were that is when things would self destruct. Marriage is hard work and mine is no different.... Thanks for asking RP... I see your picture on FB all the time and have almost hit the friend request button many times... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 I'm very happy with my SO.. That's great! things are not perfect but if they were that is when things would self destruct. Marriage is hard work and mine is no different.... I absolutely agree and that's a great attitude. May I be nosey and ask what is not perfect? I am collecting information on what makes a good marriage (including the imperfections). I see your picture on FB all the time and have almost hit the friend request button many times... Well, ax me! Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 I see your picture on FB all the time and have almost hit the friend request button many times... She is a cutie. Well, ax me! "ax me"?? Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 She is a cutie. "ax me"?? Aww, thanks. Oh, I misspelled it: aks me. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Aww, thanks. Oh, I misspelled it: aks me. I have not been on FB for weeks. The next time you pop up, I'll add you. Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 In 2009 my ex did ask me back. It was one of the worst mistakes I ever made. All he did was psychologically abuse me. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 i can honestly say i do not want him back - - especially after he contacted to tell me his gf is pregnant with his child Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 i can honestly say i do not want him back - - especially after he contacted to tell me his gf is pregnant with his child I don't blame you! Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 I don't blame you! hah! yeah - - i have no idea why he contacted me after 8 months to tell me that Link to post Share on other sites
ivyvine Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I left my ex 8 months ago. It was extraordinarily difficult, but we were both very unhappy. He tried for a couple of months to get me back. Now he has moved on and started seeing someone new. I want to be so happy for him, but all I feel is a pit in my stomach and my heart breaking in half. I asked him to get back together and try to work it out on Saturday night (over the phone and after many, many drinks). He stopped by yesterday to discuss this with me and made it very clear that he and I will never be able to be together again. What he was saying made complete sense, and I definitely agree with him, but now that I can't have him ... he is all I seem to want. Thank god we are never on the same page, because we would eventually be a disaster again. However, depending on when you ask us ... one of us will say yes and the other no. Link to post Share on other sites
goldengirl11 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 (edited) I left my ex 8 months ago. It was extraordinarily difficult, but we were both very unhappy. He tried for a couple of months to get me back. Now he has moved on and started seeing someone new. I want to be so happy for him, but all I feel is a pit in my stomach and my heart breaking in half. I asked him to get back together and try to work it out on Saturday night (over the phone and after many, many drinks). He stopped by yesterday to discuss this with me and made it very clear that he and I will never be able to be together again. What he was saying made complete sense, and I definitely agree with him, but now that I can't have him ... he is all I seem to want. Thank god we are never on the same page, because we would eventually be a disaster again. However, depending on when you ask us ... one of us will say yes and the other no. I admit that I feel rather envious that you can see your ex. The problem with my situation is that we don't live locally to one another and don't have any mutual friends anymore, so the chances of bumping into each other are very slim, e.g either say if I were to go out drinking in his town (although there seems to be several pubs!) or if he happened to ask to meet. And I don't think the latter is going to happen all the time there is someone else in the picture (and I assume there still is as he hasn't initiated contact for 4/5 months). Not that I don't sympathise with your situation tho of course, and wish you the best! Edited January 31, 2012 by goldengirl11 Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 I admit that I feel rather envious that you can see your ex. The problem with my situation is that we don't live locally to one another and don't have any mutual friends anymore, so the chances of bumping into each other are very slim, e.g either say if I were to go out drinking in his town (although there seems to be several pubs!) or if he happened to ask to meet. And I don't think the latter is going to happen all the time there is someone else in the picture (and I assume there still is as he hasn't initiated contact for 4/5 months). Not that I don't sympathise with your situation tho of course, and wish you the best! Me too. Don't live near my Ex and don't have mutual friends. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 i can honestly say i do not want him back - - especially after he contacted to tell me his gf is pregnant with his child Next time he tells you she's pregnant, tell him: "Yeah, I know, my friend George told me she avoids vaginal sex with him now because she's pregnant and only does anal and oral with him." Link to post Share on other sites
sleepykitten Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I would want him to want me back, but thats ego talking after taking such a bashing, the past 8 mths have been pretty hard. But rationally and realistically I would not want him back in my life either as a b/f or a friend as i have zero respect for him, and would have even less respect for myself if I went back to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Chs Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I would be angry, i would tell her how unfair it is to tell me that after what she has put me through after the break up and how long i waited and kept her in my heart. I would then ignore her for the rest of my life like i am doing anyways Link to post Share on other sites
perfectlyflawed459 Posted February 3, 2012 Share Posted February 3, 2012 Right now, I honestly do not know how I would react to this. He has put me through so much crap and hated me for absolutely no reason after I tried everything in my power to make things amicable between us. Right now I am a little angry at him, but I know over time that I could find it in my heart to forgive him, let this go, and just remember and cherish the fond memories we shared together. I do not know if I would be angry, sad, a little happy that he finally realized that he was wrong...but I do think I can say this with upmost confidence: no matter what feelings would go through me at that point and even if he was on his knees crying and begging for me, I think I could honestly look him in the eye and tell him no. Link to post Share on other sites
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