JolliX Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 Ok, I'm posting this here because over all I want slef improvement. A slightly over one year romantic relationship just ended for me, and I made sure I burnt the bridges. I feel bad about this, but I am very sure it's what I need to be able to improve myself. Basically, I sent her a final closure message saying how I felt (we had already broken up earlier that night), was very kind in it, but said I didn't want any contact with her at all. She sent me one back, mostly kind but she has an edge to her words I don't think she realizes, but says she still loves me, will miss me, and hopes in the future that we can communicate with each other since she'll want to know I'm happy (she decided to end the relationship). For the last month, she wouldn't say she loved me or missed me, and now when I want no contact, I got those from her in her closure message. I immediately began thinking about how down the line I might contact her, and maybe things would work out then (my issues and her issues caused a lot of anxiety and stress between us). Then I realized that if I kept thinking those thoughts, that I would just stay where I am, not move on, and not improve myself and my life. So I messaged her back. I was blunt and told her every thought I had about our situation. I told her I hoped to not remember her, but only the lessons I had learned about myself, and that I didn't want to have contact with her ever again. Basically, I said what I knew would make her very angry. She messaged me back prodding my issues as anger issues, that she was right not to trust me, and that I wasn't to contact her again (and she blocked me). I feel bad about burning the bridge because I do love her, but I don't think I can get over my issues with her possibly popping up in my future in anyway (or me thinking she could). So now, I'm trying to figure out how to approach improving my life. I'm in therapy for insecurity issues (I'm thinking I need to bring up issues of wanting love so much that I sacrifice my needs to try to find it). I've realized recently that I'm not happy with my job, so I'm trying to study for the GRE to go back for grad school. However, I have no idea what I would be happy doing/being since I just feel like hell right now. So, anyone know any good methods of self discovery and how to find out what really makes one happy with themself? Sorry for the break up rant to begin with since this is the self imrpovement section, I just needed to put that in as a lead up to where I am. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
blindnowisee Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Whenever I talk to new women I always end up asking them something along the line of: "If I give you 10 million today.. what would you do tomorrow?" If you weed through the 'I would go travelling', 'I would do nothing', 'I would quit work' etc and dig deeper.. you will tend to know what you would be doing.. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Go to youtube.coma and google Morty Lefkoe and watch him conduct a session with Dr. Joe Vitale (I think that's his name). Then try the Lefkoe Method yourself over the phone for $200. You will save time and money compared to conventional therapy. It totally changed my life for the better and the lives of many other people I know as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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