2sunny Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 I call it a sex buddy. Mainly because most people in these arrangements only have communication when lining up the sex. Other than the sex - he doesn't owe you anything. IF he disappeared - most likely he's dating someone he is focused on. Yep - he disappeared because he's with someone new... That is usually the way it goes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AmericanHoney Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 I suppose you are right but he could still talk to me we used to talk way before sex got involved. I could care less about the sex I just want my friend back. I suppose he was never much of a friend anyways but still it hurts because I miss talking for hrs about nothing and playing halo. Sex winds up complicating things and emotions are involved. I should of left sex out of the equation and stuck with just being friends who talked for hrs and played Halo and occasionally went out for a drink but sex got involved and messed everything up. Lesson learned..... Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 OP, was this your first FWB experience? It sounds like it was...? If so, lesson learned the hard way, but it will serve you well down the line. Sorry girl, it sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AmericanHoney Posted January 27, 2012 Author Share Posted January 27, 2012 Indeed it was. I will chalk it up as a lesson learned and never do FWB ever again because in the end I just end up getting hurt. I should of just been friends and never had the benefits argh sex complicates things so much! Link to post Share on other sites
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lilyblue Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 "Friends with benefits" never meant Friends with benefits...for most people. Its "I keep in contact with you because I want sex" benefits. They are never real friends after the sex stops. It doesn't work often, but it can work. I'm still friends with my former FWB. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Sorry this happened to you. Friends with benefits means different things to different people. It's a catch phrase for casual no strings attached sex. He had his way with you and now ran off. You really shouldn't have sex so casualy if this kind of thing upsets you which of course it does! What I'm saying is wait to have a relationship with some one who cares more about you then just sex. I'm not saying he just cared about sex but he sure through you out like you were trash when he got bored. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Thank you Shayla you know how I feel thank you:bunny: Do you disappear with no word from other friends? I don't know, maybe I am being naive, but I expect to be treated like a human being and not like a tissue that is thrown away after being blown on. That is exactly how I feel! I suppose I am naive too:o I guess Shayla you and I are the rare ones who believe we should be treated like human beings and not tossed aside like yesterday's news without a care in the world. He used to be so kind and even during the whole FWB he was kind and caring and we laughed, we cried,etc but the one day poof it was gone and I was thrown away like a tissue. I live and learn......... I've got friends I haven't seen in years. It's just life, people drift away into their own lives. How old are you? Maybe you are so young this hasn't happened to you in your life yet. This happens with male and female friends. Link to post Share on other sites
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