shygirl Posted June 2, 2004 Share Posted June 2, 2004 Hi, recently a guy told me he liked me. At first I didn't know how to react because we didn't know each other well and I never thought any guy would fall for me. Eventually I decided to give it a try and we went out twice. He was really friendly and I started to feel attracted to him. But it was my first time going out with a guy and being the shy girl that I am, I didn't talk much. Most of the time he was doing the talking. After that he seldom contacted me and we never went out again. I just assumed he didn't like me anymore. I think maybe the fact that I didn't talk much made him think I didn't like him. Or maybe he found me too boring. Any comments? Could someone please give me suggestions on how to engage in conversations with a guy? Usually when I feel attracted to a person I would pretend I wasn't interested in him at all and I would never dare to speak to him unless he started the conversation first. Most of the time the conversation would be rather short because it would end up in silence after a while. What am I supposed to do? Link to post Share on other sites
InmannRoshi Posted June 2, 2004 Share Posted June 2, 2004 So he took the risk of rejection by asking you out, twice. Then he had to keep conversation going the entire time you went out with him, without any hint of attraction or interest on your part. Now he's supposed to lather, rinse and repeat. At what point do you have to do some of the work? There's no more usefull tips for talking to a guy on a date than there is for talking to a family member or coworker. Link to post Share on other sites
longlegzs80 Posted June 2, 2004 Share Posted June 2, 2004 I used to be like you and would still say I am somewhat like that as far as talking to a guy. But, the one thing you can do to start conversation is just smile. Smile and be pleasant and be yourself. If a guy decides to end it after 2 trys then it is his loss, or maybe it wasn't ment to be. But, try to be yourself and say hi. I have done it, and it has helped me out as far as talking to guys I am interested in. Too, make sure you smile. IF a guy is truely interested and likes what he sees, he will no dought talk to you and be willing to inceate the conversation. So, just be yourself. If you are super shy go outside of your box and say hi, ask a question, ask how are you doing today. Just something to spark up a conversation. AFter awhile you will loosen up and things will all come your way. Hope this helps. Take care. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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