Confused728 Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 (edited) We broke up about 2 years ago.. have not been in his presence since.. though we talked a few times after that... 1 month after we stopped talking he met someone new, they moved in together and got engaged all in three months and are now married. After i heard he was engaged i never bothered contacting him. Maybe i should have.. I still love him and there hasn't been a day he hasn't crossed my mind. I just wish i could hold him again. Maybe i shouldn't have went NC, I blocked his number and maybe he thought i changed mine. I had a dream about him last night that was so vivid I wish i could contact him now. But i think it would be wrong of me since he is married now. What went wrong? how did he get married so quickly? Does he ever think of me? Will I ever get to talk to him again? lol think he will get divorced? I really want to talk to him? Such a big void.. I just keep thinking what i could have done diffently... I tried to teach him a lesson.. i guess the joke was on me Edited January 26, 2012 by Confused728 Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 What went wrong? how did he get married so quickly? Does he ever think of me? Will I ever get to talk to him again? lol think he will get divorced? I really want to talk to him? Such a big void.. I just keep thinking what i could have done diffently... I tried to teach him a lesson.. i guess the joke was on me Two years have gone by and you're still analyzing, scheming and contemplating? It's done. It's over. Something you should have grasped a long time ago. There is no hoping and wishing anymore. Don't contact him. Respect his marriage and don't wish ill upon it for your gain. What you can do differently now is move on. Fill your void in other ways. The focus should be on you, not him. While he is with his wife creating a new life, you're still holding on to nothing. Go out and rebuild your life, create experiences and make new memories of your own. Link to post Share on other sites
ilovedhim Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 We broke up about 2 years ago.. have not been in his presence since.. though we talked a few times after that... 1 month after we stopped talking he met someone new, they moved in together and got engaged all in three months and are now married. After i heard he was engaged i never bothered contacting him. Maybe i should have.. I still love him and there hasn't been a day he hasn't crossed my mind. I just wish i could hold him again. Maybe i shouldn't have went NC, I blocked his number and maybe he thought i changed mine. I had a dream about him last night that was so vivid I wish i could contact him now. But i think it would be wrong of me since he is married now. What went wrong? how did he get married so quickly? Does he ever think of me? Will I ever get to talk to him again? lol think he will get divorced? I really want to talk to him? Such a big void.. I just keep thinking what i could have done diffently... I tried to teach him a lesson.. i guess the joke was on me Hi Confused- yes your story is like mine in a couple of years lol. You did the right thing not contacting him after he got engaged. When I found out a month ago mine did I put him out of my mind until recently I had a dream he was moving in with her. Then all the memories came flodding back. It's one thing when our ex is starting to date again, another when they put a ring on someone. Now that yours is married you must respect that. Please don't contact him. What is it you'll gain? Nothing, just more hurt. This was 2 years ago, have you been dating? What lesson did you try to teach him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 My heart still hurts. I tryed to teach him what life would be like without me, guess that back fired lol! He had told me a month before he met this new person that he missed me, and regretted all the wrong he did to me, that he wished he could cuddle with me, I told him if he kept pissin me off I would leave and never come back and he said "you can't do that to me" then he did something I didn't like so I went nc and blocked his num from contacting me then bam, month later he met someone new. I wonder if he ever thinks of me or has dreams about me or anything Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 Oh and on the night of his bachelor party he went to a place that I go to almost every weekend sometimes I would go to this plan Thursday Fridays and Saturday's and sundays! He used to joke it was my second home as I was friends with a lot of people there. Luckily I wasn't there the night he was there for his bachelors party, but a friend of mine was there and seen him and todo me about it. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Is this the druggie guy? If so, you were never communicating with the "real" version of him - so you never really had a R with him. You had a R with the drug. I hope I'm remembering you as the correct poster - let me go look at your prior threads. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted January 26, 2012 Author Share Posted January 26, 2012 Ya thats the one but I think maybe I was wrong now.. Maybe I falsely accused him cause he married and seems stable from what I heard. Though he himself told a mutual friend that he was drunks or buzzed when he bought the engagement ring, but that he doesn't regret it. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Stop thinking he wasn't "that guy" - he was -is! You dodged a huge bullet... Be grateful! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confused728 Posted January 29, 2012 Author Share Posted January 29, 2012 I still think about him everyday Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 You had no idea who he really is - since you knew him while in his "altered" state. Do counseling. Tell the counselor you need help to stop handing the "illusion" of this guy so much power over you/your happiness! Link to post Share on other sites
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