AwptiK Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Long story short, I dated a coworker for 5 months, things ended about 3 weeks ago now. A week and a half passed and we started acting like friends, just inside the workplace. That continues on and kind of turned into a little bit of texting, until 3 days ago. She isn't one to show any emotion after a breakup, but 3 days ago we kind of talked a little bit about being friends and we were both pretty happy with where we were. I know she was over me, I still had some lingering feelings though and being friends wasn't really helping me move on. At one point during that day, she said, "It's still kind of hard to talk to you too, but I do it gladly because you're a great guy." That was so great to hear and I wish things stayed that way. Then 2 days ago, things took a huge swing. I don't know what sparked it, but from 2pm-6pm we fought back and forth over text. There was a lot of anger on both sides and I said a lot of mean things to her further on in the fight. At the end, the anger mellowed out and I believe the idea of being friends in time was mentioned. She said she wanted to be left alone for the rest of the day to cool off and I let her be. The following morning I sent her an apology via text for my actions. Today, I texted her again, about WORK, asking if she could find someone to fill my shift because i'm sick. She did, and I replied, "Thank you!" And then she tells me something like, "I told you to leave me alone, I asked nicely but since you won't do that i'm going to file a police report after work today." (She is a little dramatic, if you're not picking that up.) I called work immediately and talked to her, I explained that i'm leaving her alone...but when it comes to work matters, I really expect to be able to talk to her. I said that I didn't mention a single word about anything else; leaving her alone is one thing, but strictly-work talk is needed. She calmed down a bit and explained that the other night was crazy and she wants to be left alone. She went as far as saying that when she transfers stores (1.5 weeks from now), "there will never be a reason (to talk again)." I don't know what to do. Obviously, leaving her alone is one thing, haha. I really don't want to go the rest of my life without talking to her though, I do value her friendship and I thought we were going to be friends after the last fight cooled off. I suppose it's totally in her court though, so I guess it's extremely unlikely to ever hear from her again. I know the extreme space now will help with the feelings side of things, for me. After that night I just assumed that maybe in a month or so I could drop by her work and see her (since it is next to my school), but now I don't think that it would even be welcomed by her then either. Link to post Share on other sites
WordvAction Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Why would you want to keep talking to her? Is it because you actually value her friendship or is it because you still have lingering feelings and she's the person that pops up on your mind right now? Think about this, and go NC in the meantime. I'm not in your shoes, but I don't really see a reason to continue being friends with this girl after she transfers workplaces. Link to post Share on other sites
thehead Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 There's nothing to do but accept she doesn't want to talk anymore. Don't push the issue by showing up a month later. That will annoy her at best and make her think you're stalking at worst. If she wants to contact you, she has your number but don't hold your breath. She sounds done. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AwptiK Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 Yeah...I suppose you guys are right. I do value her friendship to an extent, because she is always fun to talk to. I think the main thing in losing her is having one less person to talk to, when my social group is small enough to begin with. The other reason, is because I don't like when things are bad with someone. I'd be okay with never talking again, if we had a peaceful and friendly goodbye on her last day. I just automatically want to fix things, before doing anything else. It's her call if we ever talk again though, so I can't and won't do anything. Link to post Share on other sites
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