boyfriend still in contact with exes and ex-bonks! help!

[lilian]

Hi guys

 

I was just wondering what you all think about your boyfriend still being in contact with a few of his exes. I am not talking about them having romantic dinners together but the odd phone call from an ex, or a quick coffee over lunch as they are working in a client relationship situation.

 

Is this a respectless thing to do to your girlfriend? Especially, ex-bonks, does my boyfriend really need to stay in touch with them? Is it worth it?

 

I find it very upsetting!

[Layla]

it really annoys me when my boyfriend is still in contact with his ex-girlfriend. but what can you do? Tell him not to do so??!! I guess, sometimes you just have to trust him!

[DaiseyEyes]

It drives me up the freakin' wall!

[guest258]

My girlfriend is still friends with some guys that she has hooked up with before. At first, when she told me about it, I freaked out, because I had never had to deal with anything like that before. My warning flags were going off, and my jealousy level went off the chart. It probably was close to ending our relationship. It was an especially touchy situation for me, having been burned in previous relationships by cheating.

 

After alot of thinking, about questions like "why do I feel this way", and what can I or she to do make me feel better about it, I came to the conclusion that the only person who can make me feel better is myself.

 

She has re-assured me that she has no interest or attraction in any of these guys, and that they are just friends on a platonic level. All I can do is trust her, and hope that the person I love will act in an honorable and appropriate way with these guys. Either that, or end your relationship with him/her if you don't think you can trust them.