AmericanHoney Posted January 22, 2012 Share Posted January 22, 2012 I have an ex who I have a FWB situation with because we decided we didn't want to date again and recently we went on vacation and since he got back he hasn't said one word to me. There wasn't any fights we had a good time and he certainly didn't complain but on the way home he was quiet and didn't say much I didn't read into it very much because it was a very rainy day and I figured he needed focus his attention on the road. I contacted him 2 days later just to say hi and he said hi back and that was it nothing more was said. I keep wondering should I contact him anymore or leave things alone? I feel like I messed things up somehow and I am not even sure what I did. We also play Halo together and he hasn't even bothered playing Halo with me and I see him online but he is giving me the cold shoulder and he certainly isn't texting me anymore and I want to say hi but at the same time he could at least acknowledge my presence and not give me the cold shoulder. What should I do? Go back to NC? I do not want him to think I am the one ignoring him but at the same time he is the one who isn't playing Halo with me anymore and I feel as I am invisible. Link to post Share on other sites
Exit Posted January 22, 2012 Share Posted January 22, 2012 Sounds like the classic type of problems that can arise from some unfortunate "FWB" agreement. If he can't be mature enough to tell you what is bothering him or going on with him, I don't think you should even bother trying to fish the information out of him. If he had something to say he could be a man and say it. Getting the cold shoulder wreaks havoc on your self esteem and mental well being, and shouldn't be allowed to continue. Don't play this game with yourself where you think things like "maybe he thinks I'm the one ignoring him". You've been the one making contact, and you've gotten one word replies as a response. Don't initiate any further contact, and if you can muster up the strength, take it one step further and put an end to this terrible benefits arrangement. If you don't want to date right now then just accept that you won't be having sex for a while either and embrace being single. When relationships end there is no reason to try to hang on to some or all of the "benefits" that came with it. This is the kind of thing it leads to, and I'm sure it's painful. Link to post Share on other sites
flow15 Posted January 22, 2012 Share Posted January 22, 2012 Very similar topic here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t312709/ follow the advice given... Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted January 22, 2012 Share Posted January 22, 2012 I think you going on vacation together made him feel like he was back in the relationship with you. He is your ex which means he doesn't want to be with you in a relationship. Maybe he could deal with the FWB thing but when he had to be with you for so much time on your vacation, he started feeling back in a spot that he doesn't want to be in so now he is putting distance between you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AmericanHoney Posted January 22, 2012 Author Share Posted January 22, 2012 It was just a little getaway where we got a cabin and we didn't go out didn't do anything except sit by the fire and watched movies and had sex a million times and asked me to do certain things and I said didn't want to because it made me uncomfortable and he said well if you liked me you would so I felt guilty did it anyways. He kept bragging I am going to blow so many loads tonight I can feel it and he didn't even do that:rolleyes: Sure the sex might of been wonderful but he certainly didn't blow any loads he had to rent a PPV movie to get off. I suppose he might of been annoyed with himself but there are going to be times when you do not blow loads or there will be times when I do not feel like doing certain things he just needs to deal with that and the silent treatment now makes me feel like he is showing me he is a immature baby who is mad for whatever reason maybe at himself for doing this FWB and thinking it could work who knows but the self-esteem and mental well being is taking a toll thinking I am this giant failure when all I wanted to do was make him happy and make this FWB work. Link to post Share on other sites
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