Jealousy - how do you deal?

[i'mfaraway]

Maybe more relevant for here.

 

Every time a close girl friend starts dating (in a serious way, exclusively), I get jealous and so much so that I kind of stop wanting to see the girl friend anymore. Partly because the girl friend (understandbly spends more time with SO and less time with me) and I feel I can't really deal with her gushing about her new relationship.

 

Some girl friends I also found out after her SO that they're just "lame." They only hung out with me because we were all single at that time and after they get into relationships, they drop off from the face of the earth.

 

I admit that I'm jealous. I want a relationship as much as the other person. So am I bad friend and an insecure person that can't be happy for the others' lot?

 

Anyone else in similar situation? How do you deal when your friends seem to get into serious relationships so easy? I bet I'll attend all their weddings soon.

[Ross MwcFan]

I think most people when they pair up, they end up drifting away from their single friends, and starting making new friends with other couples.

 

That's the impression that I've always got anyway, I think it's just normal.

[Pat99]

It does sound like you are jealous and insecure.

[Savannah323]

HI,

 

After reading your thread, I can say that you are not a bad friend. Jealousy is a normal human emotion and it happens to all at some point. Now, I remember moving away from my friends because I was annoyed by them talking about her new relationship or problems.

 

How to deal? You may consider joining varies activities such as zumba, yoga, cycling or some sort of club. Keep your schedule busy and they will eventually wonder what happened to you!! It's time to make yourself happy and finding that activity, event, and/or person! Best of luck!