Wesker Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 Just thought I'd throw this out. When I was with my ex of 7+ years, it seemed like I would get more looks, and women approaching me as compared to now since I'm single again. First let me go on record as saying that I never once cheated on my ex. I'll admit though that when I went out with my buddies whether to a bar/club, or concert, I would sometimes have someone buy me a beer, or just come and talk to me (my ex didn't care much for my friends, nor going out much so if was usually just me which she didn't mind.) Now, naturally I won't pass up a free beer, but I would also tell that person in the nicest way possible that I already have a GF that I love very much. Usually that'll be the end of that, and they move on. It is a nice ego boost though by the way..ha. Even at the store, I would notice a bit more smiles at me. Now, 7 months out of my breakup whenever I go out with my friends, I'm getting less, and less women talking to me, or just noticing me. Even the few times I've approached someone, I get instant rejection. Do they have some internal sense where it comes to single, and not single guys? Crazy thinking yeah. I know my confidence hasn't exactly been the highest lately. Perhaps now that I'm actually looking instead of just being out, I'm giving off some kind of desperate vibe? I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has experienced this, guys or girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 29, 2012 Share Posted January 29, 2012 if that is the case then it doesn't apply to me. I've been married since June and have not noticed any sort of attention from women other then the wife. That is all I need. You'll find women who find attraction to the unavailable (for the challenge I suppose) but overall most women are not like that. Keep your head high and keep throwing yourself out there and you'll find someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Zaphod B Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 Never applied to me either. No matter whether i'm single or in a relationship most women don't even give me a first glance let alone a second one. Ha ha. And I know I'm not hideous. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 1, 2012 Share Posted February 1, 2012 Few people care less than an unavailable (presumably married) man, meaning care less about other potentials, so this caring less, combined with the social status of being demonstrably vetted by an existing female, is attractive to one subset of the female population. I noted the 'power' of the wedding band many times during our M. It didn't really have anything to do with me. I'm the same person I was back then, perhaps even healthier now. Alas, now, no vetting nor social status nor as much 'caring less'. TBH, I don't miss it either way. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 i can honestly say that i'm not. if i see a guy with a gf/wife i simple ignore them and stare off into space. i see no appeal whatsoever in flirting with someone who's already taken. Link to post Share on other sites
poodle Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I'm sure it has to do with your confidence. Woman are more attracted to confident guys, not unavailable guys. Confidence is something we can sense. Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted February 2, 2012 Share Posted February 2, 2012 I'm not. Of the women I've known who liked to chase unavailable men, there were usually absent father issues. I think particularly where a father has gone off with another woman, it can sometimes have a long term impact in terms of the woman seeing men as something to compete with other women over and "win". My parents have a long, strong and very happy marriage and I think that's left me with too much respect for people's relationships generally to want to disrupt them. Link to post Share on other sites
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