shook187 Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 so i'm here to tell you that you can get through it... I was with my ex for 5 years and a couple months, she undoubtably has GIGS, or for those who don't agree with a 21 year old girl having gigs, she is LOST. i saw it coming, she dumped me for 3 months and came back into my life, just to leave again saying we need more time apart. now waking up each day clinging to that hope isn't healthy. moving on is. i'm not dating, i'm not easily pleased and i won't just break a heart to make myself fill the void she left. I know within my self she will return, again. But it'll all be a little late, as i have seen the world now, and half the reason i was trying to get her back is because of the comfortability and worry of having to meet new girls, but there are great people out there. everyone needs to remember WHAT WILL BE, WILL BE. keep busy, i have put on 8 kilos of muscle from being all i can be. working toward a target. I'm so focused now. i pushed my friends away to spend all my time with this girl and now i have great relationships with girls that give me the time of the day. I love my new life. and you can get there IF YOU WANT TO. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 It matters not what their reasons are in the end, all we know is that they have left. We can only work on ourselves and do what we can to make our own life better. It seems like you're going in the right direction and hopefully you will find someone a little more sure of herself to bond with. Link to post Share on other sites
Jarrod18 Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 I would like to add and agree with this post.4 year relationship and 10 months later and I feel numb to the situation now. Not numb in a bad sense just numb as in I dont feel anything towards her anymore. On the opposite end I feel pretty amazing and truely like I have got myself back, the same happy adventerous person I was 4 years ago just without being bogged down in anyway . Im at uni now and moving interstate this week to live so concentrating on myself those some 9 months ago truely payed off in the end. And in a great way I dont feel the need to be in a relationship now, feels really good being myself and not worrying about anyone else,theres no needy feeling just I guess a pretty happy I moved on in my life feeling. Dont doubt yourself if you are NC, you will make progress, you will feel better about yourself and you will get there in the end no matter how hard it is now,it all works out in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
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