WHat are ways women show their interest

[singlelife]

What they think is obvious isn't so obvious to men. Can some ladies please inform us.

[Sugarkane]

We tell you bluntly that we want to see you again.

[insertnamehere]

Guy here . . .

 

#1 sign a woman is interested in you is proximity.

 

Women rarely risk giving the wrong guy the wrong impression. Likewise, they rarely risk putting their own egos on the line by overtly hitting on you. So, the balance of this is they sort of orbit you and create a situation where they feel it's obvious to you. Then it's on you to make the move.

 

If a woman really likes you, she may try to work in a non-opener opener. Something that allows her to join an existing conversation without risking the clear appearance of opening you.

 

The best way to judge is to ask a few simple questions about her possible motives for whatever she's doing.

 

If a woman is pushing the borders of your personal space and then staying there beyond a few seconds, ask why? If there's no other reason than to show interest, then that's the answer. The downside here is that some women expect a snappy response and don't linger more than a couple minutes.

 

If she inserts herself into your conversation, ask why? If you reposition yourself, does she react? If you look her way, how does she respond?

 

From experience, the biggest signal women send up is proximity. If she likes you, she will press the edge of acceptable personal space and see how you respond.

[xpaperxcutx]

We tell you bluntly that we want to see you again.

 

I'm pretty straightforward with what I want, but I like to playfully let a guy know through flirting. I don't think I can be anymore obvious than when I tell a guy to go in for a goodnight kiss.

[runner]

Guy here . . .

 

#1 sign a woman is interested in you is proximity.

 

Women rarely risk giving the wrong guy the wrong impression. Likewise, they rarely risk putting their own egos on the line by overtly hitting on you. So, the balance of this is they sort of orbit you and create a situation where they feel it's obvious to you. Then it's on you to make the move.

 

If a woman really likes you, she may try to work in a non-opener opener. Something that allows her to join an existing conversation without risking the clear appearance of opening you.

 

The best way to judge is to ask a few simple questions about her possible motives for whatever she's doing.

 

If a woman is pushing the borders of your personal space and then staying there beyond a few seconds, ask why? If there's no other reason than to show interest, then that's the answer. The downside here is that some women expect a snappy response and don't linger more than a couple minutes.

 

If she inserts herself into your conversation, ask why? If you reposition yourself, does she react? If you look her way, how does she respond?

 

From experience, the biggest signal women send up is proximity. If she likes you, she will press the edge of acceptable personal space and see how you respond.

 

this has been pretty true IME.

[jobaba]

1) Coming up to you and saying you're hot.

 

2) Coming up to you and saying you're cute and asking if you want to make out.

 

3) Coming up to you at a party and saying you're really cute and that she will s@ck your d@ck that night.

 

Those examples come to mind and have all happened in real life (though not to me, my friends).

 

Everything else is just speculation...

[Dust]

What women find most attractive is a man who is confident and ready to fully enjoy them. A man who wants them!

 

Why are you so worried about if a girl is interested. Just worry about your own interest. A girl showing interest is just a tool to get you interested in her, because after all if you notice a girl interested in you it only makes it more likely you will start being interested in her. BUT there is no way to avoid the women being in the role of acceptor/rector unless you want to wait for girls to ask you out... Just go after girls you are interested in moral of story.

 

If a girl says anything to you assume she is interested. Even if she's your waitress and asks you for your order. If you like her flirt/ask her out be cool. Be cool whether she says yes or no. Bam!

[Sugarkane]

I'm pretty straightforward with what I want, but I like to playfully let a guy know through flirting. I don't think I can be anymore obvious than when I tell a guy to go in for a goodnight kiss.

 

I totally agree.

[Frank13]

Let me give you a little warning. Some women can show 99 ways that she is interested in you, but when you take the bait she tells you she only sees you as a friend.

 

So, if there are 1000 ways to show interest, a woman can show 999 of them and still not be interested in you romantically. Then they wonder why it seems like they have to hit a guy over the head for him to get that she is interested.

 

Not saying this is true of all women but I sure have seen it a lot.

[Chii]

^

 

Exactly.... and women wonder why guys have trouble trying to interpret their signals...

[Oxy Moronovich]

--A woman can smile, flirt, and touch a guy, only to bail out at the last minute.

--A woman can give you her number, but then never answer when you call.

--A woman can go out on a date with you, but then decide she doesn't want to go further.

--A woman can start kissing and fondling you, only to decide that's as far as she wants to go, leaving you with blue balls.

 

Here's the only way to know for sure if a woman is interested: if she has sex with you. Up to that point, she can bail out anytime.

[phineas]

1) Coming up to you and saying you're hot.

 

2) Coming up to you and saying you're cute and asking if you want to make out.

 

3) Coming up to you at a party and saying you're really cute and that she will s@ck your d@ck that night.

 

Those examples come to mind and have all happened in real life (though not to me, my friends).

 

Everything else is just speculation...

 

I have had all 3 happen to me, however VERY FEW women actually meant it & most just used these things to get my attention & tried to dangle the sex carrot.

 

Usually just asking them if they want to check out (insert anything lame at your house here) will tell you if their DTF.

 

But women just looking for fun don't stick around once their itch is scratched.

 

I'm assuming OP is talking about women that want to date however.

[ditzchic]

Here's the only way to know for sure if a woman is interested: if she has sex with you. Up to that point, she can bail out anytime.

 

Not really. A lot of women have sex like a man nowadays.

 

I'd say the real way to tell if a woman is into you is how much she initiates contact. If she seems genuinely interested in wanting to talk to you and wanting to see you. If she makes you do ALL of the work or seems wishy-washy about it, she's not that into you but your a good option to kill boredom or a dry spell.

[kaylan]

When she grabs your junk on the dance floor, youll know shes super interested.

 

Has happened to me before OP.

 

So I have first hand experience and data.

 

Lolz

[xxoo]

From experience, the biggest signal women send up is proximity. If she likes you, she will press the edge of acceptable personal space and see how you respond.

 

As a woman, I think this is right on.

 

WHen she's close, parted lips are another physical sign. Basically, close and open = sexually attracted.

[phineas]

Guy here . . .

 

#1 sign a woman is interested in you is proximity.

 

Women rarely risk giving the wrong guy the wrong impression. Likewise, they rarely risk putting their own egos on the line by overtly hitting on you. So, the balance of this is they sort of orbit you and create a situation where they feel it's obvious to you. Then it's on you to make the move.

 

If a woman really likes you, she may try to work in a non-opener opener. Something that allows her to join an existing conversation without risking the clear appearance of opening you.

 

The best way to judge is to ask a few simple questions about her possible motives for whatever she's doing.

 

If a woman is pushing the borders of your personal space and then staying there beyond a few seconds, ask why? If there's no other reason than to show interest, then that's the answer. The downside here is that some women expect a snappy response and don't linger more than a couple minutes.

 

If she inserts herself into your conversation, ask why? If you reposition yourself, does she react? If you look her way, how does she respond?

 

From experience, the biggest signal women send up is proximity. If she likes you, she will press the edge of acceptable personal space and see how you respond.

 

This with women you don't know or barely know.

 

If a passive woman I know is interested I have mistaken everything they did for just plain being friendly & found out later on they were interested & felt rejected because they stood within 10 feet of me or said "hi" to me at a bar then continued on & talked to some other guy.

 

Like, how am I supposed to know? LOL!

[singlelife]

if she likes you she does, if not, whatever. ther's plenty of fish in the sea.

[insertnamehere]

If a passive woman I know is interested I have mistaken everything they did for just plain being friendly & found out later on they were interested & felt rejected because they stood within 10 feet of me or said "hi" to me at a bar then continued on & talked to some other guy.

 

Like, how am I supposed to know? LOL!

 

First off "they stood within 10 feet of me" is not the border of personal space. In most Western cultures, personal space ends somewhere between a foot and half and three feet.

 

As for missing signals . . . that's on you. You're over-estimating the friend side of an interaction.

 

In my experience, guys who are successful with women tend to over-estimate the sexual aspect of a conversation. They are, frankly, very willing to strike out. And they tend to walk away from rejection without their egos dented.

 

Attraction is a tricky thing. Not to be overly philosophical, but how do you really ever know anyone likes you? Even sex, marriage and kids can end up being the broad strokes of a lie. At some point you have to push past the fog of it all and just try to do something, anything.

 

When she grabs your junk on the dance floor, youll know shes super interested.

 

Lolz, indeed. In fact, grabbing your junk on the dance floor is a bad signal. In my experience, those girls are just out to have fun. And they are, in fact, very hard to actually bed. They go out with their friends; they go home with their friends. And you go home to your hand.

[kaylan]

 

Lolz, indeed. In fact, grabbing your junk on the dance floor is a bad signal. In my experience, those girls are just out to have fun. And they are, in fact, very hard to actually bed. They go out with their friends; they go home with their friends. And you go home to your hand.

The couple times it happened were with chicks I had previously hung out with a few times and kissed already before. So I did end up back at their place, although we refrained from having sexy time.

 

I will agree that women like this are bad news though. It totally gives off the wrong vibe and their later behavior showed me it was a good idea I never slept with them. Drama and a half.

 

Outside of this, I would have no idea what to expect from a random girl who did this is a bar or club while dancing. Ive had girls I didnt know grab my butt while dancing, but thats different. Its not like I really go out to the bar/club to go home with someone that night myself. I chill with my friends and make new ones. Its too risky going home with someone I dont know.

Edited January 30, 2012 by kaylan

[insertnamehere]

Its too risky going home with someone I dont know.

 

Upside is there's very little emotional risk. And other risk factors can be mitigated.

[bolase]

uh huh... No woman does that...

 

I just did that.

[Oxy Moronovich]

I just did that.

Are you even a chick?

[bolase]

*checks* Yes.

So, guy texts: "I had fun, you're an intriguing girl :)" and I text "It was fun. See your pretty face again soon."

Of course now I'm worried about him feeling objectified, but well he knows I clearly want to see him again!

[Thieves]

The poster who wrote about "proximity", I believe, is pretty spot on. Whenever I have high interest in a man, and whenever I'm around him, I try to be close to him.

 

In fact, I haven't really noticed how much I actually do it until it was just mentioned. Around this said guy, I'm always rather close to him and touching him somehow, or in some way. I usually initiate my share of conversations, and I always look him straight in the eyes for long periods of time when we do talk. But, more than anything, it goes back to a lot of phyiscal "proximity". I suppose I'd call it "icebreaking", as in finding ways to physically "intrude" on his personal space so that we can become more comfortable with being around each other.

 

As for the poster lamenting the fact that he can't always read women's signals, my answer to that is simple: stop reading. If it's that hard to gauge a woman's interest in you, then honestly, it's probably a lot more trouble than it's worth. Instead, move on to the next one. It'd be infinitely better to find a woman who doesn't have such a hard time expressing that she likes you, which in my experience would equal into a much more successful relationship. In other words, make sure you're getting back what you're giving, at least most of the time.

 

uh huh... No woman does that...

 

I think enough women do. If I really like a guy, I have no qualms about asking him when we are going to hang out/go out again after a date, because in order for me to do that, I would already have to be well aware that we're basically on the same "page" as far as gauging each other's interest level.

[Dust]

The poster who wrote about "proximity", I believe, is pretty spot on. Whenever I have high interest in a man, and whenever I'm around him, I try to be close to him.

 

In fact, I haven't really noticed how much I actually do it until it was just mentioned. Around this said guy, I'm always rather close to him and touching him somehow, or in some way. I usually initiate my share of conversations, and I always look him straight in the eyes for long periods of time when we do talk. But, more than anything, it goes back to a lot of phyiscal "proximity". I suppose I'd call it "icebreaking", as in finding ways to physically "intrude" on his personal space so that we can become more comfortable with being around each other.

 

As for the poster lamenting the fact that he can't always read women's signals, my answer to that is simple: stop reading. If it's that hard to gauge a woman's interest in you, then honestly, it's probably a lot more trouble than it's worth. Instead, move on to the next one. It'd be infinitely better to find a woman who doesn't have such a hard time expressing that she likes you, which in my experience would equal into a much more successful relationship. In other words, make sure you're getting back what you're giving, at least most of the time.

 

 

I would count getting in my field of vision proximity enough.

 

another good post from the Princess of Thieves