Author EgoJoe Posted January 28, 2012 Author Share Posted January 28, 2012 I disagree, BD. Look at the catchphrases and I got a PM from Florescent right after I made this post. The title: So.. The meat: Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 I disagree, BD. Look at the catchphrases and I got a PM from Florescent right after I made this post. The title: So.. The meat: Check out her earlier posts. Link to post Share on other sites
Mcnulty Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 Loveshack is a free forum to help people who are trying to get over someone, or get a perspective on their break up. As i said it's a forum, a forum is a designated place for public expression...end of guys. He can say what he likes, give his advice, experiences, opinion. On a forum you're going to get ALL angles and that's what's healthy about this place. You can choose to ignore opinions and create your own opinions AND air them about certain individuals, BUT you have no right to lambast and criticize people on a free forum, also that is not why you came here in the first place is it? Live and let live, accept the nuances of individuals and choose your friends on this site...as you do in your everyday life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EgoJoe Posted January 28, 2012 Author Share Posted January 28, 2012 I'm willing to admit when I am wrong. Florescent's last couple of posts and PM to me definitely were eerily similar to the lamblasting that we've come to know from Wilson. (I read more of the previous ones, which I had done some reading before and I see what Betterdeal was getting at) I have no agenda other than what I said. I don't think that my desire to "reveal" knowledge is petty. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 Loveshack is a free forum to help people who are trying to get over someone, or get a perspective on their break up. As i said it's a forum, a forum is a designated place for public expression...end of guys. He can say what he likes, give his advice, experiences, opinion. On a forum you're going to get ALL angles and that's what's healthy about this place. You can choose to ignore opinions and create your own opinions AND air them about certain individuals, BUT you have no right to lambast and criticize people on a free forum, also that is not why you came here in the first place is it? Live and let live, accept the nuances of individuals and choose your friends on this site...as you do in your everyday life. Why is it "He can say what he likes" but we cannot? Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 I'm willing to admit when I am wrong. Florescent's last couple of posts and PM to me definitely were eerily similar to the lamblasting that we've come to know from Wilson. (I read more of the previous ones, which I had done some reading before and I see what Betterdeal was getting at) I have no agenda other than what I said. I don't think that my desire to "reveal" knowledge is petty. There's a lot of similarities between them, for sure. Their defence mechanisms are very similar for a start. Link to post Share on other sites
Mcnulty Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 "You can choose to ignore opinions and create your own opinions AND air them about certain individuals" Did you not read it properly? Freedom of speech. Waste your time on people who need help for god's sake. Link to post Share on other sites
lalalandman Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 Mcnulty while I do agree with you, I don't think this has anything to do with that. In my opinion, I think this is simply a case of a few individuals who just have it out personally for one another. I just wish they would settle their differences already so we can all enjoy a healthy atmosphere. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 "You can choose to ignore opinions and create your own opinions AND air them about certain individuals" Oh right, well thanks for clearing that up. Did you not read it properly? Freedom of speech. I did, thanks, and in particular this bit: you have no right to lambast and criticize people on a free forum So which is it? Freedom of speech or not freedom of speech? Am I allowed to "create my own opinions AND air them about certain individuals", or do I have "have no right to lambast and criticize people"? Waste your time on people who need help for god's sake. Or what? You'll lambaste and criticize me? Link to post Share on other sites
Mcnulty Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 I agree with you lalalandman. Are we not all on here to try to heal, seek advice and try to help others? I'm not on here often enough to suspect people of having aliases, that's not why I come on, I come on to do the above and I value EVERYONES contributions. I may be wrong, but I get the feeling there's people here who are trying to get others thrown off the site or portray them in a bad light, when they don't even know them!!! Get on with supporting each other instead! Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 I don't know why you have such a crumb in your beard about this. EgoJoe & wilsonx have been sparring for a while now, and if one spots the other being naughty and says so, so what? Everything since has just been banter - which you're part of. And yes, we are here to discuss, principally, relationships and offer support, which we all do. A little socialising now and then is not going to do that much harm, is it? Link to post Share on other sites
lalalandman Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 (edited) ^^pretty much, I'd say leave it at that Edited January 28, 2012 by lalalandman Link to post Share on other sites
SoulFinger Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 I just don't know why someone would want to create multiple screen names to trick or mislead other people,seems to me they must be pretty insecure. Link to post Share on other sites
PelicanPete Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 Are we not all on here to try to heal, seek advice and try to help others? BLACK AND WHITE THINKING!!! Who cares. The guy got banned for spreading his mindless manure too far. If he needs to get back on LS so bad that he has to use another persons account, what does that tell you? He considers getting banned from a small internet forum as a badge of honor. Are any of us really taking what he has to say seriously anymore? Just learn to laugh at it and brush it aside, or if you got time on your hands, make a valid argument and watch him thread dodge. Makes things so much more enjoyable. Hey wilson, If you lose that account as well, I can always give ya mine Link to post Share on other sites
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 To clear this thread, and gossip, up a bit. I and Dark Phoenix are the same. I got nailed for "Alerting" other threads of trying to sell CC numbers on this account and decided to make dark phoenix as my alias while this account was banned. Come on people, put the clues together. Same location and same thread picture, this account has the drawing of my tattoo and Dark Phoenix has a direct picture of my tattoo. Wilsonx got banned and I "loaned" him my secondary account because the email verification for this site was down (or still may be down) at the time Wilsonx got banned. I hope this gets the immature nonsense out of everyone's head soon so we can all get back to actually providing help for people on this forum, instead of providing more high school gossip to feed upon. For those of you that are legitimately seeking help, this forum can provide a lot of insight. Providing you use your own head and think about the advice given for yourself and your situation. Good luck everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
dicky_fish Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 The only criticisms I would give of Homebrew and Wilsonx, are that at times they seemed to behave like the moderators of the Loveshack site. Like reverends preaching the 'good word'. The love bible according to Wilsonx and Homebrew. My main problem with both of them. But that's mostly because other posters put them in that position. I really don't agree with people being revered on this site. I've got a few favourite posters who I'll take note of if they have anything to say, but I wouldn't call them the be all and end all of this site. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 (Philosoraptor is me fav, amazing poster) I wasn't going to chime in on this thread as I don't have a dog in this fight. But now I have to respond Though I have been attacked for being young (25) by certain members and have been accused of black and white thinking; my responses offer a combination of logic, peace, and a dash of humor when the situation calls for it. My goal is only to help others get to the point of peace within themselves so that they can make the correct decisions for their own well being. I try to offer no false hope, but only the tools to helps themselves through his or her distress so that they can do what is best for themselves, and have those tools for the future in similar situations. While my posting style seems to rub some the wrong way, it seems to be only those who are currently in an irrational state of mind and do not have the ability to see the world in a more logical and peaceful way. This being the most aggressive of such comments towards me: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=3800331&postcount=31 Even with the backlash that I may receive at times, I wish no harm on any of the posters here. I hope everyone in pain finds the inner peace necessary to move on and make their lives as positive and wonderful as they can be. Anyways, back to your regularly scheduled program. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EgoJoe Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 Meh, I said I was wrong Fluorescent. The Dark Phoenix posts were a dead give away and I saw a post from you that honestly...I still think Wilsonx could have easily been the author. I stay here to help and to help with my own bad days, like today. The ones where I don't try to think about her (my ex), not caring about anything and in the middle of a movie I randomly want to contact her...except I'm still angry. I clash with Wilson simply because when someone constantly says you are a black and white thinker...I just see someone launching into a soundboard of denial. No, attempt to form consensus or anything else. I have quite a bit of respect and will pay homage to Homebrew. He preaches growing up and being a man. Here is your answer to some craziness (if you experienced the GIGS-esque breakup you'd believe it easily too) but move on anyways they could care less how you feel and don't have a clue. They might come back but they might not and it is even possible you will eventually get your apology. So, sorry again to Fluorescent. Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 In addition I have admitted openly in the pat posts that I originally signed on to LS as a social experiment back when & presented myself as "oldguy" & someone "younger", just to let the chips fall where they may. After the first six to eight months I dropped the other avatar but at the time I was surprised by at least 2 things; first, No one ever seemed to catch on that both personas where one in the same & second, just how differently each was treated by perception alone. So to Philosoraptor; if anything, I suspected you are either doing a social experiment of your own or are well beyond your years. That is not to say I always agree with you but I find your insight impressive... most of the time Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 So to Philosoraptor; if anything, I suspected you are either doing a social experiment of your own or are well beyond your years. That is not to say I always agree with you but I find your insight impressive... most of the time I started reading this forum a couple of years ago and had previous accounts to ask questions verifying that I was indeed not crazy regarding the abuse I was taking. I enjoy the human psychology regarding interpersonal relationships so it was a natural place to get my "fix", as actual peer reviewed studies are few and far between. This place was just a constant learning experience. I made this account as my relationship ended (this time around) and once again did whatever I could to paint myself black as it was the only way I could find a reason to get back with her. If I could just blame myself I could avoid all of the logic and allow myself to try again. I recovered from it shortly after and haven't looked back since. It's why I can empathize so well with the members here... I've been through it, and went through it over the course of a few years. I knew it was bad for me, but I kept going back for more. Love is in no way logical, and that's what I love the most about it. The things you will do when you feel unconditional love are amazing, but eventually you get beaten down so much that you find it harder and harder to keep trying. Letting go was the best thing for me. But I am truly just a youngin'. I've always had a good head on my shoulders and I have a great mother who I would constantly debate with growing up. I just try to live my life in an optimistic and peaceful way. If I have that then there is no reason to feel any negative emotions at all. All I can offer is my insight on human nature and enjoy reading and learning from the experiences of others. I believe that the psychology field is my true calling but for now I'm in the IT world. Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 This place was just a constant learning experience. But I am truly just a youngin'. I've always had a good head on my shoulders and I have a great mother who I would constantly debate with growing up. I just try to live my life in an optimistic and peaceful way. If I have that then there is no reason to feel any negative emotions at all. All I can offer is my insight on human nature and enjoy reading and learning from the experiences of others. I believe that the psychology field is my true calling but for now I'm in the IT world. In the time I've been visiting LS I've developed a mental list of characters I enjoy reading & for what it's worth, I for one am glad your here, so I wouldn't let that scathing post you received bother you. If nothing else I've become a pretty good judge of character over the years & you seem to be one of the good guys. I started off & still enjoy the water cooler, and most of the 'platonic', forums here but the "relationships" forums offer most of the fresh topics and my field of work dealt with that for many years so I find it interesting, although I'm not sure that, "interesting" is the best choice. Philosoraptor; I hope when you wrote; "for now I'm in the IT world", that you are an IT professional but your living in the outside world, as that is truly the best place to live as well as learn. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 In the time I've been visiting LS I've developed a mental list of characters I enjoy reading & for what it's worth, I for one am glad your here, so I wouldn't let that scathing post you received bother you. If nothing else I've become a pretty good judge of character over the years & you seem to be one of the good guys. All you can do is forigve those who have wronged you. Holding onto any sort of anger does nothing but allow someone else's actions control your emotions. I received quite the verbal lashing from my ex and her family just the other day and just stayed calm and forgave them. Their controlling nature has them up in arms and very irrational as I am no longer one to allow such abuse. I will not raise my voice back, but provide solid legal evidence against their threats. It's a mess, but very interesting seeing it happen. Philosoraptor; I hope when you wrote; "for now I'm in the IT world", that you are an IT professional but your living in the outside world, as that is truly the best place to live as well as learn. Exactly. Link to post Share on other sites
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