USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 So after my past weekend's experiences in Vegas, I am now starting to genuinely believe the notion that quality humor really can overcome almost anything when it comes to women... Women, your thoughts...? Does humor really increase your attraction towards a man, or is it something you just say...? Is there even an explanation for why humor is so appealing to you? Men, what are your experiences with this...? Link to post Share on other sites
ditzchic Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Humor is a HUGE thing for me. It's not everything but good humor in correlation with someone I'm physically attracted to means it's on. If I'm extremely physically attracted but he can't make me laugh, it's not on. To me it's because it makes me feel more comfortable and at ease with a guy. I don't feel like I have to entertain him, I can be myself and just relax and have a good time with him. Also if he can make me really laugh I know that he's someone I won't get bored with easily. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 A man who can make me laugh and/or who has a similar sense of humor is very important. We need to be able to laugh at our own foibles as well and not take ourselves too seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2012 Author Share Posted January 30, 2012 I also recently read in an article that by and large, the most common thing women look for in a guy when it comes to online dating was that he could make her laugh...there was no comparison...so for you, is this a requirement or just a nice-to-have...? Link to post Share on other sites
wildgeese Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 I'm sure it depends on what the individual person is looking for, and some may place humor higher or lower on their list. A close friend of mine places security higher on her list of desired traits than humor, and it's no surprise that while her boyfriend is very loyal, he isn't exactly a funny guy. Humor is very high on my list and one of the key components to my current successful relationship. It's one of the first things that attracted me to him, it's what has brought us closer together, and it's what helps us get through our current long distance relationship. When I think about the two of us together, I think of us laughing. I think it's such a desired trait for me because I feel most at ease with people who accept, and reciprocate, my generally goofy demeanor. I'd go nuts if I couldn't be myself and have fun with my partner. Link to post Share on other sites
ditzchic Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 I also recently read in an article that by and large, the most common thing women look for in a guy when it comes to online dating was that he could make her laugh...there was no comparison...so for you, is this a requirement or just a nice-to-have...? If I weren't immediately blown away by his looks but he could really get a belly laugh out of me, I would definitely give him a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Make them laugh right out of there clothes. Are you PUA... how did you come across this great secret that women like a witty fool? Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 I think humor is important, particularly playful humor, which can be cultivated but also happens more naturally when there is chemistry, and rapport. I don't think doing a standup routine really attracts many women --- there are definitely guys who try TOO hard to be funny, and even when they are funny, it's awkward --- but yes, of course, a guy who can make you laugh is important to many women. Especially if it's the kind of humor that seems organic and to connect to the moment and the person. IME, someone can be not very funny as a person but still make someone laugh and have that playful humor and rapport in a relationship. Regardless of how funny the individuals are, successful relationships seem to have that (as far as I've seen), so someone who is a natural at that would likely have more chances with different potential partners. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaticClarity Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 So after my past weekend's experiences in Vegas, I am now starting to genuinely believe the notion that quality humor really can overcome almost anything when it comes to women... Women, your thoughts...? Does humor really increase your attraction towards a man, or is it something you just say...? Is there even an explanation for why humor is so appealing to you? Men, what are your experiences with this...? My experience is that humor--and charm in general--creates instant attraction whether we're talking about a girl you're on a first date or your long-term girlfriend who you're going through a bad spell with. It's particularly important for people already in a relationship to remember this and keep the humor and charm flowing, because it can solve tons of problems and just make your life dreamy instead of dreary. My girlfriend and I were fighting to the point of near-breakup earlier last week--mostly I think because she went off of some anti-anxiety medication, but also because I do have some issues to work on. On Friday and Saturday I made extra effort to be ad-lib-say-anything-but-make-it-creative-funny as I often am but occasionally lose sight of, and she went from lukewarm back to burning-hot love again. Our one-year dating anniversary is here and we're both getting tattoos, and she's talking about getting my name on her arm (I'm getting a Zen Enso symbol on my left forearm). "Make 'em laugh, make 'em breakfast" should be every dating man's motto. Link to post Share on other sites
Author USMCHokie Posted January 30, 2012 Author Share Posted January 30, 2012 If I weren't immediately blown away by his looks but he could really get a belly laugh out of me, I would definitely give him a chance. The issue I see with this is that if you aren't even marginally blown away by his looks, i.e., minimally attracted, would you have even given him a chance to show that you that he could make you laugh? That is, would he even have a chance at getting a chance...? Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 I think most people want to be funny and try. It's a basic human desire to want to laugh and most people want to fill that desire. Just about everybody I know CAN be funny given the spotlight. There are people who are ALWAYS ON and always need to be the center of attention, cracking jokes, and commanding everyone in the room with their jokes and stories. Personally, I find them to be kind of annoying... Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Make a girl laugh.. and she is yours..at least in the beginning.. it breaks down those walls. Humor has always been my biggest secret weapon in dating.. All women want to laugh and have fun with a guy they are spending the evening with.. Although.. there is a difference in someone trying to be funny and someone spontaneously just being funny.. the latter we all can do if we are relaxed and we don't try too hard. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaticClarity Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 There are people who are ALWAYS ON and always need to be the center of attention, cracking jokes, and commanding everyone in the room with their jokes and stories. That's called charisma. It's different from charm because it's almost always on because the person has a deep and continuous need for attention. Personally, I find them to be kind of annoying... That's called jealousy. Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 That's called charisma. It's different from charm because it's almost always on because the person has a deep and continuous need for attention. That's called jealousy. You could call it charisma, but you don't have to always hog the spotlight and constantly be on to be charismatic. I'm talking about the same type of guy that if you're talking to him (and you're not an attractive woman), he won't be interested in what you have to say. Because he needs to be the center of attention, always. That's not something I appreciate in people. Those are often also the same kind of people who step over others to get what they want. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 I think humor is one of those things that's required in addition to physical attraction. Being funny without being attractive won't get you anywhere, unless your sense of humor is way above average. Link to post Share on other sites
ptp Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Sure, humor is important, but one can't learn to be funny. Its one of those things that seems innate. Thus, Data could never get or tell jokes. Everybody can't be a stand up comedian. Link to post Share on other sites
ditzchic Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 The issue I see with this is that if you aren't even marginally blown away by his looks, i.e., minimally attracted, would you have even given him a chance to show that you that he could make you laugh? That is, would he even have a chance at getting a chance...? Online? Probably not, honestly. It's happened in real life before though. Actually just happened this past weekend for me. I was at a party and there was a guy there who was quite unfortunate looking. Think Weird Al Yankovick. But he was ridiculously funny, a goofy kind of sarcastic sense of humor. I spent all night talking to him. If he asks, I can't see me saying no to hanging out with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Humor is insanely important, but it doesn't overcome other necessary qualities. What is quite humorous is thinking for even a second that anything that happened with any woman during a weekend in VEGAS is something you can actually learn relationship skills from. What happens in Vegas STAYS in Vegas. Except STDs and pregnancy. It's also funny that you were sending me "I'm not over you" texts while there, and now act like you've got it all figured out. Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Humor is a double edged sword. Its good to inject some humor in a conversation to lighten it up but you have to understand the line between being entertaining and being the entertainer. Its the entertainer that get delegated to the friend zone Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Humor is insanely important, but it doesn't overcome other necessary qualities. What is quite humorous is thinking for even a second that anything that happened with any woman during a weekend in VEGAS is something you can actually learn relationship skills from. What happens in Vegas STAYS in Vegas. Except STDs and pregnancy. It's also funny that you were sending me "I'm not over you" texts while there, and now act like you've got it all figured out. This thread just got a bit more interesting. Online? Probably not, honestly. It's happened in real life before though. Actually just happened this past weekend for me. I was at a party and there was a guy there who was quite unfortunate looking. Think Weird Al Yankovick. But he was ridiculously funny, a goofy kind of sarcastic sense of humor. I spent all night talking to him. If he asks, I can't see me saying no to hanging out with him. Does hang out = make out? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 It's also funny that you were sending me "I'm not over you" texts while there, and now act like you've got it all figured out. Ouch...... Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 It's also funny that you were sending me "I'm not over you" texts while there, and now act like you've got it all figured out. TMI (10 character limit) Link to post Share on other sites
ditzchic Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Does hang out = make out? Ummm. If he had other qualities that I look for in a dateable guy, maybe. It definitely probably wouldn't happen first date but some guys can grow on you. Link to post Share on other sites
Dust Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 It's also funny that you were sending me "I'm not over you" texts while there, and now act like you've got it all figured out. Thats really funny actually! I think he's finaly getting it! Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted January 30, 2012 Share Posted January 30, 2012 Women, your thoughts...? Does humor really increase your attraction towards a man, or is it something you just say...? Is there even an explanation for why humor is so appealing to you? An average man with a great sense of humor? I'll take two. Quickly, I stop seeing him as "average" and my level of attraction skyrockets. In part, I blame early influences. Men in my family were strong, silent, but very funny. Every day living was made more fun and infinitely lighter because of it. Aside from that, who doesn't love to be entertained? Laughing feels good. Just like a deep kiss or a warm hug, a good laugh provided by a man I'm dating radiates through my body. It often demonstrates a playfulness, and depending on the level of humor, an intelligence and flexibility of mind that's downright hot. So hot. YUM! Link to post Share on other sites
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